Adoption journey

[Monkey78]

Oh Aime fantastic news, congratulations, I am so excited for you. Not long to go before you have your darling boy home to his mommy. Well done xxxxx

 

[LolaM]

well...so much happy news in this room! I cant wait for you ladies to get your babies! My baby insisted that he go with me to get dinner tonight and then he insisted that both daddy AND mommy read his story before bed (he isn't spoilt at ALL). He is still working on those molars and it is just so painful for him! The CPS worker came for a home visit and said that we were doing a great job and he is clearly happy and healthy!

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah that's good Lola when is court next Hun? My little man has been teething too but no signs of another tooth yet! Last time he suffered for 2 months and then got 2 within 10 days! Fingers crossed those teeth will peep through soon!
AimZe it's so exciting getting everything ready isn't it?! I remember the night before we met littlie I put all the foam floor mats down in the conservatory (to make a play room area for him) and I just sobbed! It finally felt real and I was a blubbing mess! Being a mommy is just the best ever! I still have moments when I can't believe it's my life! I think having this kind of journey just makes you appreciate every moment (maybe bar a few!) with your little one. I wouldn't change my journey now for anything. Little man was my fate, we were made for each other, as you are with your little boy Aimze eek making me all nostalgic!!
I visited a friend in her new house yesterday which is about a mile from littlie's foster carers house! It was so strange driving down the country lanes! I kept thinking the last time we did that trip I was crying my eyes out as we took our boy home forever! It was lovely though, seeing the garden centre that we had our first little family trip to! You have all this to come Aimze and it's flipping wonderful!! Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

My god Dreamy, you've made me cry!!! Lovely and very very true. Our babies were our destiny, the crap that came before just lead us on this path because back then they weren't ready for us xxx

Lola what lovely feedback, you are doing a great job! Hope those teeth come very soon, teething is not fun

Love to all

 

[LolaM]

Court is June 6th but I wont be attending because that is my last day of school and I just cant miss it, so hubs will go alone.

 

[Monkey78]

aaah Dream you made me cry too what a lovely post.

Lola best of luck for 6 June hun, love reading about your little boy.

Rainy hows things going?
Hope everyone else is ok and doing well.

We were approached on Friday about a little 3 month old pink, we are getting the report on Monday EEK ! There are a few background issues with BP's, but we will have a read through and then decide if to take forward. I suddenly feel really scared !!

I babysat my niece on Friday (8months old) and started to panic, will i be good a mum? will I know how to deal with all the different emotions and needs.... Think it has just hit home that it is really REAL now, but at the same time my god I am so excited to be able to read our first prospective profile

xxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Omg monkey! 3 months old?? Eeek!!
You will be wonderful Hun! It's so much harder with someone else's child! During intros you learn so much about your baby but of course there will be things you don't know! Little man was poorly yesterday and I didn't have a clue what it was! Googled so much but that's just being a parent, there's no manual!
Let us know how you get on Hun, very excited for you
Lola I hope all goes well in court xx

 

[Rainy123]

Ooh monkey, very exciting and 3 months is so so tiny. Hope that it all goes well tomorrow.

I haven't heard a thing and even left a desperate voicemail on friday. I think because my last link fell through, I am so worried that the same will happen so I asked them to call just to let me know things were ok. They didn't so I can only assume she's on holiday or something. Fingers crossed I will hear something this week for the sake of my sanity!

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh rainy I'm sure all is well but can totally understand you being worried, and your sw should too! I hate it when they don't tell you that they're going on leave as imaginations run wild don't they? I used to get myself in a right flap!
Hopefully you'll hear some great news tomorrow xx

 

[LolaM]

aaah Dream you made me cry too what a lovely post.

Lola best of luck for 6 June hun, love reading about your little boy.

Rainy hows things going?
Hope everyone else is ok and doing well.

We were approached on Friday about a little 3 month old pink, we are getting the report on Monday EEK ! There are a few background issues with BP's, but we will have a read through and then decide if to take forward. I suddenly feel really scared !!

I babysat my niece on Friday (8months old) and started to panic, will i be good a mum? will I know how to deal with all the different emotions and needs.... Think it has just hit home that it is really REAL now, but at the same time my god I am so excited to be able to read our first prospective profile

xxxx

OH you will be wonderful, if you have spent anytime around kids you will know something, and then get you one of those "what to expect the first year" books those help a bit and def use google! Matter of fact, I have 2 of the what to expect books, so if you want I will send you one!

 

[aimze]

Rainy I hope you hear soon...it isn't hard for them to drop you a quick message...just to help your sanity...I'm sure it's all ok...

Monkey wow 3months! I didn't know that children that young even had placement orders! That's super tiny! I also worry about am I goin to be a good mum, what if I hate it, what if he hates me...then I think about how much I love my nephews and that me an hubby will be the best parents we can be!

Dream that was such a lovely post! I keep thinking of the first time ill clap eyes on him an it makes me feel all warm were all sorted now, carseats arriving in next 3 days so can't wait to put that in the car! Might start packing our suitcase for the week eeeeeeeee 7 days to go...come on!

Lola hope court goes ok, your little man sounds such a cutie, I can't wait till stories at bed!

Lolly how's being pregnant? Have you a lovely large bump now? You really don't have long now...:-D

Again ladies you've all been amazing, we can't believe we're here! It's just all crazy

X

 

[dreamofabean]

This poem was sent to me whilst we were waiting for little man, and I thought I'd share it here for everyone waiting for their babies, I love it x

 

[Rainy123]

Hooray finally tricked social worker into answering the phone and there are no problems (except a lack of speed). Still waiting for meetings but so relieved that all is still going ahead

 

[dreamofabean]

Yay!! That's fab news!!
I said to our sw yesterday that I can see why there were delays with little man's court.... His sw is rubbish with paperwork!!! Lol. We had his sw out yesterday and she was here for a whole 10 minutes! Really?! So daft they have to visit every 6 weeks even if there's no need!

 

[Rainy123]

Booked in to see the medical advisor on the 19th may. Not a clue what to expect. Did any of you have to do the same?

Dream, it must be a great sign that SW visits are so short. Just so they can tick a box to say they've done it because they know he's doing fantastically with you!

 

[aimze]

We didn't see the medical advisor, he had a report done the week we met foster carer...get some questions written for any health issues an they'll usually just go over their medical background x

 

[dreamofabean]

We didn't see a medical advisor either, but like Aimze littlie had a full lac medical a month before he came home.
I guess just read their cprs and make any notes about medical stuff. Bear in mind to ask about anything in birth parents histories too x

 

[Loski83]

We had to see a medical advisor about some concerns which they wanted to make sure we fully understood. I researched and had a list of questions ready she answered them the best she could gave us some information sheets and that was it till panel. At matching panel they just said we've done a good job looking into it and they where satisfied that we fully understood.

 

[Loski83]

Our little ones foster family are coming for a visit this weekend we are going out for a meal Saturday evening not sure whether to book somewhere nice or whether to go to a food place with play area in that we like as she can play, what do you's think?
Sunday we are going to beamish for the day with them.

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi guys!

Loski personally I would do the family place and play area. More interactive and not too formal. Plus little lady can have a run if she gets restless at all and they can see all the wonderful things she's doing, running, climbing, jumping, generally showing off

Rainy I'm so glad you're reassured. We met medial advisor. She was great, gave us an overview of where little pink was up to developmentally and then compared to her poor brothers at same age I think this was to show that they felt the needs they have were the cause of environmental factors and nothing genetic. She went over family history and then wrote us a 'little pink summary' to give to new doctor and health visiting team. She was then at our matching panel and it was nice to see a friendly face!

Dream how is little man now? Sleeping better? Hope he's over his nasty virus poor baby

Aimze you must be just so excited! Nearly there hun, do you finish tomorrow? Are you all organised?

Wow monkey, what a tiny little bundle. How exciting, have you heard any more?

So I won't talk too much as this is an adoption thread, but I've been in hospital as my waters started leaking on Monday. I came home last night. I'm stable and baby is doing well, but obviously is an incredibly worrying time. I have hated being away from my girl but daddy has been amazing and I had a little visitor Tuesday afternoon! I sobbed when she had to go (well, as soon as the door shut!) My mum is here as I've been ordered to rest, not easy with a 17 month old! I feel really guilty, but she's got lots of attention from everyone else so I'm sure isn't bothered! Final hearing end of next week!! We finally got the official court paperwork and birth mum didn't even bother turning up again. All that worry and waiting for nothing. Oh well, hopefully next week we'll be a true forever family Please send positive thoughts guys xxx