OH's friend has just rang, and asked how i was not knowing i lost the baby, OH didnt no i could hear him.....OH laughed and said she lost it.....then said no lad its sound....it was nothing anyway.....no really wouldnt have even called it a baby she werent even far gone.....she was only like 4 weeks its not even a baby.....to were i screamd I WAS 6 EFFING WEEKS AND THAT THING YOUR REFERRING TO HAD A HEARTBEAT!!!!AND ASOON AS YOUR PREGNANT ITS A BABY END OF....and he had the cheek to mouth "shut up am on the phone" i am absoloutly disgusted at how he reacted to his friend asking how i am and not even knowing how far gone i was
i just dont get it my valentines day has just been ruined to the max i cant even look at him xxx
Everyone experiences traumatic events differently. It must make you feel very alone, that he doesn't seem to be experiencing any grief at all. I'm sorry.
While you must accept his feelings as real and valid (for
him, not for you), I think you should talk to him about how he needs to accept
your feelings- your loss, your grief- as equally real and valid.
You could say, "I accept the fact that you do not perceive my miscarriage as the loss of a child and are not experiencing any grief, but you
must accept that to me it
was a child, and I am experiencing a profound sense of loss here, and I need emotional support to get through it."
Hopefully if you approach it as reasonably as that, he'll see that he's being very callous and unfair, and will make an effort to be more sensitive toward you and more respectful of your feelings.
If not, then he's a total jerk, and there's nothing else to be said or done about it.
Sometimes with men, you just have to be the bigger person and rise above their childishness.
I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you feel better soon.