Adoption journey

[karenh]

Thank you guys! I hope it works out. I am worried about if there will even be babies to adopt. We will see. Good luck today Rainy!

 

[karenh]

Loski, wow, you little one sure is growing up! So hard and so fun!

 

[iow_bird]

Hi ladies,
I just read through the entire 323 pages! We're not adopting, as we don't do adoptions here in New Zealand. But we are about to start fostering, I think we have a new born coming in the next few months, not sure when bubba is due yet. I was terrified of the babies moving on to their forever homes, but reading through your thread and seeing the excitement and the sheer amount of love you have for your babies, has made me realise just what they will be moving on to. Thank you for sharing your stories, and for inadvertently making me feel better about our decision to foster rather than offering a home for life (which is our version of adoption and slightly different)!
Good luck to those of you waiting for your babies!
Thanks again ladies, I don't think you realise just how much you have settled my fears! X x x

 

[Loski83]

Wow iow_bird that's a lot of reading, pleased we have helped you though. My little girl is my life and the best thing that ever happened in my life. We also have a fantastic relation ship with her foster family who we meet up with about 3-4 times a year as we are all really good friends now. Sounds like you will be great foster carers good luck with your first child.

 

[iow_bird]

it took 4 days!!! But worth it. I feel completely different after reading it, it's awesome. Although hubby knows we will probably offer a home for life to a child at some point, I feel like I'll be able to let go when it's time now. The love you all gave for your children just shines from your words x x x

 

[karenh]

That is a feat! I read from the beginning when I joined as well and it wasn't nearly as long. I am so glad it gave you comfort and hope. Good luck with your fostering! I am sure it will be a trying but amazing experience. Ours was.

 

[helloeveryone]

it took 4 days!!! But worth it. I feel completely different after reading it, it's awesome. Although hubby knows we will probably offer a home for life to a child at some point, I feel like I'll be able to let go when it's time now. The love you all gave for your children just shines from your words x x x

I totally agree with you, and it's lovely you are going to foster soon. Can I ask where you are on the fostering ladder?
We are also trying to foster we went to are 1st foster training meeting last week. It was good fun but loads of things to think about.
Have you done your foster training yet ?

Anyway good luck to every one else on this board I hope you get your baby's soon.xxxx

 

[Rainy123]

I hate to tell you all this but I am going to be a mummy to the two most gorgeous boys in the world I am smiling this evening after seeing hundreds of photos! They are real little boys and I can't wait for July now!

 

[helloeveryone]

So pleased for you rainy, been quietly following everyone's story's on here.
How old are your 2 boys ? I am trying to start to foster I have only been one 1 foster training meeting so far.
So excited to get started..

 

[karenh]

Yay Rainy! I am so excited for you to get your boys!

 

[Lolly1985]

Rainy I am so so happy for you!!! Amazing update, you better be celebrating this weekend now they really are really real

iow that's such a lovely thing to say. So so glad you've got so much from our little thread! My daughter is my little soulmate, we were meant to be together and I love her to the moon and back. I think from your words you will make a fantastic foster carer.

Karen it's lovely to have you back! So sorry you have the stress from your agency. You're a good person and really deserve your family

Congratulations to Loski and Dream on your anniversaries!! Time just flies doesn't it?!

How is teething going Aimze? Not fun, poor babies. Little pink cut another tooth last week, I feel your pain

Love to everyone else

9 months ago today we met our precious daughter. 9 months ago I fell in love with a tiny pink princess who made my heart smile and the world good. Now I have two babies, my perfect little family. Times are extremely hard at the moment with one needing me emotionally and at home and the other physically and in the hospital. But we'll get there, we always do, and I adore my children

 

[Loski83]

Rainy July will soon be here pleased you have seen loads of pics of your boys. Lolly it must be extremely tough for you and your family been thinking about you's.

 

[iow_bird]

I totally agree with you, and it's lovely you are going to foster soon. Can I ask where you are on the fostering ladder?
We are also trying to foster we went to are 1st foster training meeting last week. It was good fun but loads of things to think about.
Have you done your foster training yet ?

Anyway good luck to every one else on this board I hope you get your baby's soon.xxxx

We're in New Zealand, so I think the system my be different here. We just completed our training last week and at the last session she asked us if we would consider taking a new born who is still in mums tum. Just waiting on our official letter of approval at the moment.

 

[iow_bird]

Congratulations rainy! That's fantastic news! Xxx.

 

[LolaM]

the thing to remember about fostering is...when they present examples to you, those are the worst cases, most tragic events. The older kids come with more baggage, the younger ones have need lots of attention. But they all need love and nothing is forever. I was a teenager in foster care and I made it out alive and am a fairly productive citizen!

oh lolly! I cant image! Im having enough of a time with a 3.5 year old and a 3 week old right under my roof! Its not forever, soon both babies will be home with you "this too shall pass"

 

[karenh]

How was everyone's weekends? I went on a hike and am now sore, but it was worth it.

 

[PDubs10612]

Hi everyone...we are expecting to be placed with a toddler very soon and I am trying to get a list of questions together to ask the child's worker and birthmom. I am looking mostly for questions that the child may ask some day that a birthmom would know about her child to help them feel more connected to their past. I think I have most of the standard stuff but thinking more like these questions:

has he ever had....
- chicken pox?
- broken bone?
-surgery?
- a cavity?
what was his first word?
who was he named after?

Any suggestions would be appreciated and if anyone wants my "questionnaire" when I 'm done I'd be happy to forward it on

Thanks

 

[karenh]

I don't have any advice, but congratulations!

 

[PDubs10612]

Thanks Karen

 

[dreamofabean]

Welcome pdubs!
Congratulations! I asked things that covered milestones so first tooth, crawling etc, our boy was very young so hadn't had many but I think it's nice to know! Id ask about allergies, illnesses, any interests within family, any wishes they'd like carried out if you thought appropriate (eg baptism etc), interests of birth family so they get a feel for what they were like when they grow up etc. Any issues within pregnancy or afterwards, are there siblings and if so where are they etc? Who do they look like? Personality traits, who do they take after?
We weren't able to meet with birth family and I wish we had been as there are so many questions I still have unanswered! Lol