Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

I need to start writing lists of all the good ideas that keep popping up on threads! Love the cube idea Zero!

Loski, good luck meeting foster carers , I hope that it doesn't unsettle your LO. But i'm sure she knows who her mummy is. Again, she is so pretty!

Going to meet with my manager next week. She sent me a nice email saying she hoped that I was ok (obviously intrigued!) Meeting with my friend Monday to ask her to be a referee. I had a mini panic yesterday and emailed SW as it said our referees need to have known us for at least 5 years. Well me and DF have only been together just over 5 years so that was tricky. Also, they were hopeful of referees being in this area. I moved up here to be with DF 4 years ago, so people who know me best are down south. SW was really nice and said to put down one from down south who has known us both for 5 years, SIL and both mine and DFs friend who he has known a while (but me only for 4 years) Because of this we may need another refernce each but she says not a problem. Who knew it could be so complicated!! We have a great support network, it is just people in one location that know us collectively for over 5 years that we are finding tricky

 

[Lyns]

Awwww, Loski.......she is adorable, and its lovely to see her looking so happy i bet you make a gorgeous family!

Well we are tentatively linked again.....am not feeling quite as easy about it this time, not sure yet whether its just not quite as right, or me holding back! Another little 2 year old boy.....a tiny bit younger than the last! Let me explore my feelings a bit and i'll be back with more, i'm sure....time will tell!

Maybe it'll go somewhere....maybe it won't. But the nice thing is, today i bumped into an old friend, one i hadn't seen for nearly ten years. Unbeknownst to me, she's just adopted....she was matched 3 times before her little angel came along, and all she said was, that as much as she was distraught at the time, she is now so grateful the first two didn't happen, as this one is so clearly her baby....and i do know our baby is out there somewhere too

Xx

 

[Loski83]

I'm really happy for you lyns and hope everything goes right this time for you I'm sure it will. It's funny how everything happens for a reason we just don't realise it at the time. I have them magazines ready to send do you still want them or should I leave it.

 

[Lolly1985]

So we have had a busy weekend speaking with our chosen referees. Luckily they were all very happy to have been asked, and I even had one offering to drive 400 miles to come and meet our SW in the new year!

Also spoke to my manager today (was shaking like a leaf! ) But as everyone predicted, she was very happy for us! She has granted me paid HS leave and offered to give a reference before I even had to ask. I said I would take prep training as annual leave and while unlikely, she said to leave it with her just in case I am entitled to any addition leave allocation. Phew! So officially sending our application off tomorrow.

9 sleeps til prep

Lyns, fingers crossed thiss is your baby xxx

 

[puppymom32]

Lyns I completely agree with your friend. The right baby for you will find its way to you. And it will be what is supposed to be. 2 yo little boys are so much fun mine is 22 month so I def know.

Awesome news lolly!!!

Hope everyone else is well.

 

[Loski83]

Lolly I'm so pleased it has gone so well for you, your manager sounds like she will be really helpful which will make your adoption journey a lot easier.

 

[Lyns]

Loski, I';d love to see the magazines if it's still OK. We feel very reluctant to put all our eggs in one basket at the moment, at leat until we have a linking meeting planned. No date for it yet, so who knows what could happen!! xx

 

[Loski83]

Great I will send them tomorrow for you, they are quite sad to look at especially when you see the same little face every month.

 

[Loski83]

A bit of advice, adopt your babies with a full set of teeth lol. Teething is hell for her and us and there's not a lot we can do except comfort her. I think it may be an eventful night tonight took about 40 mins to get her to sleep then she has been up at 11 and just gone back down seems to be when the calpol wears of so going to buy ibuprofen tomorrow as apparently it lasts 8 hours

 

[puppymom32]

Loski we had the same problem every single tooth X has gotten has been misery. Not sure if they have teething tablets over there or not but they were the only thing that helped. All natural too so not like teething gels.

 

[Lolly1985]

Hello all!

Hope everyone is having good weekends, teething aside, poor little loves

Loski, I see from your ticker it is nearly LOs birthday, how exciting have you anything planned?

4 sleeps until prep.... eeeep

 

[Loski83]

Hi everyone, we have 2 teeth through and more to come. Lolly we are having a quiet day on Friday and then a party on Saturday with 10 under 5's a bit scary.

 

[zero7]

Oh man! This time is passing so slowly! Every day that goes by, I'm feeling like I'm missing out on my little girl! Its like a slow torture!

I have completed my photo cube and started to make another album which will have a few more photos in it. The cube only takes six little photos and the talking album takes eight, so it will be nice to include other things in her bigger album like her bedroom and some of the garden etc.

Hope everyone is OK and that things are progressing nicely for those waiting..

XX

 

[Loski83]

Zero you will forget about all the waiting once you have her won't be long now. Lolly how you feeling about prep not long now xx

 

[Lolly1985]

That sounds lovely Loski, 10 kiddies will be a breeze... just like a day a work Maybe not eh....

Zero, can only imagine the days are dragging but I am 100% certain that once you meet your little pickle time will never drag again

Hi to the rest of the gang, hope you are all ok?

2 days to go!! Well, 2 sleeps, so even sooner! On another forum I have met a girl who is attending our prep, and her and her hubby are both a year older than me and DF. Looking forward to meeting like minded people. Nervous, but ultimately excited. Feels a long time coming and this is only the start!

Lolly xxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Zero hopefully time will fly!
Loski how exciting
Lolly it's so close now!! Very exciting!!
We had our meeting with sw today! We filled in our crb forms and medicals but can't do anything with them until January! We've been given the dates for training too! Whoop! 13th march is 1st date! There are 6 days in all: we'll see how my head teacher responds to that
We have been given an example family book to look at and lots of basic paperwork to do before we meet again in January!
It's so exciting but training seems so far away!!

 

[Lolly1985]

That's great dream! I must be hard as training is a way away, but christmas will break it all up and time will fly (as it always does!) Plus, as you are getting so well prepared now, hopefully you will be plain sailing after prep! Wow, 6 days is a lot, good luck telling your headteacher Is it broken up into one session a week, or blocks or what? Glad to hear all continues to go well. How is the scrapbook coming on?

Well tomorrow is the day! Not nervous right now, but sure it'll kick in tomorrow in the car or when we attempt breakfast! Not sure it feels quite real yet! have been ploughing on with the homework, there is just so much Poor DF doesn't know where to start! But she said just to get familiar with it all and we will learn more in prep training (and there is me 2/3 way through )

Hi to all, hope everyone is well and having a good week

 

[dreamofabean]

Scrapbook is coming along on pc but not printed bits off yet! Lol! I've spent far too much money on it though!
We were also told to get a nice album for our family book too! Ha ha! More shopping for me!! Whoop!!
Training is 3 days one week and 3 the next! Not always full days but they can't tell us what times yet!!
Awww you will be great honey!! Let me know how it goes!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

That's good they are spread out, but not too far apart - if you get me drift!! We are meeting for coffee and biscuits for 9.30, with 9.45 start. Aim is to finish around 4pm, but I'm guessing that is quite flexible. We have 3 days now, and a forth day nearer to panel, which covers the matching process and post adoption support.

Loving all the shopping - any excuse eh You will have a lovely keepsake at the end of it all. You won't need a PAR at this rate

 

[Loski83]

Lolly I hope today has gone well and that it is informative for you and df.