A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[hilslo]

Hi ladies - may i join you?

2013 had not been very kibd to me so far! I had my left tube and baby removed in April at 13.5 weeks as turns out it was ectopic (no ectopic symptoms at all until the tube ruptured).
Surgery took a little while to get over but my cycles took even longer but I got another bfp in mid July at our first attempt.
First early scan showed sac was growing in the right place. We were so happy but second scan showed twins (possibly identical as i only ovulated from one side and they wete both in one sac) one had already died and second had a slow heartbeat (108 at 7w2d). Two days later it was confirmed that the second baby's heart had also stopped beating and i had a manual aspiration (think that was what it was called - basically the same as a d&c but under local rather general anaesthetic)

I've not temped or taken any hpts since the op 2 weeks ago as we're on holiday. We had to cancel our holiday earlier in the year due to the laparotomy so really wanted to go on this one. Needed the break to keep me sane if nothing else!

So we'll be trying straight away once i get a negative hpt. I'm 32 (33in November), only have one tube and have longish wonky cycles so don't feel like i can waste any opportunity.

Good to see there are a lot of babies due any day or already arrived on this threat. It gives me a huge amount of hope. I have everything crossed for those still waiting. We will get there!!!

 

[Bibliophile]

Hi, Hilso. Sorry to see you here but this is a wonderful group.

 

[BeachChica]

Hi Hilso - welcome and so sorry you are finding yourself here. This is a great thread with ladies in all stages and with a wealth of information due to (unfortunately) a lot of different problems. I believe we all will get our rainbow though in the end, we're just having to work a little hard for it.

NSN - yes, this is the furthest I've been so far!! Lets hope this is a sticky one!!!

NTAT - any news?

Biblio- temping does take a little bit to get used to but I loved it and feel it provides huge benefits. Is it messing with our sleep because you are feeling anxious about taking it? You should take it the same time each day before you step out of bed but if something comes up just take it at that time. You are looking for patterns and shifts so a day or 2 of being off is ok.

 

[hilslo]

Thanks ladies!

Beachchica - huge congratulations. I think at 10 weeks the placenta is taking over so chances of miscarriage decrease!! Fingers crossed this is the one!!!

 

[Bibliophile]

Yeah, it's making me wake up a lot toward morning because it's on my mind. Which I'm sure is messing with it. The temps are differing by tenths of degrees, not hundredths. Just everything is ganging up to keep me from getting them at good times. AF showed early, so I missed that day. Then my sleep has been bad. One morning there was a cat fight an hour or two before I normally wake up and I had to get up to deal with that. Then today. Out of seven days, that's not very good!

 

[cruise]

Welcome hilslo! Sorry to hear about your losses.

It makes me really upset that the doctors let your pregnancy progress to 13w without detecting it was an ectopic. You should've had something before then -- Doppler, dating scan, and/or a NT scan!

The good news is that tubes have cells in them which attract the eggs to them, like a magnet. So even if you ovulate on the "wrong" side, the egg usually finds its way to the other tube.

GL and . There are many success stories here -- it's an encouraging thread.

 

[Nicki123]

Hi hislo, sorry you find yourself here but welcome to the group. It's great to chat to people who know what you're going through.

Biblio i don't temp for the exact same reason - the one month I tried it I found it was on my mind and I had such bad nights sleep. I find opks work well for me though so it's never bothered me.

Happy weekend everyone x

 

[Bibliophile]

Yep, it'll be back to straight opks after this. I just really wanted to make sure I'm not *only* getting the hormone surges. This morning was better, though. I woke up on my own at the right time and went right back to sleep.

How're you doing, Nicki?

 

[Nicki123]

I'm doing good thanks B. to be honest the last mc kind of hasn't phased me, I am ploughing on with determination ! I think ov was yesterday so I'm now in the 2ww.

Good luck with the opks or temps or whatever you find works for you x

 

[Bibliophile]

Thanks! I'll start the opks on Monday. I like those.
And I finally gave in and made a journal here. Lol.

 

[hilslo]

Welcome hilslo! Sorry to hear about your losses.

It makes me really upset that the doctors let your pregnancy progress to 13w without detecting it was an ectopic. You should've had something before then -- Doppler, dating scan, and/or a NT scan!

The good news is that tubes have cells in them which attract the eggs to them, like a magnet. So even if you ovulate on the "wrong" side, the egg usually finds its way to the other tube.

GL and . There are many success stories here -- it's an encouraging thread.

Scary thing is i did have a 12 week scan - they somehow just didn't notice it was in the wrong place!! The scan showed a lovely little waving baby. It measured exactly on track - and we thought everything was fine until 10 days later!!

Nicki -good luck for your tww. I hope it's your last one for a long time!!

 

[Nicki123]

Right then Brittany I will be over to stalk you ASAP!

 

[Neversaynever]

Hislo...welcome although I'm sorry it's under the circumstances where are you from? Shocking they didn't notice position of baby

Hang in there and lots of and

Beach...this is it

Biblio...journaling did me the world of good

Nicki.... for the sperm to get that egg and stick!

Mommy...I missed you the other day sorry how're you doing?

NTAT...labour

everyone

XxX

 

[Bibliophile]

Thanks, Nicki.

 

[honeyprayer]

Quiet thread over the weekend :/

We had a three day weekend here and it was so relaxing Just what I needed since I've been feeling so tired lately. Hope this passes soon! It's hard getting up at 6am and then working an 8 hour day. I feel like I'm ready for a nap as soon as I walk in the door

NTAT - where is that baby!?

Hilslo - Sorry that you find yourself here but you are among a great group of ladies who are a great support

Biblio - how's temping going?? Give up yet?

:wave: hi everyone else! Hope you are all doing well.

 

[Bibliophile]

Let's see if this works.... Since my temp this morning was down almost an entire degree from some of the other mornings, I'm still really skeptical that it's going to give me decent results. (All the 97.57 mornings were sleep disturbed mornings... Which is a lot of them.)
https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/homepage/?u=108964

Hope you start feeling less tired after you get into the second trimester. I'm thinking about going back to an outside job (on top of my business) for a while to get ahead on finances and I'm dreading that part... I remember sleeping for 12 hours and STILL being exhausted all day.

 

[NewToAllThis]

I know Honey, I ask myself this every morning. DH is desperate for some time off so is frustrated at the lack of movement

Biblio - I clicked on the link and can see your profile and your chart
Second tri tiredness is much better. But I found it took til about 18 weeks to start feeling less sick with more energy.

Hi everyone else - still here, still waiting
Had on/off tummy ache since I went to bed last night but its barely there, hardly noticeable.
Hoping it could be a slow start to things, but I'm not getting my hopes up.

 

[Bibliophile]

Thanks for checking it for me.

Hope that's labor starting! How long are they giving you before trying to help things along? I know you mentioned it before, but my brain's a bit fuzzy.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Thanks for checking it for me.

Hope that's labor starting! How long are they giving you before trying to help things along? I know you mentioned it before, but my brain's a bit fuzzy.

I have a hospital appointment on Friday for a scan to check placental function. If all is still fine, I'll have another sweep and be booked in for induction at term+14 I think (which is the 10th).
If the scan shows that the placenta isn't doing as well as it should, I'll be induced that day I assume

 

[mommylov]

Hi girls! How is everyone doing??

Mommy...I missed you the other day sorry how're you doing?

Hiya hun! How are you doing? Im ok, 7dpo and am not really feeling cycle.