kirstybumx3
Mum to two boys, R&N
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I know there are a lot of these threads put out there so sorry for another but I am really concerned about Rio's general behaviour.
He's always since a baby been a 'tricky' child, very demanding and prone to temper tantrums, never sit still, for a long time had big issues with food and would only eat certain things (he's slightly better at this now), sees no danger for example from when he was younger.
This hasn't got better with age and I feel like everyone just thinks he's a naughty child. That's how it seems to people who don't see him every day. I've wrote down a few things on paper that I'm worried about, some seem like normal nearly 4 year old things, others don't.
So I'm wondering what others think? Does this little lot seem normal or not?
I don't know how I'd go about getting him assessed, I'm not even sure what to ask to be assessed for. I just feel like deep down there is 'something.
Here's a copy out of my rough list I wrote.
Cannot sit still - ever, even kicks and fidgets in his sleep
Won't sit for a meal, one mouthful and running around
Struggled for a long time with foods, wouldn't eat anything 'wet' that had a sauce, still doesn't like sauce touching other things on his plate
Difficult to take him out in public as he is too excitable and misbehaves, runs away or lashes out
Impulsive behaviours, can't stop himself from randomly doing something dangerous even when dangers are explained, for example touching something hot etc
No fear In new situations etc, would gladly go somewhere with anyone. However in nursery is upset through the day at times because he 'wants mummy' so it's not that he wants to stay away, just doesn't see the danger of disappearing
Runs away everywhere, again like above. In shopping centres etc, no matter how many times its explained he will pull away from hand grasps and run off into a different shop completely without a care
Cannot cope with discipline, can't stay still on a step, has a complete breakdown if we try to tell him to stop doing something and will kick, throw himself back, head butt, spit at us etc
Understands things are naughty but still goes back and does them after being told not to
Won't look us in the eye when we are trying to tell him off, I ask him to look at me when I speak and he 'kicks off' spitting, throwing his head about etc
Climbs on everything all of the time, everything is a climbing frame
Can't focus on a game/activity for longer than a couple of minutes
Can't play with one toy for long and has to get everything out at once
Won't sit and watch any full tv programme, I'm lucky if he will sit and watch something for 5 minutes without losing interest
Won't accept when another person doesn't want to play, doesn't seem to understand boundaries and won't give up when people don't want him to touch their toys
Tried naughty step, time out, sitting and explaining, time in bedroom etc everything gets the same reaction with spitting, hitting and all the rest
Writing it he sounds like a horrible unruly child but he's not. He can be such a lovely, loving and caring boy and it's such a shame to see him the way he is. He will often say he 'doesn't want to do bad things' and it breaks my heart.
Any advice?
He's always since a baby been a 'tricky' child, very demanding and prone to temper tantrums, never sit still, for a long time had big issues with food and would only eat certain things (he's slightly better at this now), sees no danger for example from when he was younger.
This hasn't got better with age and I feel like everyone just thinks he's a naughty child. That's how it seems to people who don't see him every day. I've wrote down a few things on paper that I'm worried about, some seem like normal nearly 4 year old things, others don't.
So I'm wondering what others think? Does this little lot seem normal or not?
I don't know how I'd go about getting him assessed, I'm not even sure what to ask to be assessed for. I just feel like deep down there is 'something.
Here's a copy out of my rough list I wrote.
Cannot sit still - ever, even kicks and fidgets in his sleep
Won't sit for a meal, one mouthful and running around
Struggled for a long time with foods, wouldn't eat anything 'wet' that had a sauce, still doesn't like sauce touching other things on his plate
Difficult to take him out in public as he is too excitable and misbehaves, runs away or lashes out
Impulsive behaviours, can't stop himself from randomly doing something dangerous even when dangers are explained, for example touching something hot etc
No fear In new situations etc, would gladly go somewhere with anyone. However in nursery is upset through the day at times because he 'wants mummy' so it's not that he wants to stay away, just doesn't see the danger of disappearing
Runs away everywhere, again like above. In shopping centres etc, no matter how many times its explained he will pull away from hand grasps and run off into a different shop completely without a care
Cannot cope with discipline, can't stay still on a step, has a complete breakdown if we try to tell him to stop doing something and will kick, throw himself back, head butt, spit at us etc
Understands things are naughty but still goes back and does them after being told not to
Won't look us in the eye when we are trying to tell him off, I ask him to look at me when I speak and he 'kicks off' spitting, throwing his head about etc
Climbs on everything all of the time, everything is a climbing frame
Can't focus on a game/activity for longer than a couple of minutes
Can't play with one toy for long and has to get everything out at once
Won't sit and watch any full tv programme, I'm lucky if he will sit and watch something for 5 minutes without losing interest
Won't accept when another person doesn't want to play, doesn't seem to understand boundaries and won't give up when people don't want him to touch their toys
Tried naughty step, time out, sitting and explaining, time in bedroom etc everything gets the same reaction with spitting, hitting and all the rest
Writing it he sounds like a horrible unruly child but he's not. He can be such a lovely, loving and caring boy and it's such a shame to see him the way he is. He will often say he 'doesn't want to do bad things' and it breaks my heart.
Any advice?