Adoption journey

[Aimee4311]

Aww, Lolly! Sorry she's having a tough time with teeth! At least you know what it is, so if she's cranky tomorrow you'll know why!

Josalyn has off days too, where she's cuddly, then cranky, then cuddly, then upset, then happy again. I think they're just always learning and processing so much, sometimes they just have a bad day!

Just go with the flow! I know it's hard when you can't make it all better.

 

[Loski83]

Lolly welcome to the world of grouchy babies. Remember calpol and teething products are your best friend at the moment lol. Try not too stress and don't think too much into her behaviour I know it's hard but it's probably not related to adoption at all and just a normal little girl taking her mood out on the people she's safest with her mammy and daddy.

 

[aimze]

Had the medical done today, £75 spent on 30minutes of a GP's time for her to be SUPER rude and ignorant! She didnt crack a smile the whole way through!

Also annoyed with agency, they keep emailing my wrong address, so who knows who is receiving all my personal information!!!! They also keep banging on about addresses I lived at but was only for such a short time I was never registered there, I wish I kept schtum about them! I work in a job that knows all about people living where they do so I know that when I lived there because there wasnt even a tenancy agreement as I lived with freinds I wasn't technically "there" if you get me!

Lots of love to you all x

 

[karenh]

Lolly, I hope things are going better today.

Aimze: Sorry the Doc was so rude and you are having a tough time with your agency. Don't they understand this is hard enough without them getting on you for nit picky things? I hope it works out.

Lola: I hope things are calming a little at your place. I wish I could be there to help.

Prayerful: How are you doing?

Loski: How is your little one recovering after the holiday?

I am just hanging in here. Going to try and update my blog today.

 

[aimze]

Thanks Karen...Last workshop tomorrow then interveiw to proceed into stage 2...We shall see if the recurrent miscarriage testing will come up and get in the way!

xx

 

[karenh]

Last workshop?!? That is exciting! I hope your interview goes well and that they will be OK with the testing.


Guess what?!? I got an email that our background checks came back passed today! They are supposed to take min 3 weeks and max 6 weeks. I didn't expect it to be done until the end of the month. Today is exactly 2 weeks since they were submitted! I am really excited. Now we wait for our homestudy to be written up. I don't have any idea how long that is going to take, or if he is going to have stuff we need to work on first, but hey, a little progress! Made my day!

PS: It is my mom's 50th birthday, and tomorrow my little sister finds out if her third will be a boy or a girl. Big week here in my fam.

 

[Lolly1985]

Karen That's great news! Here's hoping everything will be as speedy! Lots happening for you, its so exciting!

Have a good day tomorrow Aimze, sorry things have been a bit tough at the moment

Thanks for the support ladies, today has been much better. we have been out and registered at the children's centre and dentist and got lots of free goodies! Have managed to clean ready for SW visit tomorrow and made little pink a spag bol for dinner and apple and banana for pudding. She didn't eat it all but it's new tastes and lumps (she had pureed food and jars in FC) so i'm just delighted she's tried some and actually enjoyed! Then she was sick.... DF thought the food was too rich but hadn't seen the head stand and roll she had just performed!! Bottle and into the cot, chatted for a minute and then asleep, yeeeees!!

 

[puppymom32]

Lolly the teething was horrible for us. So glad that stage is over. My little man had issues with every single tooth. You should start a parenting journal now!!!! It is so much fun to have a journal to keep all those memories in!!

 

[AndreaFlorida]

I've read a bit and caught up So happy for everyone.....I've been out of town and hubby's bday was the 27th the day little pink came home forever!!!!!!!! We had a great time to as we gave in laws a surprise visit they were super happy only 2nd time they'd seen the girls they were so happy and J's grandmom met the girls for the very first time she thought they were adorable we only could stay a short time though as she's very sickly in her old age But she was happy we saw the smiles on her face It made Jason's year because his dream was to see her one more time before anything happened and he got his "final goodbye" out so you could say He said he felt weights off his shoulders so happy he was able to see his "grannie".....Anyways we are home now got in two days ago and I've caught a bad cold/flu or something....I'm trying to avoid the dr....but who knows if I can last much longer this cough and my left ear are in so much pain....If not better in a few days I'll phone the dr....

I hope everyone had a lovely weekend...I'm glad to be home though that is for sure Traveling with all the kids is a lotta work

 

[aimze]

Dream I saw this and thought of us...

https://www.notonthehighstreet.com/makingstatements/product/dance-in-the-rain-wall-lettering

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks Andrea! Sounds a lovely holiday and so glad your hubby fulfilled his wish, must have been emotional but lovely And credit to you, travelling with 4 LOs Good work girl

Puppymom, thank you for the sympathy!! It is horrible, don't really understand until there is your baby crying in pain in front of you and really there is nothing you can do! I don't think I will find the time just yet to start a jopurnal, but watch this space! It'll be surreal to join all the Mummies

Ok rant alert......

So we just had our review. I should be concentrating on the positive, but a little annoyed about one aspect.... anyway, the good... little pink's SW is delighted at how well she is settling, she observed her cuddling into me lots and sitting on Daddy's knee (all the while avoiding her ) She said we look tired (yuh huh! ) but that we are coping well. She asked about sleep, eating habits etc and is pleased she is doing so well as it shows she feels safe So on to the whinge... she asked whether she had shown any distress, I said just from teeth issues and a little bump she had. Well then it was where did she bump, what happened, you need to tell me, what did you do, do you know the signs of concussion blah blah blah! She made me feel awful She was only pulling to stand and slipped and had a tiny knock, we were there but sometimes you can't quite catch them in time I know she has to cover her back, I get it, but still aggravated me. I told her I had dealt with lots of bumps using my many years in nursery, had put a cold compress on and didn't deem it to be a significant knock She said if it happens again we have to call her For goodness sake, I have worked with children for years, I have seen a child break their arm, have a seizure, split their head and loose a tooth when they fell. I know when to worry and when to think its all part of the learning process Makes me conscious she isn't really mine at all yet

 

[Loski83]

Lolly just chose what to tell them in future as long as she's not in any danger don't mention it.
Karen my lo has settled down well after holidays now I'm trying to decide when to get rid of dummy she only has it to sleep with.
Andrea it sounds you you've had a great holiday and I'm pleased hubby and kids got to see his family.
Hi to everyone else lo is napping so I'm chilling out.

 

[karenh]

Lolly: I am so sorry meeting with SW was difficult. It is so frustrating that they think you aren’t able to handle bumps and bruises. It’s not like you have been dead to the world up until this point. How many visits do you have to have until the adoption is final?

Andrea: Sounds like the trip was just what you all needed. How perfect. I am sorry you aren’t feeling well. I hope you feel better soon. How is everything with the girls?

Aimze: That wall quote is cute. I have this on my wall. How did your last training go?

Loski: I am so glad she is settling. Good luck phasing out the pacifier. My sister had some luck with having her son throw them away and explaining what he was doing. I don’t know. I’m sure you will figure it out, you are such a grate mom.

 

[karenh]

I forgot to attach this

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Wow Lolly I kind of know that feeling. We had to do the same stupid thing....Our girls are SUPER clumsy and fall over for no reason at times...when we first got them Myra had fell and got a HUGE knot on her head that turned into a nice bruise....I immediately called the place and told them because I was NOT going to be held accountable for my unstable childs accident....It makes me so mad when they almost feel like they are accusing you of harming an innocent child I'm so sorry....and I'm with Loski on that don't tell them unless it leaves a mark or something Just keep it in lol.....they shouldn't need to know every single tiny little spill she takes....when we got our girls though we kept what I called an "Ouchie chart" everytime something left a mark I IMMEDIATELY wrote it down....anyways always helps to look back if you do forget to perhaps call or what not

As for me I've got a terrible cold from the weather changes I'm assuming between here at home and where we went to visit up close to Tennessee. (20 minutes from Memphis) lol its at the Mississippi/TN borders....but the cold has me all sorts of cruddy I'll be ok just gonna take it easy the next few days and rest as much as possible Well I guess I'm gonna go for now and go take a little nap while the kids are still at school then I have to get up an do some homework for school...Anyways I hope everyone has a lovely blessed day Muahhhz ladies I'm so happy for everyone and I LOVE THIS TIME OF YEAR it feels so nice outside and its beautiful weather the past week Have a great day everyone!

 

[Rainy123]

Hope you're all doing great. Work is still hectic for me so I read but don't find much time to post.

Having a cold sucks, Andrea so you have my sympathies.

Karen - so pleased that things are moving a long nice and quickly for you.

At work, news of my approval is starting to spread. Already got a few offers of play dates. I will have an amazing social life once baby is here,

 

[karenh]

That is awesome! Isn't it funny how people want to hang out once you have kids? I can't wait though. All my non fertility related friends have kids and my infertal friends are getting preggers and having babies. I want to be a mom for way more important reasons than that, but I am excited to be able to have that in common with them as well.

 

[aimze]

Karen fab wall hanging!!

Lolly I hope the next visit gets easier...it's bad when they're forcing you to lie to them! Imagine if you called her each time she wobbled over when she's at the standing up stage!

So finished last workshop of stage 1...interview 2 weeks tomorrow then they decide whether to proceed to stage 2...

X

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks girls, maybe I was being a bit over sensitive as the rest was very positive, I just found it over the top and a bit insulting really. Surely no bumps ever indicates I'm not letting her explore, play, take risks, all helping her to learn?!! Anyway, I'll get over it and keep quiet next time

Oh Andrea you poor thing, hope you feel better very quickly, sending lots of love and hugs hun xxx

Aimze, congratulations lovely, next stage, whoop whoop!! So what happens now?

How is everyone else today?

Little pink is in full swing already and Daddy has a cold again. Looks like a girlie day today. Her eating is going well and last night she happily sang in her cot for about 10 minutes before going to sleep all by herself, yay!! We have been told we can start to introduce family a bit more now. My parents arrive Sunday for a week and I cannot wait!! We are also Skyping my brother in America later, he is totally smitten with her, it's lovely to see!

Latest developments are feeding mummy (and sneaky way of eating less dinner me thinks!!) and talking on her toy phone. She has also taken to cuddling the laminated photos of us we had at foster carers, and talking to the one of the cat, it's majorly cute!! She's a delight but I am still feeling very tired with an achy back!! Wouldn't ever change it though

 

[aimze]

Amazing to hear Lolly

So we have an interveiw in two weeks (3 hour one!) where they reveiw everything we have provided so far an the medical...

They then agree whether we can proceed to stage 2...Stage two is for 4 months...3 full day workshops, weekly social workers and more coursework...

Hopefully we're accepted! I'm just not sure whether we'll get stopped because of our recurrent miscarriage investigations!

x