6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!

[MrsKitty]

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[kelly1973]

I feel the same when it comes to age feel like im against the clock all the time. Im not on any fertility treatment but now ive had 3 miscarriages I can get some tests to see what is going on,last time it took my body 3 months to get back on track

 

[Nataliek]

@Mrskitty I remember last November when I had a chemical in October and we couldn't BD because my husband was on shift during one of my fertile days. I actually asked him to call in sick from work. It's totally normal you're feeling that way so try not to feel too guilty. We feel the same re: timing. I have two children and my husband is 41, we don't want to do this for years and years and we won't. I have been thinking lately of facing moving on and it makes me sad, but trying to stay positive that it will happen. Have you thought of doing IUI? We really put pressure on ourselves to BD and because of our two losses and now ectopic, there is no question we will move straight to treatment. We don't want the added stress of timed sex and optimal trying time, we just want to know were getting things done at the exact time. If I hadn't had the losses it would be a different story. Maybe IUI could be a good option for you guys.

@Amanda I have a really busy work schedule until the third week in May, I am travelling quite a bit. I am glad for a break but sad I have to wait. I know I need it though. It will probably make you feel rejuvenated and ready to try again after a nice break.

We BD tonight for the first time in over 4 weeks after I had the ectopic. I had pain on my right side which scared me. The doctor said it would be normal because I am healing but sex was safe. I think I will wait another few weeks to try that again.

@Kelly I am so sorry you are going through this. It's so painful and sad, I hope you get some answers really soon.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[kelly1973]

hi mrs kitty im ok dreading scan tomorrow as once they tell me I know then its over im clinging onto the dream of maybe its all ok but deep down I know its not. I hope you ladies are ok

 

[Nataliek]

Oh Kelly, I know how you are feeling. I wish you weren't going through this, what time is your scan? Are you still spotting/bleeding?

MrsKitty, our clinic only guarantees at 18% success rate for IUI. However, that's for couples that have unexplained or couples that have say a 2% chance of conceiving naturally. We have no trouble getting pregnant, it's apparently just staying that way. Theoretically IUI should work for us if not the first try, maybe the 2nd or 3rd. I honestly feel like we have tried naturally, it took us first month to get pregnant and I lost at 5 weeks. We tried again, first try after that and I lost again only this time two days after I found out I was PG, 4 weeks. Then we didn't actively try again until December 2013 and we got pregnant in February, only that was the ectopic. This is why I am so against trying naturally again, it's obviously not working so will try this and I will go on injections and progesterone. How many losses have you had? My doctor told me women do IUI all the time under circumstances like their husbands travel a lot and they are never around for ovulation and all sorts of various reasons. It might be a welcomed break for you, to know you don't have to add the pressure of timed sex. Just a thought, it might help you feel a little more control of things.

 

[amanda111308]

How much is iui?

 

[LeahLou]

What is iui? Sorry if it's a dumb question. I don't know much about fertility treatments other than Clomid. I didn't think we'd be in this place so I guess I should get informed!
Sorry everyone's having such a rough time. All I want is everyone's rainbows!

 

[Nataliek]

@amanda it's covered by Ohip in Canada if you are in fertility treatment. We sought treatment for our two chemicals as we didn't want I waste years doing this because my husband is 41 and both of us have agreed 1-2 years tops. We just wanted to see if there were any underlying problems etc before we started trying again. Cycle monitoring costs very from clinic to clinic but mine was 225 for the entire year. You could even just do cycle monitoring and bd exactly when they tell you to, it's crazy what they can do! If you are doing a medicated cycle ( which we are to hopefully get two more mature eggs) you have to pay for the drugs on top, or you can do a natural cycle. It's 350 for the washing of the sperm sample before the procedure. So in total for us, 225 for one time cycle monitoring fee, 350 for the gonal f injections (but that's covered by benefits) and 350 for the sperm wash. But after the one time cycle monitoring fee it's just 350 for the sperm wash each time you do the procedure. We got in to our clinic within a month of putting through our referral and I love it. I wouldn't do this under the care of our family physician given what I have now experienced. However it's almost like I know too much lol.

@leah IUI is intrauterine insemination. They wash the sperm and inseminate into the very top part of the uterus close to the tubes at the right timing for ovulation. They monitor your ovaries for mature follicles and can tell when you will release your egg. If you don't release it on your own, they can give you a trigger shot to do it and then they inseminate. Im practically a scientist now!!!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Smiler79]

Kelly how did your scan go? Been thinking of you today x x

 

[amanda111308]

I thin Kelly's scan went well. On another thread she updated saying she measured approx 6 weeks and a heartbeat was seen glad everything is looking up for her.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[kelly1973]

hi ladies sorry I didn't updaye yesterday was in complete shock there was a heartbeat I was gobsmacked early days so lots of rest is it ok to stay on this thread as id love to keep updated on you ladies xxx

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

Kelly, please stay! Mrskitty is right, we need some positivity on here! So very happy everything went well xo

 

[kelly1973]

thankyou so much ladies id love to stay I think you guys are ace xx

 

[Anniebobs]

Congratulations Kelly!

I started spotting brown last night so ended up with a scan this morning. Was not expecting anything but there was a heartbeat and the smudge was measuring 3.5mm which is right around 6 1/2 weeks. I honestly thought it was all over, that's how my other mcs started, I can't quite believe it.

 

[Smiler79]

Glad both you lovely ladies had good scan results x x

I am really confused at moment. Aside from the fact that hubby said he wanted to give ttc a break but isn't bring careful !!

My body is completely confusing me too. I used opks for first time this month. I got a couple of dark but not completely positive lines but then straight to a completely negative test. Now I am cd17(day 1 being 1st day of af) of a usual 26 day cycle and I am getting what feels like ovulation pains. I used to get them every month before the miscarriage when I wasn't on pill but haven't had them at all since miscarriage.

I don't know what to think. Could I be ovulating really late or could the pains be something completely different ?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

 

[Anniebobs]

Are you still taking opks? You could be ovulating late, the body does some strange things after mc, you could have been hearing up to ov but then didn't and you're doing it now. Or it could have been a long surge. I've heard of people ovulating up to 5 days after a positive opk but they only knew because they were temping.