A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Sooperhans]

Thank you everyone xxx Ntat I agree completely, you could handle natural contractions if/when there is a next time. The hormone stuff just made it go horrid. It's totally worth it in the end but wish we could have welcomed our boy in the pool. Ah well, he arrived safely and chilled. And we are home now, it's been lovely having him back to our own space and being around our lovely dog

Nicki, a friend gave me a hypno birthing CD: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Effective-Birth-Preparation-Hospital-Centre/dp/1905220502
Basically one of the most powerful images imaging my stereo dial and turning the pain down and sort of giving myself a feeling of numbness when the pain got bad. And then a bit like a film, I played a series of happy memories over and over in my head, like walking down the aisle seeing my dh's face, our dog running to us with his happy face, lovely gardens of lavender, roses...sounds a bit hippy said out loud but basically happy times are linked to oxytocin, which is the natural hormone that is the love drug...makes us feel happy and in love. And feel pain less. So I kept trying to keep that high to get over the pain. And deep, deep calming breathing, that helped me go off there too. Lots of closed eyed and focussing, and physical hugs/ rubs from dh. It worked for us, until Blake's head was stuck and I didn't progress beyond 9cms. Kind of makes me think I can handle other things too by being calm and under control. Dh joked to the mw that I cried recently when I stubbed my toe, so he was amazed! xxx

 

[monro84]

Yup, in bed all day. I can get up to use the washroom and take a shower but other than that, nothing. It's horrible! But I hope it works and will be worth it in the end.

I'm signed off work completely for now and they are very understanding. I'm lucky to work in a position where I have great benefits and still get full salary while at home. I don't know what DH and I would do if we didn't still have my income coming in... It would definitely make things harder considering we just bought a house!

I've lasted the week on bed rest now so I'm hoping it continues. I meet with the high risk unit tomorrow so I hope they have good news for me or at least a plan. Apparently a treatment option is a cerclage which is a stitch in the cervix to help keep it closed. At this point, I'm wiling to do anything to keep her in there!

I am so sorry your going throught this but don't worry a stitch is not that bad. I had to get one at 23 wks 5 days my cervix measurement was right at 2.5 cm. I did have funneling though. at 37 wks I got the stitch removed and gave birth at 39 wks 4 days when my water broke. i was on moderated bed rest I was off work for a week and then back at work but I have a desk job which I am mostly not doing anything stressful. He told me not cleaning when I was at home. no strenuous activitys. stay on the couch or in bed. Oh and from 19 wks on he was pretty much head down the whole time so alot of pressure on my cervix. And with a stitch you will feel pressure and some women bleed after the stitch is placed I did and it was a good bit kind freaked me out but it finally got lighter and lighter after a week I think.

 

[monro84]

Nicki---OMG I am sending you loads of stick

Sorry not on here very often anymore. Praying all you girls get a wonderful Christmas present.

And Hello to everyone

 

[honeyprayer]

Yup, in bed all day. I can get up to use the washroom and take a shower but other than that, nothing. It's horrible! But I hope it works and will be worth it in the end.

I'm signed off work completely for now and they are very understanding. I'm lucky to work in a position where I have great benefits and still get full salary while at home. I don't know what DH and I would do if we didn't still have my income coming in... It would definitely make things harder considering we just bought a house!

I've lasted the week on bed rest now so I'm hoping it continues. I meet with the high risk unit tomorrow so I hope they have good news for me or at least a plan. Apparently a treatment option is a cerclage which is a stitch in the cervix to help keep it closed. At this point, I'm wiling to do anything to keep her in there!

I am so sorry your going throught this but don't worry a stitch is not that bad. I had to get one at 23 wks 5 days my cervix measurement was right at 2.5 cm. I did have funneling though. at 37 wks I got the stitch removed and gave birth at 39 wks 4 days when my water broke. i was on moderated bed rest I was off work for a week and then back at work but I have a desk job which I am mostly not doing anything stressful. He told me not cleaning when I was at home. no strenuous activitys. stay on the couch or in bed. Oh and from 19 wks on he was pretty much head down the whole time so alot of pressure on my cervix. And with a stitch you will feel pressure and some women bleed after the stitch is placed I did and it was a good bit kind freaked me out but it finally got lighter and lighter after a week I think.

Thank you. My cervix was 1.5cm and funneling so dangerously short. I got the stitch put in last Thursday and I have recovered quite well. I see the doctor on Tuesday for another cervical length check so I'm hoping it's holding steady. My main goal right is to get to 28 weeks, according to my dr. Praying she stays in until then at least :/ it's definitely scary

 

[Bibliophile]

I know what you mean Brittany, us ladies def have to take the ttc bull by the horns while the men fall in line, and it's hard work.

It is. I want to have a bad day now & then without ruining an entire cycle!

 

[Nicki123]

Hi honey ... I can imagine that it must be scary. I was thinking about you yesterday. I am so hopeful that with the stitch and taking it easy you will be fine and baby will stay put for some time to come.

Lovely to hear from you Monro.

Soop thanks for the info, I'm definitely going to look into that.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Honey - I'm so sorry you can't enjoy your pregnancy, it makes me so sad. Just know that every day you rest and do nothing is a day further to your goal. I know it must be soul destroying to be on complete bed rest and hope that you're loaded up with books, mags, films and of course BnB.

 

[honeyprayer]

Thank you ladies

Im trying to take comfort in knowing that I'm doing all that I can to keep her cooking. I can actually feel her movements now so that helps to reassure me that she's ok in there. And you are right NTAT, I'm taking it a day at a time. Each morning I wake up, I am thankful I've made it another day.

Thank you for the support ladies, it really is appreciated and means the world to me right now

 

[wookie130]

Honey, I'm praying all goes well, and that you can continue cooking your babe for several more weeks!!!

Nicki- OMG!!! Sending TONS of prayers for this one for you!!!

Soop- HUGE congratulations!!! You did so well, and you know, in the end, your son is here, safe and sound, which is all that matters after all you've been through.

Monro- Your little guy is ADORABLE!!!!!!! What a sweetie!

 

[Petzy]

Nicki---OMG I am sending you loads of stick

Sorry not on here very often anymore. Praying all you girls get a wonderful Christmas present.

And Hello to everyone

Congrats on your gorgeous baby boy xx

 

[Petzy]

Thank you. My cervix was 1.5cm and funneling so dangerously short. I got the stitch put in last Thursday and I have recovered quite well. I see the doctor on Tuesday for another cervical length check so I'm hoping it's holding steady. My main goal right is to get to 28 weeks, according to my dr. Praying she stays in until then at least :/ it's definitely scary

Wishing you the best honey.. glad you have recovered so well.. thinking of you and wow you are one tough cookie

 

[Petzy]

Well girls, my OPK is the same as yesterday so far, about a 5-6/10 I would rate. I suppose I will just keep going and see what the next several days brings. I read a lot of women O about 2 weeks after miscarrying (for those earlier MC like mine, and where the HCG goes down quickly) so two weeks would be this coming Sunday. Hopefully it starts to get darker soon and I head towards O

 

[Petzy]

Hope everyone is well today Still doing my OPK's hoping to see some dark lines soon!! xx

 

[Nicki123]

Hi Petzy - hope you're having fun peeing on your opks

I am 4 weeks and 1 day today, time is going VERY slowly!!

 

[NewToAllThis]

Petzy - Hope your opk shows something is happening soon. I've heard people say that you can count the miscarriage as day 1 of your cycle. I know the feeling of wanting to be able to try again to heal the hurt iykwim? Hugs to you

Nicki - time seems to stand still doesn't it. In normal life the hours, days, weeks fly by but in PAL... ugh, soooooo slllooooowwww. I got through the early days with a 'one day at a time' attitude. Every morning I was just grateful that I was still preggo, I stopped focussing on the count of days. It's so hard though so I do sympathise.
It still annoys me that our wonderful experience of being pregnant (before the ms kicks in) is marred because of our losses. Oh to have that innocence back.
Keep going though, you're doing great - and at least you have a few distractions between now and scan day

 

[Nicki123]

So true New. I don't think I'll ever be able to relax!
17dpo today and the test line on my frer is looking darker than the control. So I might relax for like a day before I start wobbling again!

 

[Bibliophile]

Hugs, Nicki. What's the longest you've gone before? I hope you'll be able to relax (at least a little!) once you've passed that point.

 

[Nicki123]

The furthest was nearly 10 weeks but I knew earlier that things weren't right as at the first scan I had at 7 weeks baby was measuring very small. It never picked up and the heartbeat finally petered out about 10 weeks. Before that the furthest I got was about 7-8 weeks but again Baby was measuring small on an earlier scan. I am really hoping the slow growth was because of lack of blood flow and that the aspirin and meds are going to do the trick. I think if I get through my first two scans (6 and 8 weeks ) with baby measuring the right size I might be able to relax a little...

 

[Bibliophile]

I hope so!

 

[Petzy]

Oh Nicki I have everything crossed for you... are you going in for early scans due to previous MC? I forget if you mentioned that or not... I also forget if you are on progesterone or not?

Got my positive OPK today! And what's funny about that, is I am on CD 15 if we called the M/C CD1... (just like you said girls!) so I would have been due for my positive OPK yesterday or today anyways! That makes me happy.. we BD this morning so hopefully that's ok because we didn't the last two days! (lots last week but too early probably!) So hopefully again tonight or tomorrow morning for more coverage hehe

I am due to go for bloods tomorrow or Wednesday to confirm its at zero... I am sure it must be really low since I am O'ing now...

Now I need to find out when to start my progesterone, the doc said a few days after confirming O, but since I am taking OPKs, I guess safe bet would be in 3-4 days?