A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Emmediva]

Hi girls, I'm sorry I've been MIA but I've been so depressed and things just took a turn for the worse, I started spotting more than before and now I've started to cramp. I'm pretty sure I'm losing my baby I am crushed, I don't know if I'm strong enough to go through this again Why does it have to be so hard for us that truly want a baby? Why do we have to face so many damn obstacles? It's just not fair that it's so easy for some and so hard for others... I may take some time and just stick to my journal y'all, I feel too depressed and angry right now I'll be back when I get over this. to all of you

 

[notoptimistic]

Emme- that's terrible news. I'm so sorry to hear this. Please know I'm thinking of you tonight and hoping your doctor will figure out what's going wrong and fix it so this doesn't happen again.

 

[Sooperhans]

Just popping on quickly and have seen Emme's post...oh sweetheart I am so sorry to hear things have got worse and I'm pissed off that this happens to good people!! I hope somehow the worst isn't happening, pls let us know once you have found out and by all means vent your anger on here, if you can face staying on the thread. I'm thinking of you hun xxx

 

[Madeline]

Emme I am so so sorry i can't believe you are having to go through this again. I am thinking of you xxx


Madeline xxx

 

[Ladyfog]

Emme - FX and lots of for you.

 

[Neversaynever]

Emme...just lots of you have every right to be pissed off and angry...massive if you can't face being in here that's ok..everyone will be thinking of you and sending you

XxX

 

[lexi374]

Emme im so sorry hun, thinking of you...

 

[wookie130]

Emme...have you been to the doctor yet? I'm not trying to give you false hope at all, but perhaps all is not lost at this point. Scary stuff can happen in the first tri, as you already know.

That being said, if you are indeed losing another baby, I am so terribly sorry. I think that's just awful, and please know that we are all here for you in any way we possibly can be.

 

[dodgercpkl]

Totally agree with wookie!

Emme - I hope you aren't losing your baby and that this is just a scare. If it's not, then as Never and a few other ladies have said, you have every right to feel angry and we'll very much understand if you can't bear to be on the thread. Just know that we'll be here supporting you no matter what ok?

 

[Sooperhans]

Wookie, Dodger, Never, everyone well said, we are here Emme if you need us xxx

I just came back from the pharmacy girls and now I feel worried. I bought some cb digis on offer in Boots and also some more low level aspirin, as agreed by my doc. The woman behind the counter (not a pharacist) completely kicked up a fuss about taking aspirin if you are pregnant and wouldn't let me buy them. When I said my doc is aware, she went to check and came back with a look like I was a piece of crap. She said "as long as you know the risks", as if it were crack cocaine and I've been told by my doc that the benefits outweigh the risks. Now I'm worried about taking them! I was so embarrassed with a queue full of people watching. I half mumbled that I've actually had miscarriages and I may need them to help me but she still looked at me with disgust. I'm really annoyed and upset. I had a friend with me, she told me to not worry and listen to the docs...anyone else taking aspirin out of interest? Thanks x

 

[lexi374]

Soop there seems to be a lot of ladies on bnb taking aspirin, i am not, i asked prof q about it and she said to me the latest studies showed it didnt not help and that some people did worse on it, she was annoyed because it had blown 20 years of research out the window. Its your call hun. Have you ever been tested for any clotting issues??

I think you asked me before if id told many people, ive told exactly the same people every time, my parents, my boss cos of having time off, my bf that i work with and another bf (both of which that are preg at the mo). Dh never tells anyone hes never mentioned any of this to his parents, i said i didnt mind but he didnt want to. The only people he told was after mc num 3 we were supposed to meet up with his bf and new wife just bk from honeymoon, they dont live around here anymore but were home for weekend. Anyway he went on his own and told them what had happened, i think it did him good to finally talk to someone about it all. We all need to get stuff of our chest from time to time and he is a typical bloke that doesnt talk about stuff/feelings.

On a brighter note i finally found the heartbeat this morning! Its was in the 160's, had it for a good few seconds before i lost it again. Told dh when he got home that id bought doppler and he said oh god here we go and started going off on 1, i said chill out ive had it for 2 days and i found the heartbeat today. I still think he thinks its a bad idea. I know hes pretty stressed at mork at the mo as well which doesnt help, theyve lost a big contract so lost a lot of work!

Hi dodger and welcome hun

Hi to everyone else

 

[Sooperhans]

Thanks Lexi, no tests but on my last loss hb and I did loads of research and when I put it to my doc she said I could take that and progesterone, because I was showing low levels at the epu. When Prof Q said people did worse, did it actually cause losses then? Did she say no to use it? It's strange how they had 20 yrs of evidence then one study blows it all out of the water, wonder how the test environment was different to before? I'm unsure now....

I think it's nice you have told people, I bet everyone was made up for you. And it's good that dh spoke about it previously in the end. I'm sorry he's lost a contract, business is tough now everywhere it seems, boo. So pleased you found a heartbeat, so pleased for you.

Don't think I actually said hi properly to you Dodge...welcome here xxx

 

[BeachChica]

Emme - Sending you lots of hugs and prayers that everything with be OK. I had some girls in another thread have some spotting and everything is fine now so I hope that's the case for you. Its hard not to worry though after experiencing losses.

Sooper - I take baby aspirin and have been for some time. I asked my RE about it and he said that the low dose is fine. He also said that they benefits outweigh the risks. There are lots of girls on BB that take them but its totally up to you. Every doctor feels differently about things, even progesterone, some docs don't believe in it.

 

[lexi374]

Soop thanks hun

Yes she did say not to use it and i had thought about going against that but didnt in the end. I cant really answer your questions because i didnt really question her on it, im assuming it wasnt just 1 little study thats made them change their mind. At my appointment at the rmc clinic before i saw prof q the doc there said there was no proof it helped but i could take it if i wanted. I dunno hun sorry i cant really help you much.

 

[Nicki123]

Oh Emme, I am so sorry you're having to go through this.... I really really hope its not what you're thinking, but if it is then all I can do is send you a massive and let you know I'm thinking about you. Come and visit us here whenever you're up to it and I'll be sure to stop by your journal and see how you're doing.

Dodge, so sorry for your losses but hopefully you'll get some comfort from this group. It is great that you can get tests now. I had tests after my third, they didn't reveal anything so no answers but this gives me hope that if we just keep trying things will work out at some point.

Soop, I have wondered so much about taking baby aspirin. I know a lady who had 3 mcs and now has a healthy baby boy and swears it was thanks To baby aspirn. Loads of other doctors seem to prescribe it willy nilly. My dr however won't, he sent me for the tests to see if I had the blood clotting condition, and when that came back clear he said there was no reason. He said the only thing safe to take in pregnancy was paracetamol and so he couldn't recommend it unless there was a reason I.e blood clotting. I have decided to follow his advice for now BUT if, heaven forbid, I have another mc I think the time after I will give it a whirl. It so hard to know what to do isn't it with so much conflicting advice out there.

X

 

[August79]

Soop, I wanted to chime on your question about taking aspirin. I have had two m/cs around the 5/6 week mark of development. The circumstances were a little different with each but that is when the baby stopped developing.

In my current pregnancy, I went to the doctor at 6w6d and we had a healthy heart beat (I had saw a heart beat with my second but it was right around the 6 week mark ). My doctor started me on progesterone (200 mg twice daily) and also low dose aspirin that day. I am now 21w2d pregnant and expecting a little girl. Can I swear that it was the progesterone and aspirin that made the difference? No. Has it hurt anything? Not that I have experienced. He has over 20 years experience and feels that the potential benefits outweigh the risk. I hope this helps

I follow this thread and am cheering for all of ya'll. I know how hard it is and wish nothing but the best for all of the strong, beautiful, loving women on this thread.

 

[littlemisscie]

We were TTC #1 but after 2 loses we're going back to NTNP/WTT

 

[patiently]

Emme i am so so so sorry hun its so unfair It really pisses me off that these things happen. I totally understand this thread being too much but we are all here for you. Be strong lovely lady sending lots of hugs across to you...xx

Soop sorry hun i have no idea about baby asprin have heard its good then have heard its not so good so im not sure...I think go with your gut feeling...xx

Lexi happy 11 weeks...2nd tri is just around the corner. Hope you're ok hun. When is your next scan again? Yay for finding the heartbeat! So thrilled for you hun. xxxx

Dodge welcome to the thread and im so sorry for your losses. I hope that all the pregnancy hormones are out of your system i know all too well about something being dragged out as i had an ectopic and after much craziness it took 8 weeks for my hcg to go down, and i still had to wait or it to leave my system even after i had surgery to remove the pregnancy and my left tube. Thats fantastic that you will get testing. Hope all goes well and either way that the news will help in some way to give you your bfp. Even if they dont see anything medically challenging it could just be bad luck. GL hun hope all works out.

Beach sorry AF came hun, hope shes left you now so you can get back to ttc....really hope June is your month! hope your enjoying resting up after your holiday. Enjoy your weekend.

Madeline and Nikki gl this cycle ladies hope you catch the egg.!!!

August congrats hun and happy 21+3 weeks! Very inspirational! xxx

Littlwmisscie so sorry for your losses hun! I have heard of a lot of BFP with NTNP as people tend to stress less so hope you get your sticky bfp soon as you start trying again xxxxx

Wookie how are you hun? Loving the profile pic!!! Hope all is well and you're ok xxx

AFM BFN yesterday, was meant to wait until today but couldnt wait and obviously it was a BFN...i know im not pregnant now. I always get a positive on 10dpo or 11dpo. I had a dream i had two pregnancy tests one was negative and the other was positive i do think someone in expecting again so im just going to wait for the announcement. I wish my dream was real and i was pregnant again. Two days until my actual ttc date and AF...Hope you have a lovely weekend ladies xxx

 

[patiently]

Sorry just a quick post. I am psychic! My friend who recently had a mc just texted me and said she thinks she's pregnant again! OMG crazy isnt it. I woke up with a feeling that someone is going to tell me that.

 

[lexi374]

Wow you really need to start tying to make some money out of this lol!!

Scan is the 18th hun xx