Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

I suppose it's about time to share my news... there's been so much excitement this week and I have been so caught up in all of your journey's, but we've had a dramatic turn of events recently that will change ours forever. I'm pregnant. 17 weeks today in fact. We only found out recently and have been in a state of shock ever since. I think it's starting to sink in a bit more now though that little pink will be a big sister. At first I was numb to it. Just worried for my pink, how it would effect her, how the social workers would react, how I would cope leaving her to return to work to get renewed leave entitlement. Our social worker is off on sick leave so we are waiting for a meeting there. But all paperwork is now submitted to court pending the hearing next month. And in my heart I know they wouldn't do anything where a child is so settled and in their own words 'thriving'. The amazing bonus is I don't need to return to work and can run adoption and maternity leave back to back with full entitlement. There isn't a policy in place for this so they've been extremely generous. I get a whole year and more with my girl!! I must say I feel pretty irresponsible, but after 6 and a half years, clomid which failed to work and 3 failed ICSI cycles we of course never expected this. I came off the pill for a 3 month break and then started taking it again (without knowing I was pregnant). I only found out when I went to the doctor to change my pill due to bleeding (again unbeknown to us it was first trimester bleeding). Because of my medical history and some concerns I have a consultant appointment on Monday and we are taking one day at a time. It is not the right timing in my head but in my heart we have been given our second miracle and we have to embrace, rejoice and be happy. Our first miracle is running around, throwing her teddies and chattering away. She is my focus and priority, my dream come true. The baby is the unexpected icing on the cake. We are blessed, I know that. But my goodness will we be busy!

Love Lolly xxx

 

[Rainy123]

Wow lolly, that is amazing news. It seems like you've really thought things through and have an amazing attitude so just enjoy it. Everything happens for a reason and obviously you were meant to have little pink and now THAT is sorted...another little miracle.

So pleased for you!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Ahh Rainy that is so lovely of you, you've made me well up. Thank you! The support on here is just wonderful! Loads of love to you, I hope you are enjoying your weekend xxx

 

[aimze]

Lolly that is just incredible news!!! An 17 weeks too!! What utterly amazing news to read!

I cannot tell you happy I feel for you and hubster!

Amazing!

Xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Aimee4311]

Wow Lolly! How unexpected and exciting, I'm so happy for you!

 

[Nicki123]

Wow I really have picked a great day to check in! Big congrats Lolly

 

[Lolly1985]

Thank you so much everyone. To be honest I was quite nervous posting that message but your support is overwhelming. It's actually a really hard transition to make in term of mindset. We closed the door on treatment and a biological family nearly 2 1/2 years ago, and I can honestly say I had grieved and moved on from having a pregnancy and tiny baby. That's not to say I'm not thrilled, we all are, but for the first week I was too shocked to feel anything other than panic for the impact on little pink. But now it's sinking in we are all very happy, if not very anxious still!! Thank you xxx

 

[aimze]

Lolly I can completely see why you would feel anxious for little pink but she'll have an amazing little bro/sis!!

How amazing

I'm going to the drs on Monday to talk about contraception!! Now wouldn't be ideal just as we're about to be matched!

X

 

[dreamofabean]

I love, love, love this news! You and df are wonderful parents to your little pink and your little surprise will be the icing on the cake! It's just the best news ever!! Congratulations to all three if you honey! Xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
We've had a lovely few days in the dreamy household!
Little man celebrated his first birthday and was spoilt rotten! We went to the farm on his birthday and then chilled in the evening he was worn out and slept like a log! Yesterday we had a little tea party with his immediate cousins which was manic but lovely he was a little bit overwhelmed when everyone arrived and sat just playing quietly with his spinning top toy until he has assessed the situation bless him! Makes me realise that although he's settled so well, things are still so new for him! He is very used to everyone who was at the party, just not all together! Lol
Yesterday evening my mom and her oh came round for a chippy tea and a few drinks which was lovely
Today we are having a lazy morning and might go for a walk later. The inlaws are coming for dinner so will be a busier evening.so a manic few days but really lovely!
Littlie is just getting cuter by the day, he gives lots of cuddles and has such an expressive face, he always has people giggling! He has learnt to point with his finger rather than whole hand which is very clever we cannot look away for a minute as he is into everything that he knows he shouldn't be! Lol, I wouldn't have it any other way though! He is so very precious to us and I don't think I will ever bore of looking into his big baby blues, he's just our little miracle of all the babies and all the families in the world, we found each other: it was fate! Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Dream it sounds just perfect and you've made memories you'll never forget. What a perfect birthday for your perfect boy! I love reading your posts because I know just how happy you are And also thank you for your going support hun, you're a star!

Sunday hugs to everyone xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Lolly it is my pleasure we all support each other, you have been there for me when I've needed to vent, so thank you too xxxx

 

[Monkey78]

Oh my Lolly I have just read your news and it brought a tear to my eye, what wonderful news, your second little miracle, and you so deserve it. Oh that is just so fantastic, you must feel so elated. Your little pink will be blessed to have a beautiful brother or sister. Huge congrats to you and your hubby xxx

Dream your little blue's 1st birthday sounds wonderful, I can only imagine all those mixed emotions in the lead up, and I'm sure we all go/will go through the same. We are all here for each other, and I'm glad you had a wonderful day celebrating that very special day.

I've been celebrating, and finally completing our new bathroom and makeover kitchen, feel shattered. Next job now is the nursery!!

Xxxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks monkey
Ooh I so loved decorating our nursery! We went vintage and I just love it! It's by far my fabourite room in the house
You'll have so much fun doing it! X

 

[aimze]

Dream sounds like such a perfect day!!! Glad it went well

Monkey how exciting you're onto the nursery!!! yahoooooo

xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks Monkey! I really appreciate your support lovely! Sounds like all is going great your end! What's your nursery theme? So exciting, eeek!

Hope everyone is ok despite the fact it's Monday again xxx

 

[aimze]

Lolly - Mondays are awful my job is really really dull and I need a matching date booked in so I can tell them I'm leaving so I can be happy haha!

Really hope we dont have to wait long from link - matching panel! x

 

[dreamofabean]

I'm sure you won't honey! They normally say 8-10 weeks from link to meeting your little one, and usually leave it 1-2 weeks after match panel to start intros, so hopefully it'll be nice and quick!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Agreed, we were linked 11th July, matched 12th September and met little pink 20th. We also had foster carer, pre panel and medical advisor meetings in August which broke the time up

 

[aimze]

When do you get the dates for everything after the linking meeting? Like for visiting FC and health visitor and panel etc xx