Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

It's really hard when they're like that Dream, poor little man and poor you. How has he been today? It sounds like you have a busy start to the week, I hope he's brighter. Hope the injections go well, it's a whole lot worse for the mummies I can tell you. But then it's over for another two years hun. So glad you are in with the sensory group, we love ours and it's full of new things to explore, he'll have a ball!

Little pink isn't too well today either. Full of a cold, really snuffling away, not eating much, early sleep and then fell asleep at dinner time this evening. She felt really hot about an hour ago so I gave calpol and stripped top layer off and she's cooled down luckily. Poor bubba

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks lolly! Hope pink is brighter tomorrow bless her!
Little man seemed ok til this afternoon, then the moaning started and he's had a few nasty nappies again we visited my dad snd thank lord I carry a spare set of clothes! Ha ha! Poo explosion!!
Thankfully we all slept better last night, he went down at 7 and i was in bed for 9.30! Lol. He woke at 5.30 for a bottle and then went back off til 7.20! Yay!
Hoping he sleeps ok tonight, he's had some calpol too and guzzled a 7oz bottle, but then he barely ate any dinner! Lol
We have his 9-12 month check tomorrow, I hope all the nasty nappies and no eating don't mean a weight loss!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh no, not poo explosion!! We've had one at her auntie's house. It was bad so I gave her a quick bath... bad move! She screamed and was upset at bath time for next week and half. Such an innocent thing to do but so unsettling. Anyway, I'm glad to hear you had a good sleep, that helps no end! Fingers crossed he's on the mend. Hope his check is ok tomorrow, when we had ours they just went through questions on a 5 ish page form they'd received from little pink's placing authority, then we got a little summary through the post later that week. Pretty good really.

Thanks hun, me too, we have a dinner date at my favourite cafe!! Heehee! But obviously she comes first, even before mummy's rumbling tummy!!

 

[aimze]

We have a link! Omgggggggg!!

Panel end of April intros early May!!!!!

Arghhhhh amaziiiing x

 

[dreamofabean]

Yay!!!!!! Can you tell us any (very) basic info about little one??
Eek so exciting Aimze, just thrilled for you!! You're going to be a mommy!! Yay!!!

 

[aimze]

So.....first surprise is he's a boy!!

10month beauty!!! Love him already!!

Oh my goodness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Intros 7days!

Eeeeeeeeeek can't stop smiling I asked the questions you recommended so thank you all so much for your support!

X

 

[dreamofabean]

boys are just wonderful! that's such fantastic news Hun! He'll be at such a fun age too, every day you see new things they're capable of! Just wonderful!! Xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

7 day intros go sooo fast! He will be home in his nursery before you know it

 

[aimze]

I kno!! We're so so happy

Yayyyyyyyy x

 

[dreamofabean]

It's just wonderful! It's the best feeling in the world being a mommy, and your wait is almost over now! Eek!

 

[dreamofabean]

Today we had little man's 9-12 month check with the health visitor. He is being observed in another 2 months for his locomotion skills as he's still not pulling himself up to his feet or walking along furniture. I'm not worried about it at all, he's a typical lazy boy but the hv was so stern! Lol I have to admit that I did put her 'slightly' in her place I couldn't help myself! Yes he may be slightly delayed but over the past 3 months he's met his new parents, left fcs and had to get used to a whole new world! It's hardly surprising that he's showing a slight delay! He's as bright as a button otherwise so I'm not worried at all
We was weighed and is 19lb14oz, still following the 25th centile for height and weight! It makes me laugh as I've had lots of people say recently how big he is for his age, erm, the data says not! Hee hee! I think it's his chubby cheeks that make him look stocky where infact he's a skinny Jim!

 

[aimze]

Awe dream good for you for putting her in her place!!!!

Xx

 

[mohini12]

hi everyone
i want to join here if you dont mind please.i am going to adopt in nov2014.abd lot of questions us here in my mind.how the society will react,how baby can be give other milk than her/his mother? how baby will react when he come to know in life that he is adopted child?mind set before adoption?i am very nervios for all this can anyone help?i 've tryied to be mum my iwn but each time i miscarried so after 9years of marrige we decide to adopt.

 

[LolaM]

hi everyone
i want to join here if you dont mind please.i am going to adopt in nov2014.abd lot of questions us here in my mind.how the society will react,how baby can be give other milk than her/his mother? how baby will react when he come to know in life that he is adopted child?mind set before adoption?i am very nervios for all this can anyone help?i 've tryied to be mum my iwn but each time i miscarried so after 9years of marrige we decide to adopt.

Aimze I'm so happy I cry. So will you have him for his first birthday? It's true, everyday is something new.

Mohini-my mindset was just that I wanted to be a mama. People react differently when they find out they are adopted and I don't give a rats behind what society thinks. I'm a mama and he is my moon pie. He gave me a purpose he is the reason I was put on this earth

 

[aimze]

Lola - yes!!! First birthday with us!! How's your little monkey?

Hi mohini!!! How old a child are you adopting? X

 

[Lolly1985]

Ahh Aimze, I'm so so happy for you!!!! And what a wonderful age, they are independent little beings that are developing their skills and personalities, but equally still very much babies who need their mummies! Oh my god, eeek!!!!

Hi Mohini, I think Lola has gone a good way in explaining how we all feel on here. We are each so proud of our adoption stories and my society in my world just see a mummy and her daughter. My little girl was brought up on formula and has only visited the doctor once for eczema in her 15 and half months in this world, she is very healthy and happy and I really don't worry that's she's not had breastmilk at all to be honest. We are in the UK and here our children get life story books to explain with pictures and photos and in child friendly ways how and why they came to be with their forever family. I think all of our children here are too young for any of us to broach it yet, but it certainly won't be a secret. It will be part of their identities and we will tell them how wanted they were. While an adopted children may not have grown in their mummy's tummy, they certainly grew in their hearts ♥

Dream, again, you go girl! You know your baby boy and to me he seems very switched on, settled, happy and I wouldn't have any concerns either

 

[aimze]

Thanks lolly!!

I'm wondering About leave....do I finish wrk the Friday before Wednesday intros or have some 'me time' an leave the day of panel an have 10days off?!? Hmmmmm
X

 

[Lolly1985]

I finished the Tuesday and started introductions on the Friday. It meant I only had two days. I cleaned, did washing, shopping, just general sorting out. In hindsight I wish I had just one more day to batch cook a load of meals as we lived off crap most of intros week, but any more time on my own and I would have gone mad just wishing the days away!

 

[aimze]

True lolly....I'll stick to 5 days lol!!! I was just being greedy teehee!

X

 

[mohini12]

hi lolly,lora,aim
thanks for welcome
actually my younger sister is pregnant with her #2 .she has already 8months boy baby and wanted to abort her 7week pregnancy.because she thinks she is not ready for second.so i requested her for adoption of her second baby.she is due on october.i am trying for #1 since 2005.i 've had 6recurent losses and no live baby.so wants to adopt her baby.but still get disturb to think if i can be a good mum.