A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Emmediva]

Tulip, I understand where you are coming from, once you hit 33 it's like the clock really starts ticking! I've had 2 miscarriages as well, but you have to keep at it and hoping. Are you tracking your temperature? Are you taking any herbal supplements? Check out my TTC journal, I used several herbal supplements to help me conceive. Don't lose hope welcome to the thread.

 

[BeachChica]

Thurl- your temps really are taking a dive but like Thurl said, it's common to get a dip and then spike up for O so I really think you could be close! Get some in girl!!!

NSN- I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Hope all goes well!!! I think I was pushing it in too deep but after asking my doc about it lady week, I am only pushing it in about half way.

Tulip- welcome to the group! Don't give up hope, you still have time!! I am 39 now and DH is 41. I have been TTC #1 since 2009, had 4 losses last year and still trying. I actually just found out I am , so here's to hoping #5 will stick. It HAS to work out for us sooner or later so just try to stay positive!

 

[Sooperhans]

Welcome Tulip and sorry for your losses. Hope you find support and motivation here and hoping you get there one day soon!

Never, lots and lots of luck! I can't wait to hear your news. I was thinking this morning...girl! 7lbs 6oz...thought I'd get a last min guess in there x

Thurl, hope your dip means ov and hope this is your month! X

 

[Nicki123]

Tulip - welcome to the group. I'm sure most of us have felt like giving up at some point but somehow keep going. I'm 35 so know what you mean about age. What really helped me was talking to DH about the 'what If we can't' scenario. Once I realised we were both on the same page I.e we will look into adoption if it doesn't work naturally, I felt a lot calmer about everything and the panic has gone. I know it can be emotionally draining though. Hopefully being on this thread will help a little.

Never - keep us posted, live updates from the hospital please!

Thurl - hoping ov arrives soon, waiting is just horrible isn't it*

Emme, Beach, hope, bumblebee hope everything is going well for you ladies

Welcome Jcliff - any update on how you're doing?

Hello Soop, kmp and anyone I've missed.

Afm, AF is easing off already so not as bad as I thought it would be. Looking fwd to the weekend, going to a hen night and after the week ive had im going to treat myself to a big cocktail or two.

 

[Neversaynever]

Thanks ladies..induction on Monday provided BP is ok and I still feel ok

What a roller coaster

XxX

 

[kmp]

NSN OMG Good Luck and def. keep us update!! Try to get some good rest over the weekend!!! So excited to see pics!!!

I am now 6 dpo and I felt some af like cramps when I laid down last night and am hoping it was implantation!! I have been feeling pains in my right tube as well, but that is where the ectopic was suspected and I feel this sensation VERY frequently so am not thinking too much about that.

 

[hopestruck]

Never - good luck on Monday!

Well ladies I'm going to drop in with a little selfish update. I got my betas back for my first week. They are low, and doubling time is on the slow end of normal. 13dpo was 26 and 15dpo was 47 (assuming FF has my dates right, though looking at my chart I think it could be possible I O'ed 2 days later). EITHER WAY, these are low numbers. Doctor is having me back today to do another beta so I can hopefully get the results back before the weekend.

I'm really not feeling good about it. I used a FRER this morning and the test line still doesn't look as dark as the control. By 21dpo it should be darker - having been pregnant 3 times before (even with the other losses) I know this is true. I feel just...dead. Ugh. Based on everything I've read online (research, forums, etc) I'd say the chances that this pregnancy is going to work out is probably less than 10%. I think I'll crawl into a hole now...

 

[Misswish]

Hello Tulip & welcome to the group. It is a roller coaster ride for sure but don't give up hope. I think we have all felt like that! If it wasn't for the encouragement of my hubby & family I might have given up. I recommend going to a naturopath & having accupunture. I find them both really helpful. Good luck & don't give up hope.
Nicki glad af is easing. I hope you enjoy the wknd. It sounds like fun! Yeah definately have a cocktail or three!
Never goodluck on mon. Omg I can't believe how close it is now. I hope everything goes well & can't wait to hear an update!!
Hope Im sorry about your low numbers. I hope they keep rising. Yeah sounds good getting them checked again.
I had my drs appt yest. It went really well. My blood tests came back good. Down syndrome is a very low risk. I also heard two galloping horses as she used the Doppler on me. It was amazing!! I'm so happy & it's all starting to really sink in
I'm going away for two weeks holiday on sun so I probably won't post on here till I get back. Take care everyone

 

[Misswish]

I also wanted to say hi to Soop & your holiday planned in sept sounds gr8! Ooh and a big bday celebration yay.
Congrats to Wookie on hearing your baby's heartbeat!! So happy for you. It really is amazing.
I forgot to say the doctor measured my stomach & said I am measuring about 15-16wks of a single pregnancy so it's normal to measure a couple weeks or so ahead when having twins. No wonder my jumpers & tops are getting tight! We have told family & close friends but will probably tell other friends & extended family soon as I may not be able to hide it for much longer.

 

[kmp]

Hope I am sorry that your numbers are lower than expected. My heart really goes out to you. Hopefully next weeks numbers will surprise and excite and things will turn around.

 

[wookie130]

I was on vacation, and I'm leaving again today to go camping, so I've fallen a bit behind in all of my threads on BnB...sorry!

Nicki, I'm sorry it ended up being chemical. Ugh, that's frustrating. Onward, upward. Keep at it, and you'll get there, hon. In the meantime I'm offering you lots of .

Hope...we'll just have to see what happens, dear. In any case, we keep trudging along. Sending you lots of too!!!

Never- Oh, you've had quite the rollercoaster lately, huh? Well, one thing is for certain...that baby will be here in the next few days, at the very most!!! Again, good luck.

Misswish- I can't remember...you're having twins, right? If so, that's amazing!!!

 

[thurl30]

everyone

Nicki I'm pleased to hear it's not been too bad for you, enjoy your weekend and a few drinks, just have some you time

Never sending lots and lots of luck to you for Monday, try and have a relaxed weekend, it could be the last peaceful one for quite a while

Kmp fingers crossed that you had implantation cramps, not long now until you can test

Hope I'm so sorry to hear about your situation, it's so difficult to deal with, thinking of you

Misswish really good to hear that all is going well for you

Hope everyone else is doing ok

Afm I got excited last night because I finally saw some EWCM Then tonight I got home to do another opk, (warning - tmi coming up!) when I wiped there was streaks of red blood! So confused, I'm only CD19, I desperately don't want AF to arrive, but that's all I can put it down to! I thought I was on to a winner last night with the EWCM and then my temp started to creep up this morning, I'm so incredibly frustrated and just don't know what to think

 

[BeachChica]

Hi girls,
So I got my betas from yesterday and I am a little stressed... they are REALLY high.... 9497 and I would have been 4w+6d yesterday when they were done. See chart below. This could mean twins or a molar pregnancy. Hopefully it's not the latter!!! My appointment is next week on Thursday.

31 4w+3d Range 400-1,000
32 4w+4d Range 1,050-2,800
33 4w+5d Range 1,440-3,760
34 4w+6d Range1,940-4,980
35 5w+0d Range 2,580-6,530
36 5 1/7 Range 3,400-8,450
37 5 2/7 Range 4,420-10,810
38 5 3/7 Range 5,680-13,660
39 5 4/7 Range 7,220-17,050

 

[hopestruck]

Beach, can you just give me some of your HCG and we'll call it even?
I'm sure everything is super awesome and healthy...I'll be hoping for a happy singleton or TWINS for you!! (I personally think twins would be AWESOME).

 

[Emmediva]

Thurl, some women experience spotting with ovulation, I hope this is the case for you. You had a good rise today, so hopefully the egg releasing triggered the spotting.

Beach, I hope it's twins!!

Wooks, enjoy your vacation!!

AFM, I think the ligaments in my uterus are stretching, I have some dull pains in my abdomen when I walk or get up. Oh and how about my poor OH has been having sympathy symptoms, he has nausea, dizziness and a bad taste in his mouth. Poor guy, I got him some motion sickness tablets and B Complex vitamins to help with energy but he's still miserable.

 

[Jcliff]

Hi all, wanted to give you an update. I found out my levels dropped from 33 to 12 on Wednesday. I started to bleed that night. Ive been out of work for a WEEK, waiting for this m/c to finish. Its been nothing but a nightmare. Its a week TODAY i found out I was pregnant, and already lost it. This is my second miscarriage in 4 months. My husband I have decided to take a long break. Not sure my body or my mind can deal with another loss. Thanks for all of your well wishes.

 

[Emmediva]

Jcliff, I'm so sorry

 

[BeachChica]

Jcliff- I am so sorry. I completely understand the need for a break and your body probably needs it too. Can you get away for a vacation or something?

Oh hope- I wish I could give you some of the Hcg. I am just so worried about the rate the numbers are doubling. I just want things to be normal for once!! With my MCs and age I think the risk for a molar pregnancy is high. We'll see what happens Thursday.

Emme- how sweet of DH to have some sympathy pains. I mean they can't always have it easy with all of this, can they!!???

Wookie- have a fabulous time camping!!! I love camping! Where are you going?

Thurl- any more bleeding? If so, how much?

 

[Nicki123]

Hi everyone. Glad it's the weekend.

Kmp I hope you are right about all the early signs you are getting - fx

Misswish so glad everything is going well, the twins thing is so exciting.

Hope - sorry you think the numbers are low, let us know how it goes but we're here for you

Thurl -ugh, damn confusing bodies! So annoying. I hope you figure out what's going on.

Happy camping Wookie.

Beach your numbers look good to me, let us know what you find out on Thurs

Emme - love that your OH has sympathy symptoms! So funny!

JCliff - I'm so sorry I can totally sympathise, have just been through exactly the same, watched the pg tests vanish to nothing then started AF a week late on Tuesday. If you need a break from it then do it, it might help. But we are here to listen if you still want to visit the thread. beach's holiday idea is fab, maybe get some sunshine, I find it has amazing healing properties.

Afm, I've had a pretty ok week considering. Was feeling very strong. And then last night I got a text from a friend. We are off to a hen do tomorrow for a friend who is getting married next week at very short notice. It did cross my mind she might be pg but I kind of ignored it, but this friend told me the hen is going to announce tomorrow she is pg. it would've been difficult to hide as we will all be knocking back and the champagne and she won't. I have to say my heart sank a bit when i found out. I'm so annoyed with myself for feeling like that. It just seems so easy for some people. They've been together for 9 months. I have been with DH nearly 16 years and I know we've only been trying for 2.5 ish years but I can't help feeling left behind. So few friends without babies now. I told DH last night and he said he felt exactly the same as me, a little jealous and sad about it. I hate to hear that he feels like that but at the same time i love that he knows how I feel and we really are going through this together. We had big cuddles last night and that helped tons. Anyway, feeling much better about it today, am so glad I got advance warning from my thoughtful friend so I could prepare myself. Think I'm just about looking forward to it again. X

 

[Emmediva]

Nicki, it is totally understandable to feel like you do, life really is unfair at times. It's like the more you desire something, the harder it seems to be to get it . I just don't understand why it has to be so hard for us that truly and deeply desire to become mothers, yet for others it's like they blink and they're pregnant. I know with my previous miscarriages just made me want to try even harder, I know for others it's different but for me it made me research and get options to assist with conception. Everyone is different though, some need to take a break others have to get back in the game ASAP. I truly hope your next pg is your rainbow baby, you WILL get there.