6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!

[Nataliek]

Thanks, Amanda! I feel the same. I was thinking I have things going on in June, July and the months are never going to be perfect so I am not over thinking it I'm just going for it.

I know, Leah. It's so very hard, you will get your bfp soon enough!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

That's the thing Mrs Kitty, I am away next week in Vancouver (work) and then my travel stops for awhile but I still have meetings to juggle etc. The timing is never going to be completely perfect and we made a commitment to this so it just has to be something that I need factor into the mix. I won't lie, I am tired this morning and it's only Monday! lol

When are you due to test Mrs. Kitty?

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Anniebobs]

Leah I never managed to get my bfp before the due date. It was hard but honestly once that had passed it felt like a weight was lifted, it is such a pressure we put on ourselves for no reason! I was lucky that I fell the following month but I think it had a lot to do with me being more relaxed about when it would happen.

 

[LeahLou]

Thanks for the comfort ladies it is some weird pressure we put on ourselves. Still hard. I've always wanted a spring or summer baby so I guess if AF shows in the next day or 2, we'll get a shot at that in a couple months DH is a rock for me! He's so positive. I told him to shut up last night though cause I have to let out my emotions out and be sad every now and then

 

[Nataliek]

That's the thing Mrs Kitty, I am away next week in Vancouver (work) and then my travel stops for awhile but I still have meetings to juggle etc. The timing is never going to be completely perfect and we made a commitment to this so it just has to be something that I need factor into the mix. I won't lie, I am tired this morning and it's only Monday! lol

When are you due to test Mrs. Kitty?

Are you away travelling for long with work Natalie? Sounds as if you have a very busy workload. Yeah it never will be perfect and really for most of us we can not time it. I am sure whatever you decide will be right for you. I never knew in the beginning how much ttc would take over my life

I am only 2dpo, so I think I will try hold off till 12dpo. My chart shows I ovulated at cd11 (though I have not been temping just opk and obs) and had positive opks cd10 and 11. We bd 10 and 12 but not 11 which is typical but still hopeful as it was evening on 10 and morning and 12. Only thing concerns me is I did not notice much ewcm. I keep thinking I should temp again as will know if ovulating but it stressed me when I did it before.

When do you have to decide to go ahead with IUI? I think I may consider this if nothing happens in a few months.

We decided to move forward with it almost as soon as we got our intitial test results back. We had two chemicals and my husband is 40 and I know I am only 33 but I have children and neither one of us wants to do this past 1-2 years. We really wanted to try and accelerate the process with IUI if possible. After the two losses the timed sex was so stressful and it was exhausting both of us, my husband is also a fireman and his work schedule sometimes prevents optimal trying. I know what you mean about temping, I have never done it. I think it would just be something to add to the stress. I can pretty much pinpoint when the best times to have sex are, I get every ovulation symptom in the book. I think it could be a really viable option for you, you might want to look into it. Are you in treatment or just naturally trying? I am doing an unmedicated cycle as we were too late in the cycle to try the injections, I am sort of happy I am doing it naturally this time around.

I was at the clinic bright and early for cycle monitoring today, I am cycle day 11 and I have a 13mm follicle on my right ovary. It has to be between 18-22mm to ovulate so I have tomorrow off and back in on Wednesday and then likely every day until Friday or Saturday. They give you what they call a trigger shot to release your egg and then they do the IUI. It's all happening fast as we hadn't planned on starting again until the end of the month but, its what we want so why delay? I am a little worried because Im going to ovulate from the same side as I had the ectopic, though the doctor has told me not to panic, I have a 90% chance I won't have another one. Just worries me that the egg won't make it and get stuck in any scar tissue from the site of the ectopic. Anyway Im rambling lol. I have about 4-5 trips a year for work, these recent ones just happen to be back to back. A friend of mine is coming with me to Vancouver and I think she is slightly disappointed I won't be indulging in our standard cocktails as I am having this done right before we go lol. Oh well, it will all be worth it if it works!

@Leah hang in there hunny, I know its emotionally draining and hard. It will be our time soon enough!!

 

[amanda111308]

Hey ladies... I am worried. I have no symptoms at all... I didn't have many with the pregnancy I lost last time as well. I can't get it out of my head that this will just end in loss too... I hate to whine since I have what I have wanted for so long but I need advice on how to stop worrying... May 29th feels SO far away... I just want to see that heartbeat and hear some good news.

 

[Baby.Love12]

Congrats Amanda. Im sure everything is fine. Cant wait to see more bfps

 

[Smiler79]

Amanda. I know what you mean. Apart from being more tired than usual I do t have any symptoms either. I have got one more week til scan when I will be 7 weeks but I am really tempted to see if they can move it forward. However I am worried that if I have scan too early big will be too early to see heartbeat and thst will just increase my anxiety

 

[Anniebobs]

Good luck for this week Natalie, sounds like it's all go at the moment!

Amanda and smiler don't worry about no symptoms, mine were minimal until 6 weeks then I started with morning sickness. I know it's easier said than done though because I seem to be better this week and I'm panicking my ms has gone too soon! You'd think I'd have chilled out a bit after 2 good scans but no!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

Yes, @Amanda and Smiler, MrsKitty is right. 6 weeks is typical when your beta is over 1000. The only symptoms I ever had early were bad pms! When I was pregnant with my son, wow look out lol. Once I hit 6 weeks I couldn't even drink coffee I was so ill. Try not to worry, you are very hyper aware of everything that is going on because of your losses, I am the same.

 

[amanda111308]

Thanks for all your kind and encouraging words ladies. I am just so afraid of history repeating itself. My husband is babying me like crazy! He always wants me to rest and not lift a thing haha but he will find all too quickly I will have to do some as we are moving into our house next month. I'll be 10 weeks then.. Provided all goes well... April has been a good month. I am so thankful

 

[Smiler79]

I have reached 6 weeks although until scan that doesn't mean anything so reached 7 weeks before but baby had groped developing at 5 weeks. I have been feeling slightly nauseas when hungry today and stil very tired but still no other symptoms . I know I will be moaning if and when I get them but at then moment I would be happy to have every symptom going if it meant baby was ok xx

 

[amanda111308]

I have reached 6 weeks although until scan that doesn't mean anything so reached 7 weeks before but baby had groped developing at 5 weeks. I have been feeling slightly nauseas when hungry today and stil very tired but still no other symptoms . I know I will be moaning if and when I get them but at then moment I would be happy to have every symptom going if it meant baby was ok xx

I feel completely the same way. I will gladly suffer for a healthy baby at this point.

 

[Nataliek]

I'm grouchy! I just spoke to another lady on a different thread and she said it seems so early after you had the medication to be trying again. So it occurred to me that the nurses and everyone said it has to be 3 months before trying after methotrexate. My re told me two periods, repeat sono and then try again. I was lucky in the fact that I got my period right away after my betas dropped to negative and when I called to talk to the nurse, she said I could consider that my first period. So I did, just had my other period, had my tubes tested and the doctor who did my sono on Friday said I was all clear to try again. I just called today to make sure it was all safe as I am under the 3 month mark and the nurse spoke to the doctor on duty and she said she would rather I wait one more period as it's too early. I made an appointment for May 22 to speak with my primary RE about our plans for next cycle. I'm so grumpy!! I know in the grand scheme of things it's just another few weeks but i hate being told conflicting things. Sorry for the vent but I was so geared up to go for it this week.

 

[amanda111308]

I'm grouchy! I just spoke to another lady on a different thread and she said it seems so early after you had the medication to be trying again. So it occurred to me that the nurses and everyone said it has to be 3 months before trying after methotrexate. My re told me two periods, repeat sono and then try again. I was lucky in the fact that I got my period right away after my betas dropped to negative and when I called to talk to the nurse, she said I could consider that my first period. So I did, just had my other period, had my tubes tested and the doctor who did my sono on Friday said I was all clear to try again. I just called today to make sure it was all safe as I am under the 3 month mark and the nurse spoke to the doctor on duty and she said she would rather I wait one more period as it's too early. I made an appointment for May 22 to speak with my primary RE about our plans for next cycle. I'm so grumpy!! I know in the grand scheme of things it's just another few weeks but i hate being told conflicting things. Sorry for the vent but I was so geared up to go for it this week.

Aww wtf? I hate being told different facts to that completely contradict one another! I am so pissed for you! Sorry this happened to you

I found there was a lot of contradictory info given to me when I first had my son. It's total crap!

 

[Nataliek]

It is complete crap, you don't know what to believe or think. I just spoke with my friend that had years and years of struggle and she used to go to the clinic I went to and she left for the very reason I am considering switching. If we are not successful with this iui next cycle I think we will look into switching. How are you feeling Amanda?

 

[LeahLou]

I got conflicting answers too after my d&c last October. One doc said she thought I had an undetected/undiagnosed molar pregnancy and it should've been taken care of after the d&c but not to try for 6 months after. Then another said try after 2 periods and the nurse said till you feel like it. Of course I switched doctors because if it had been a molar, I might've needed more treatment! My rule of thumb is no matter what, go with your gut especially when you're getting conflicting answers