Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Ahhh great news bluebumble!! I often hoped you were getting on ok so I am so pleased to hear your news. Did you get approved for 1 or 2 little ones and what age? I hope your wait is not too long. Keep us posted!! xxx

 

[bluebumble]

Hi Lolly

Thanks! your turn next

we were approved for 1 age 0-5.

what are you hoping for?

 

[LolaM]

Hi Lolly

Thanks! your turn next

we were approved for 1 age 0-5.

what are you hoping for?

Why just 1? How many did you want?

 

[bluebumble]

We only want 1 child lola. I think the American system works very different to the UK system. We do have the option to go back and adopt again if a sibling comes along or we want to do it again.

However, having read and experienced sibling trauma bond I very much doubt we will. We are more than happy with just 1 child

 

[Loski83]

Blue bumble I'm so happy for you and you will be blessed with 1 child. Our little girl makes us so happy that I think anymore would be too much lol

 

[Lolly1985]

We are hoping and praying we will be approved for one child also, age range for us is 0-3 years. We really considered siblings and our social worker felt we had the capacity but in the end and for many reasons we have decided one now and we will probably go for a second down the line. Still so excited for you blue!!!

Well approval panel was a month yesterday!! Although our par isn't finished so I'm getting doubtful... I reckon I may be joining dream in June! XxxX

 

[bluebumble]

Thanks Loski

Lolly, our par wasnt completed until about 2 weeks before so dont worry.

A week before we were still waiting to see the final report and sign it

 

[Loski83]

Lolly there's plenty of time to have par done in time
We where approved for 1 aged 0-3 as well, lolly my little girl is kissing your cat shouting woof woof lol

 

[Lolly1985]

Awww Loski, what a total cutie, I love that!!!

Thanks girls, maybe there is time yet, I will keep you posted!! xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
Blue bumble congrats!!
Lolly I'm sure there's plenty of time!!
I'm feeling rather stressed today! 2 of our referees have been interviewed this week and by the sound of it both kept going on about when we get our 'baby'. Now we have told people until we're blue in the face that it will be a toddler, not a baby but they don't listen! I'm worried Sw will think we've not listened to what we've been told etc!
Probably stupid but it's worrying me! She's out to see us on Friday and I have visions of a lecture on how babies aren't ready for adoption etc!
Am I being daft? Just wish people would think before they speak! Lol

 

[LolaM]

ok...so...it appears that our SW is calling our references and asking them if they mailed their reference letter and if they wanted to change anything they wrote?????

 

[Loski83]

Dream of a bean, all my referees where saying we where getting a baby girl constantly which bothered me. Now though when I think about it this child will be your baby and also the newest member of your family so technically the baby of the family. All of my family and friends bought baby girl cards and bought her presents for coming home. So tell your social worker if she says anything that it will be your baby regardless of age. Good luck for Friday dream and try not to get worked up about the little things they really are insignificant.

 

[Loski83]

Lola it will just be their procedure don't worry about it.

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks ever do much loski you're right, it is just something silly! I guess I'm just getting twitchy as we get closer! Lol!
Will definitely say that though x

 

[ipen44]

Hi lovely ladies. Happy to see how much progress everyone is making.

Last Friday, we met our 30 hour old baby girl and took her home from the hospital. What a surreal feeling. One minute worrying that all could be lost and 2 hours later being rolled out of the hospital in a wheel chair holding a newborn.

Wow, she is a gorgeous! She is so sweet and is a really easy baby. We are on a . Other adoptive parents have told us that when it is your baby, you just know. That sounded like weird advice. Of course, you would welcome and love any baby you were matched with, but I tell you--there is a feeling of absolute certainty that this exact right child made it to you. Such a miracle.

 

[drudai]

Fantastic ipen! I'm so happy for you.

So glad you all are so close to holding your little ones. And I agree, no matter the age, they're always your baby. xx

 

[Aimee4311]

Yay! I've been waiting for an update ipen! I knew the baby was due any day, and was wondering how y'all were! Congratulations!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Aww ipen what amazing news!
Well, our visit did not go how I envisioned!! we did the session and it was all fine. Then she looked very serious and said there was something she needed to talk to us about. I panicked n thought a lecture was coming! Lol
No... 2 profiles! A sibling group of a boy and a girl aged 9 months and 22 months!! They don't have placement orders yet but she wanted to know how we felt about it. If we want to go ahead they will do match panel at the same time as approval panel and they could be placed as early as July.
I'm in shock and don't know what to think!!! got a lot of thinking to do!!

 

[Loski83]

Wow so much good news ipen I bet your in complete awe with your baby girl and your so lucky to get such a young baby, enjoy every moment with her.
Dream that's sounds really good when are they expecting to have placement orders for them. July isn't far away either everyone's so close now it's surreal.

 

[dreamofabean]

She didn't say and tbh I was in shock and didn't ask! Ha ha!
Dh and I just really need to think about whether they ate right for us. Tbh the history is very simple and not bad at all which is great. Just whether we think 2 kids so close in ages is right for us.
I just don't know how people 'know' lol