45 and Pregnant...WHAT???

[TJ Moncur]

It is true...even after we were told it would be an act of God to conceive (low sperm counts). At any rate, we did it. My third child, my husbands first. We are excited beyond words.

Went to the doctor and am amazed at the gloom and doom shed due to, you guessed it, MY AGE!!! I left there feeling sad...couldnt find the heart beat and progestrone levels are lower than the doctor likes to see. The doctor is right, it just may not be a viable pregnancy...but then again I might only be 4 weeks pregnant in which case you will only see the sac via ultra sound, progestrone levels are not completely elevated at this point and we won't see a heart beat for up to a few more weeks. I am glad I have all the information and am optimistic.

I would like to know why progestrone injections are only offered to patients that have went through IVF and not women like me that normally have low range hormones?

Also, whats up with the statistical numbers that are thrown around? Where do they get their numbers? Seriously, I think the statistics of my husband and I conceiving without intervention was probably 94% (haha, pulled that out of my hat, not statistically relevant). One genetic test claimed to be 85% accurate...would anyone abort a baby knowing it would have chromosomal issues on 85%? Not me!!!!!!

So, now that I have been informed of all the BAD stuff...I am focusing on the good...we are having a baby!!!!! A child that will complete us in so many ways. Thank you God for giving us this opportunity.

Tammy

 

[Garnet]

I'm surprised that they did not put you on progestone suppository because it can be a cause for MC if you have low progestone. I started mine on Day 21 and have to continue it until 12 weeks...

 

[mtnprotracy]

Congratulations! Wishing you all the best for a healthy, happy pregnancy! Keep focusing on the good !

 

[Andypanda6570]

I think it is great!!!!
I am soooooooOOOOooooo happy for you. Wishing you all the best for a healthy and happy 9 months!!!
XOXOXO Congrats!!

 

[Sewergrrl]

Congratulations!!!

 

[Nrs2772]

You are only four weeks and they looked for a heartbeat? At my doctors office they do not look for the heartbeat until around 12 weeks because my doctor told me it can be very difficult to find early in pregnancy and he saw no need to worry any mother to be.

 

[vintage67]

In older moms, they look for signs of viability much earlier due to the high rate of miscarriage/blighted ovums. I am 44 and lost 3 pregnancies between the ages of 42-43.

 

[Dorian]

Congrats TJ!! Just ignore the gloom and doom, and enjoy being pg. Good wishes for a healthy baby!

 

[CeeDee]

Congratulations!

 

[vintage67]

The grimmest statistics are still on older mom's sides.

 

[Torontogal]

Congratulations on your little miracle! I echo everyone saying ignore the gloom and doom stuff, the odds are still in your favour and you have already beaten the odds to get here. will keep my fingers crossed for you.

BTW my great-grandma had my granddad at 45, her one and only child, and he was in perfect health all his life until his passing at 86. 45 is not too old!

 

[Ferne]

Congrats!

 

[macutie45]

Congratulations!!!!!

 

[suzimc]

Your doctor sounds like a right eegit, congratulations and good luck! xxx

 

[GMATP 2011]

Wonderful! May God Bless you and your husband with a happy and healthy pregnancy and baby!

Oh, by the way our specialist does not check for a heartbeat until 6.5 to 7 weeks.

 

[mumof3girls]

Don't worry about what they say they are usually wrong, I was told it would be almost impossible to have kids due to really bad endometriosis (at 18 they said this) I got pregnant at 19, they told me she was a Miracle and that it would be almost impossible to conceive again, I was 26 when baby #2 arrived, then they said because I had had 2 kids my endometriosis should be completely gone, wrong again so they tell me I'm getting too old to have more so I should stop anyway but they think I won't be able to conceive again anyway so not to try. At 34 I get pregnant with #3 they tell me u have had 3 c-sections you need to stop now and your too old to have more anyway, also endo will fix itself (again) lol I'm now 38 and am pregnant with # 4 and they told me to give up on that cycle and think about ivf if I really want a child, I didn't give up and was pregnant at the end of that cycle!! Find another doctor Hun they really can't make a statement like that when your only about 4 weeks, were u charting at all that cycle? Do u know how far along u may be? If not then it's a waiting game but keep your chin up and hope for the very best for you and your little sticky bean
Congratulations x

 

[BeachComber]

Welcome and Congrats!! They should have put you on progesterone. I would find a new doctor and insist that this be done. I never went through IVF but was given progesterone suppositories with my third child due to low levels.

 

[marmar]

Congrats!

 

[annmaries]

hello everyone,im new here.im just wondering if its possible to become pregnant at 41?i was thinking naturaly thankyou

 

[Dorian]

Hello Annmarie,

I am 41 and have gotten pregnant naturally there are a LOT of women who do. So have fun trying