Adoption journey

[Loski83]

Lolly so happy to hear you have your cat back and that he's ok. You need to put your picture back on now that he's safe xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Glad your cat is home safe lolly
I've decided I'm making an adoption scrapbook for our little one! I'll start it with Dh and my story and then how we found them n then their journey with us
Have ordered my album and it arrived today. I'm so pleased with it: it's gorgeous!!
I think it'll be something lovely to have to look back on
Hope everyone is ok x

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi all!

Thanks for your kind words about my beautiful kitty, I was lost without him! Can't believe the whole ordeal, but he is home and that is what matters

Dream, lovely idea! I had thought about doing that but since getting our session one homework early I may be changing my mind...

So, came home to our official application form on the door mat, woooo! Also, like I said, SW has emailed session one homework - (wow!!) - finace spreadsheet, checklist of official docs we need to produce and chronology. I have emailed my HR about pre adoption leave entitlement and apparently I am entitled to it paid but they haven't specified how much, just says a 'reasonable amount' and to speak to my manager and give as much notice as possible. So prep course 2 weeks wednesday and HS starting a month today... gearing up to spill the beans tomorrow... Eeeeek!

 

[dreamofabean]

Yay!! What's your homework if you don't mind me asking?! We're being given some basic stuff at our meeting on 23rd and wondering what it'll be!!
I'm a bit of a Saddo and love this kind of thing so it'll be a labour of love along with the shelf unit I bought at weekend to decorate for lo's room! not that I'm getting too excited

 

[Lolly1985]

The first session is one family and childhood. So have to write a profile on each of our family members, name, age, what they do, their personality etc. Then move on to 47 questions(!) about childhood, eg, what were happy memories, sad memories, parents parenting styles, how this will influence the way we parent our children, the relationship I had with my parents then and now, education, did I like school etc, how important is education. A bit about diversity, lifestyle, lots of stuff! But I am also being a geek and can't wait to get going, have been making lots of bullet points

 

[Milty]

How interesting when we did ours here in the US it was the exact same thing.

 

[zero7]

Lolly- so pleased you got your kitty back! I have three and they are my fur babies, so can understand your complete distress!

Hope everyone is OK. We are awaiting a couple of meetings pre matching panel with pickle. Time is dragging!!!

Love the scrapbook idea! - what are your thoughts about what to put in??

XXX

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh how interesting!!!i can't wait to start it all!
So far in my scrapbook ideas I have: how Dh and I met, when we got engaged and then married, moving into first
home and then it'll go onto
Adoption journey. So dates of meetings and our thoughts about them, then hopefully to panel n match etc. for child well pick up where we are as they'll have a life story book for them also from ss. Just think it'll be lovely to have

 

[Lolly1985]

My beautiful kitty cat in back as my piccie!! He is here next to me all snuggled up. I must admit I had some anxiety driving up to the house at 6.30, but luckily he was there waiting for me!!

Dream, that all sounds lovely. You will have written your own PAR!!

Milty, how are things? Did you get a follow up appt with your SW?

Zero, keep reciting, good things come to those who wait, good things come to those who wait... (and damn it, we all know about the waiting part in this journey! )

Loski, hope LO is good? Have you been on any autumn walks yet? It's the little things like that, and like Zero said, feeding the ducks, that I can't wait for!

Right girls, kick me, but I bottled telling my manager today. Got in there and froze and started talking about a visit I had yesterday instead... I have no idea why I am scared, I'm sure she will be lovely with it. I think it is just because no one outside of family and close friends really knows. No one at work know anything, not the IF, ICSI, or anything adoption related, so will be shocked to say the least. I have to do it tomorrow, I need to secure the time of for prep (2 weeks tomorrow ) Wish me luck all over again...!!!

 

[puppymom32]

Good Luck lolly you can do it.

Hang in there zero it will be here before you know it. Big Hugs

dream scrapbook sounds lovely wish I had thought to do one.

 

[Loski83]

Hi everyone, lolly good luck I'm sure she will be happy for you.
We took our lo to flamingo land on Sunday with 14 other members of family she loved going on the little rides and did really well with being out all day and the big change in routine. We try to go for a walk everyday with our dog but doesn't always happen. We are meeting up with foster carers a week on Saturday I'm feeling a bit anxious about that as we would of only had lo for 5 weeks scared incase she cries to go back with them or something.
Anyway I hope everyone is having a good week so far.

 

[Loski83]

I thought I would introduce you all to my beautiful girl
Don't know how to turn it around sorry

 

[puppymom32]

Awww she is adoarable hun look at all that lovely hair. I know meeting with the foster carers will be scary but even is she does act closer to them it will only be a matter of time when all she will want is her mommy.

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Loski, she is beautiful!! Looks like such a smiler, and like Puppy said, what amazing hair Your trip out sounds fab, and I bet she slept well after all the excitement!

Well, still not told my boss, but only because our schedules keep clashing. Only time she could see me today I was on visits and vice versa Well, she did say she could squeeze me in for 5 minutes after lunch, but don't fancy rushing through this one! It is my graduation tomorrow and she is on annual leave friday, so it goes into next week now. Should have just manned up and told her yesterday I have emailed her the times I will be around next week and hope she is in the office at least one of the sessions. Hoping for monday afternoon, this is stressing me out now!!

Hugs all

 

[dreamofabean]

Loski she is just beautiful!!!

 

[Milty]

Very cute Loski !!

Lolly you have plenty of time to tell her I would feel guilty or rushed.

 

[zero7]

Soooo cute Loski....even upside down!!!

I don't understand the need for this meeting with the foster carer. For whose benefit is it for??? (I'm thinking it has to be the foster carer - so I don't get it!). Honestly, sometimes I wonder what these 'professionals' are thinking!!!

Anyway, hope it goes well and does not disrupt your girl!

Lolly- no rush for you hon, all in good time! (Basically, when YOU are ready).

As for us, we have had the pre panel meeting. All went very well. We went over the legalities, post support plan/assessments and signed some paperwork. Next time we all meet up again will be panel!

Have ordered our Tomy talking album and a cute soft cube that you can put photos in which has a rattle in the centre! SW'ers liked this idea very much!!! Its by Eric Carle and I got ours through amazon.

XXX

 

[Loski83]

Thankyou zero, yeah it's for the foster family so that they can see she is settled. It's all sounding very positive I bet you can't wait to get panel over with. We got the galt soft photo album and the tomy talking one panel where very happy with them. Lolly just tell them when your ready to and don't feel pressured.
Thankyou all for your lovely comments about my daughter and yes she has loads of hair. She is crawling now so getting all over.

 

[Milty]

You will have to learn to braid

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh I love that photo cube may have to purchase one!!