Adoption journey

Discussion in 'Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy' started by Loski83, Feb 21, 2012.

  1. dreamofabean

    dreamofabean Well-Known Member

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    Hi all, hope everyone is well!
    Things are ok here. I'm not going to lie, the past 3 months have been super tough!
    E has struggled with the addition of his sister to our family. She is a bolshy little madam to put it lightly and it's taken a lot of adapting for him bless him! He adores her, but they clash a lot and he can be rough so we can't just leave them alone together for long!!
    He regressed a lot so it was tough initially having 2 kids who were emotionally 18m!
    Little lady has settled well, she is such a funny little sausage. She is extremely busy and I'm sure she is half monkey the way she climbs :haha:
    The only issue we have is sleep! She cries in her sleep a lot! We've had one night sleeping through in 3 months! Some nights it's every half hour she is waking us screaming. So we are exhausted to put it lightly!
    We're slowly getting used to our new routines though and finding our feet as a family of four.
    E is slowly coming back to his pre P self and we finally feel like we're getting our boy back.
     
  2. Left wonderin

    Left wonderin Not sure lol

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    Dream that all sounds so very familiar to me !!! My boy Sean did not enjoy when his sister came home . Not one bit !!!! He was very put out and totally let us know !!! He too can be rough and we often think mmmmmm maybe A needs a crash helmet !!!! Now she is walking he just pushes her over !!! I think its all normal lol.... ( I hope so anyhow ! )
    Adjusting to being a family of 4 was ough for me too ... I kept wanting things to feel " normal " again ... They only really did when I realised that the old " normal " was never coming back ... And let it go .... So now we have our new normal .:) which is very busy !!!never stop and don't sleep !!! Well for a few year anyhow lol....
     
  3. silverbell

    silverbell Adopted Little Pink :)

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    Hi all

    I haven't posted since October when I said it should be the month we became a family of 3 when Little Pink moved in.

    It was. First couple of weeks were honestly horrendous, as she threw out her old routine (she was nearly 8 months old) and we didn't realise so we were trying to follow what we'd learned during intros. It resulted in tears and frustration from all 3 of us until we finally figured it all out. She also started waking every single hour of the night. Finally after 3 weeks she would sleep through the night with me just shushing her from my bed and shortly after that she was sleeping through all the time (and has done ever since).

    I have ended up with post-adoption depression but given my prior history of depression I suppose it was partly inevitable.

    She's a very strong-willed little madam who knows exactly what she wants and is so funny. She's absolutely gorgeous and we love her to bits.

    This week we had her Adoption Order granted and we are amazed how different it feels to know she's fully "ours". It's lovely! :cloud9:

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    Dream, I'm so glad all worked out well for you as well and that your boy is returning to his old self after the arrival of his sister.

    Left wonderin, that's so true about just accepting that the old "normal" was gone. I know you mean this in relation to becoming a family of 4 but it's certainly something that we've quickly realised after becoming a family of 3 too. What a massive upheaval and learning curve! I feel I'm learning something every day.

    Axl2, any news yet? I hope so.
     
  4. dreamofabean

    dreamofabean Well-Known Member

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    Ah Hun that sounds very familiar! Our first month was horrendous in all honesty!
    Our night times are still awful. Little lady cries out anything from 4-10 times a night, we are all exhausted! We are looking into medical reasons and feel we may be getting closer to knowing what it is but our dr is hideous and won't refer her so we are going to move gp!
    So glad things are settling now! I'm praying ours does quickly too! X
     
  5. Left wonderin

    Left wonderin Not sure lol

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    Oh no dream poor baby and poor mammy and daddy !!! Any guesses on what's going on ? It must be so hard !
     
  6. Axl2

    Axl2 Well-Known Member

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    Hey Silverbell, Very exciting news!! I haven't heard anything I know they have placed 10 babies so far this year. No word on where we are on the waiting list or if our profile has been shown. Tomorrow we have been on the waiting list for 1 year. I'm not sure when they will be contacting us to do our update.

    Dream, I would do the same the gp isn't helping her and you need answer. Hopefully they figure it out.
     
  7. Loski83

    Loski83 Mummy at last

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    Hi everyone
    Its been along time since I posted on here. Haven’t read all the posts but it’s nice to see new people here. Dream, Lilly’s how are you both doing?
     

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