6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!

[Anniebobs]

Hi mrs w :wave: I jumped over from our other group too when it seemed like everyone I'd started with in there got their bfps. Luckily I came over here and got it right away and now it looks like I'm finally getting my rainbow. Really hope the same happens for you.

 

[kelly1973]

hi anniebobs how are you I just looked at your ticker hope you don't mind me asking I noticed you had 3 miscarriages was thery all around 6 weeks including your mmc

 

[Anniebobs]

hi anniebobs how are you I just looked at your ticker hope you don't mind me asking I noticed you had 3 miscarriages was thery all around 6 weeks including your mmc

Hi Kelly, the mmc was at 13 weeks after hearing the heartbeat at 8&9 weeks. By the time I got scanned there was only a deflated sac left but they guessed it ended around 9-10 weeks when my symptoms stopped. I conceived straight away after my d&c and had only known a week before I started bleeding so must have been around 5 weeks then a few cycles later had a chemical so I was just over 4 weeks for that one. Had all the basic testing done and seems they were completely random but am now on aspirin anyway which seems to be working.

 

[Mrs W 11]

Thanks for the welcomes ladies!

Annie, thrilled you've got your rainbow x

 

[kelly1973]

thanks anniebobs thanks for that hope you don't mind me asking exactly the same as me so gives me hope xxx
well I got a plus opk today but im still spotting im very confused I will see if I get a temp rise or not

 

[Nataliek]

Hi Girls! I am so sorry I haven't had two seconds to catch up on the posts, this week has been nuts! We are leaving for South Carolina first thing tomorrow morning and things exploded at work, naturally. Why does that stuff always happen before vacation??? I am not going to be on the week I am away, I don't want to think about TTC at all. I am due to ovulate next Friday and we are trying on our own but Im not taking OPK's and I am not even stressing about sex. I don't want our vacation focused on that.

I hope you girls are doing ok, I will check in as soon as I am back!!! xoxox

 

[kelly1973]

Hi Girls! I am so sorry I haven't had two seconds to catch up on the posts, this week has been nuts! We are leaving for South Carolina first thing tomorrow morning and things exploded at work, naturally. Why does that stuff always happen before vacation??? I am not going to be on the week I am away, I don't want to think about TTC at all. I am due to ovulate next Friday and we are trying on our own but Im not taking OPK's and I am not even stressing about sex. I don't want our vacation focused on that.

I hope you girls are doing ok, I will check in as soon as I am back!!! xoxox

hi nat have a great vacation see you when you get back fab idea to jjst chill about the whole thing it will do you the world of good xxxxxxxx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Have a brilliant holiday Natalie, enjoy and relax xx

 

[Anniebobs]

Have a great time nat!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[brighteyez73]

Hello everyone,
Its been six months since MC and I have not been able to get pregnant. I don't know what I am doing wrong.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Mrs W 11]

^^ I feel the same ladies. Got preg with my dd and the mmc baby very easily. I never ever dreamt it would take this long to get another bfp. I take it quite hard every month when af arrives. I don't know how much longer I can do this

 

[Ltruns33]

We are going on 1 year since miscarriage, which is so depressing I apologize! We have moved onto IUI. It doesn't feel like a year. The due date was hard..but when it first happened I remember thinking what in the world would I do if it took another year. And here we are. Once the due date passed it was like a relief, no more pressure no "tick tock" feeling! I hope you all conceive again soon. It's so hard after a loss.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Smiler79]

Hi ladies. Those of you that already have babies/children, do you find you are more protective of them since the miscarriages? I have been going for job interviews over the last few weeks and got one this morning. Today's one is perfect as it is in a school two min walk from my flat and is the school Imogen will most likely go to in September 2015. However they are looking for someone to work five database week and I can't bear the thought of putting Imogen in nursery every day. I only have another yr and she will be at school. I am really torn between needing the money and being away from Imogen. I guess I am scAred that I may never get to have another baby (Imogen is a rainbow baby herself) and I don't want to miss anytime with her as may never get to do any of these things again .

Sorry for depressing message first thing in the morning. Do any of you feel like this ior am I just being irrational?

 

[Anniebobs]

Smiler I went through that a bit. I work from home so do 4 long days a week without dd, I was working more (I had another job 3 days a week so had to work from home evenings and weekends) when I lost the first baby and then cut my hours. I couldn't go without working though, we need the money and I think it's good for us to spend time apart so that the time we have together is more memorable. We have fun Fridays together then family weekends. And almost every evening we go for a walk somewhere after tea.

I think you should be really proud of getting the job and focus on what you'll be able to do in the school holidays with her rather than the one year you'll be spending term time without her. Long term you'd actually end up with more time together than if you had a normal job (not term time).

 

[Smiler79]

Thank you Annie bobs that has made me feel a bit better. I think the interview went well and should find out one way or other today as they have said they will ring the successful person tonight and others will here via letter on a day or two so if I don't get a phone call then I will know before letter arrives.

I have decided to trust in God and his plan for me. I have been finding this tough too but over last few weeks I have felt His presence probably more than I have ever done before so I am trusting that if I am meant to work full tome then I will get this job and if it isn't meant to be then I won't get it but something better will be just around the corner.

Having this same faith about the baby issue though is a lot harder ;-) do any of you other ladies have a faith that has helped you through these difficult times ? Xxxxx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Smiler I feel exactly the same way. I've been doing 3 days a week for the last year since I went back after maternity leave and I was recently offered a big pay rise and a promotion if I went up to 4 days a week. I was very torn (still am) as the time with my little girl is so precious but ultimately I've decided I need a focus away from ttc and so I've accepted the job. I hope and pray ill have another years may leave before she goes to school and I have to believe everything that has happened has been for a reason.

I also plan to make our Fridays, weekends and evenings special so she has loads of wonderful memories. It helps that she adores nursery. Xx

Ltruns I'm sorry for your loss. Best of luck with the iui. Have you paid privately for that, have they identified a reason for you not conceiving?

Similar for you kitty, are you considering ivf because you have a known issue?

Xx

 

[kelly1973]

hi ladies, mrs kitty my 2nd miscarriage due date is july 3rd so know how your feeling I just want it over so I can move on a good friend of my oh is due on the 4th so it makes it so hard don't get me wrong I am so happy for them but part of me says why couldn't that of been me too, time is ticking for me too. what does clomid do?
smiler I really hope you get the job I understand how you feel but at the same time I think it will do you the world of good does that make sense?
afm well im temping etc but trying not to think too much and be more relaxed as hard as it is I did actually ovulate this cycle so not sure whats going on this end