6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!

[Nataliek]

Congrats Amanda! Wonderful news, just what you need!
@Smiler, glad you are back!!!

I have been having a really hard time the past week, it seems to have all hit me now. I am still spotting from getting my first period last week so I am praying it stops soon so I can start moving on. I am trying to cope with what happened day by day but hating the fact that I have to wait until June to try again. Even though I know my body needs it both mentally and physically.

 

[amanda111308]

Congrats Amanda! Wonderful news, just what you need!
@Smiler, glad you are back!!!

I have been having a really hard time the past week, it seems to have all hit me now. I am still spotting from getting my first period last week so I am praying it stops soon so I can start moving on. I am trying to cope with what happened day by day but hating the fact that I have to wait until June to try again. Even though I know my body needs it both mentally and physically.

Take as much time as you need to grieve Natalie. I am still emotional over my loss from back in September. I would be preparing to have my baby at the end of this month. Even though the new house is a great distraction, it still doesn't take all the pain away it will happen for all of us soon. We will all get our sticky bfps this year!! It's a mission!!!

 

[emmahobbsie]

hello,
I dont want to butt in but you have described exactly how I feel.
I feel like i've done my time being happy for everyone else, for all my friends that are on their 3rd child and for those that werent even trying. Its so disheartening to know that we put our heart and soul into creating a perfect life and it to be snatched away while they weren't attempting it and fly through pregnancy :'(
I am insterested about the soy iso flavens too! I have VERY irregular cycles (3 maybe 4 a year), so do you think it would make any difference if i was to take it?
I have to take provera for my hycosy next month, so do you think i can take it with that?
Thankyou!
Love & positivity

 

[kmoshe2]

I have not been temping. I have tried to use opk, although not for this cycle. I really don't know when I ovulated. What shocks me is that I got pregnant the month after getting off of birth control in August. Now that we are trying, it has been difficult. And this is the first month with spotting (not enough to need a pad).

 

[LeahLou]

Congrats on the house Amanda!! That's our goal for next year. Fx we have a new baby or one in the making to add to it!

Still testing here.. 10 dpo and faint annoying lines on wondfos

I've been feeling down too girls. We would've been getting ready for baby next week. Surreal to think about. But what's meant to be will be. Still sucks

 

[MrsKitty]

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[kmoshe2]

Thank you, MrsKitty. I am on day 29 of my cycle.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Smiler79]

We'll spoke to hubby again about ttc and he is still adamant we should take a break. As I said before I guess I know in my head it is probably off the best with my depression but I should have been getting ready for meeting my baby next month and not sure how I am going to cope with due date if I am not pregnant again and not even ttc.

I am convinced depression will get worse if we stop ttc but hubby thinks it will help.
Got counselling on Monday so will probably talk it through with counsellor although by then I think I will have missed ovulation as think it wil be in next day or two based on my opks xx

 

[Anniebobs]

Smiler once you miss ovulation it does get easier. I used to get so down in the tww and when AF showed but when you're not ttc you sort of see AF as a good thing, my cycle got longer and AF got heavier which made me think it was worth a short ttc break. I wasn't ttc or pregnant on my due date and though it was hard it wasn't as awful as I was expecting. You feel more free once that date isn't hovering over you any more.

 

[Smiler79]

Thanks Anniebobs. I need some advice from those of you who have used opks. I know w are not really ttc at moment but I am using oks just to get a n idea of when in my cycle I am ovulating
. Never used them before and I am confused.

Last wi days I have had quite strong lines but not as strong as control line so was expecting to see positive line today or tomorrow. However today's test had virtually no line at all. Thought might be a dud strip so did another one and still the same. Does this mean I haven't actually ovulated or do you think one of the stronger lines might have been day I ovulated.

Any advice greatly appreciated as am stressing myself out now xxx

 

[Anniebobs]

It's possible you missed your surge. I always took my opks first thing because I drink a lot of water during the day so when you're supposed to take it (11am-3pmish is supposed to be best) my urine would be too dilute so my lines would never be strong enough. I know people who would take a couple throughout the day to make sure they got their surge. Anyway I'm rambling, what I'm trying to say is that yes you probably have ovulated already but just haven't picked it up on opk. I'd suggest still taking opks for the next few days just to make sure but guessing that you've ovulated 12-36 hours after your darkest opk.

 

[kelly1973]

hi ladies well I did get my positive but didn't really like to say as so many of you was down from getting bfn and it didn't seem right of me well im back as I have started bleeding today yet another miscarriage not sure I can do this anymore

 

[Nataliek]

I am sorry I haven't been more supportive to everyone on here lately, I am really just trying to cope day by day. One of my friends, not super close, just started trying for her second and she is pregnant. I was feeling fine and then since I found out have been crying all night. It's still so fresh, only 3 weeks tomorrow since the medication. I feel like I should be moving on from this and feeling better. Every day does get easier but today is just not a good day.

@Kelly I am so sorry to hear this, are you bleeding heavily? I had bleeding with my son and thought I was miscarrying but I didn't. Try not to worry just yet.

 

[kelly1973]

thanks nataliek no it has stopped but I have pains in my tummy all the time and I haven't a great track history.
im sorry you are feeling so sad I have the same a close friend of ours is pregnant and due the next day of when my last loss would of been due all she does is moan on facebook I feel like screaming at her at times we will get what we want eventually im sure we just have to work abit harder at it xxx massive hugs to you

 

[MrsKitty]

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[kelly1973]

I have a scan on Tuesday at 10.20 but deep down I know its the end

 

[Nataliek]

MrsKitty thank you so much for your words, they truly are a huge help. I feel like sometimes this is the only support I have as no one truly understands the depths of what we are struggling with. I am feeling a bit better this morning, its a beautiful day, going to try and hit the gym. How are you feeling?

@Kelly, I am so sorry you going through this. Can you go get your bloodwork done? are you in fertility treatment?

 

[MrsKitty]

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[amanda111308]

This cycle I am not temping or using opks. I am just going to have sex when I actually want to. My husband is supportive of this as I would rather not be extra stressed right now. Things are not going so well at work and I just need to make things in my life balance a little better. Ttc is still important but it is just not on my priority list this month. I will still be around to cheer you all on but this month I need an emotional and physical break from this race.