Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Thanks so much guys, finally feeling like my life and journey is making sense xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks girls
Awww lolly that's soooo exciting!!! I can't wait to hear how it goes xx

 

[LolaM]

we have laughing and we can find our binkie and we are moving all over the place--on our hands and knees rocking...soon to CRAWL!

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Wow!!!!!!!!!! Look at all these updates!!!!!!!! HOW EXCITING

 

[Lolly1985]

So today our SW came to visit. She was 15 minutes early and was stood on the doorstep when I pulled up But all in all we are so glad we had the session as it has really helped us to begin to prepare for Thursday. She asked us some mock questions like why this child? What challenges may we face? What are we looking forward to? What if the child didn't attach to us immediately? Then supported us in preparing some answers. We gave her our questions and her list was about five times as long But a lot were what I had deemed more appropriate for foster carers like sleep pattern, routine, how well settled child is etc. So now we feel almost ready but kind of more nervous!! We have lots of notes so better get swotting!

On Thursday SW is arriving about 45 minutes ahead of child's SW and family finder to help us calm down (she knows me too well ) I didn't think she was coming, to which she replied "of course I am!" so I feel better about that. We have rearranged our furniture so we are all face to face on Thursday and SW has advised nice biscuits!! I asked what is the likelihood of things not proceeding and she said it can happen (was hoping for complete reassurance ) but said as they sourced us above others (turns out the approached her, she knew nothing of littlie at that stage) she is hopeful. Child's SW is off sick soon for an op, so we hop to be told whether things will proceed fairly quickly. Good, I will need putting out of my misery either way

During the whole of the adoption process I hadn't actually thought about this bit. It is scary!! I feel like we are being interviewed for a child. It feels unnatural but I know it is necessary. We need to come across well but not be too formal. SW says just to be ourselves, but how can we be when we will be so nervous?!! DF is used to business meetings so he is going to try and relax and be his usual chatty out of work self and i'm going to try and smile a lot!! 2 sleeps

 

[dreamofabean]

Eeek! It's all do real now lolly!!!!! Yay!! Can't wait to hear how it goes
We had a surprise email off Sw today! It was inviting us to an activity day on Sunday where children up for adoption will be with their Sw and fcs so we can meet them, along with other adopters! Eek!
I'm well aware it'll prob be older children or hard to place kids but its def worth going so that's where we will be on Sunday! Whoop! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Yay Dream That is exciting stuff, and your visit is drawing ever closer too Good times lovely

 

[LolaM]

First court date on August 8th

 

[Monkey78]

Good Luck everyone, lots going on for you all

 

[ayclobes]

Can any of you give me advice on how to set proper boundaries with our son's BM? BTW, she also has FASD, so her brain mentality is that of a 12 year old..given she is 21 years old also

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Lolly we had to answer those questions as well...it comes out of your mouth I couldn't stop crying LOL it was funny afterwards the judge just looked at me like "aww" lol he was so happy for us and could tell we were HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY

Dream you'll love the day they have all kinds of stuff for the kids to do....we have picnics here with TONS of activities they are AWESOME

 

[Lolly1985]

Are you in the US? I'm UK and that wouldn't happen here as there are strict rules around contact that is closely monitored by social workers. If it is breached they can step in. If written contact is deemed inappropriate it is intercepted before the receiving person is aware.

I'm really sorry it is hard now. I really feel for you. Hope some of our ladies can step in with advice. Not sure how your system works but good luck xxx

Well, one sleep until social worker bombardment, we will be outnumbered!!! xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Crossed posts with Andrea!! Thanks lovely, I hope that happens for us rather than just going blank. House is clean, new cushions purchased(!!!) and yummy biscuits at the ready!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Eek lolly!!! Really hope it goes well
Andrea thanks I'm looking forward to it!

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks dream, majorly scared now!!!

 

[dreamofabean]

You'll be wonderful! Remember they're not there to catch you out! Just to see what a lovely couple you are cxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks so much my lovely!! Hope he sleep tonight, but least it's not quite as hot so that may help a little...!

 

[Loski83]

Lolly good luck for today I will be thinking about you and df and look forward to hearing all about it.
Dream hope you find a child on Sunday and if not have a great day.
Lola congrats on first court date.
My news is that I'm sending lo's passport off today so it should be back in plenty of time for hold. We've had her now longer than anyone else had her and it feels like such a milestone. On Saturday she has been home for 10 months its flown over.

 

[Lolly1985]

I'm going to be a mummy!!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Congratulation Loski, lovely update xxx