Adoption journey

[zero7]

Hi Loski. I know that in England and Wales, the child has to be living permanently with the adoptive parents for at least 10 weeks before an application can be made to the court. From memory (from the prep course), the time frame for the adoption to be complete (order granted) is around 6-9 months from the date that the child was placed.
Our paperwork is going in at the beginning of March I think.

Hope this helps. Xxxxxxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Ah Milty i'm really sorry. How difficult to go head to head with others like that. Sometimes they do it here, called competitive matching. But many agencies don't agree with it (ours being one) as it is very stressful on you guys I can't comment on feeling as I haven't ever looked at a prfile, but what I would say (from what I have heard from others) if you don't feel anything maybe these little ones are not right for you and your family. But they will be for someone else so you mustn't feel guilty if it is not meant to be. It is sad it drags on like this, thinking of you xxxxx

 

[Loski83]

Hi good luck milty the right child/children will come along and you will know when you see them. Lolly sounds like you are going along nicely. It's 10 weeks after placement here but then they said it had to bea second review decision. Anyway we have had lo for 15 weeks now, I phoned sw today to see what's happening and paperwork will be finished on Monday and sent to courts next week as well, so hopefully not long now.

 

[ttcmoon]

I am looking to adopt a baby in India.Can anyone help?

 

[Loski83]

Sorry I don't know anything about adopting from abroad, but we can be good support or just someone to vent to. Good luck with your journey xx

 

[LolaM]

Looks like Ill be having my home inspection this Friday! Sure hope I pass!

 

[Loski83]

Good luck Lola hope it goes well for you x

 

[zero7]

Good luck Lola- I'm sure it will be fine. XXXX

 

[dreamofabean]

Good luck Lola!! X

 

[LolaM]

They canceled my inspection! And my husband isnt helping with his nasty attitude today

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh no Lola, i'm really sorry It's horrible to build yourself up to something and then it is taken away, have the rearranged?

Hope everyone else is ok in adoption land

We have had our fifth session today - support network, local community and 'child friendly' and support facilities. All went well. SW said we are motoring through now Next HS session in 2 weeks and final training in 3 weeks, busy busy

 

[Milty]

I have another matching review meeting with SW tomorrow. I'm hopeful.

 

[Loski83]

Hi Lola sorry to hear your visit has been cancelled and hope you have sorted things out with your husband and remember men aren't as mushy as us women nod don't always realise that they are being nasty.
Lolly you sound like your really happy I can just sense it in your message and I'm so pleased that its going good for you.
Milty good luck I really hope this is the child for you.
Zero hope your ok and having fun with your little girl.
Hi to everyone else.
I have read the court papers today our sw has finished them and emailed them to our little girls sw so hopefully they will be submitted soon. Things have settled into a lovely routine for us now and we have stopped the night time feeds so lo is eating so much better through the day and gaining weight.

 

[LolaM]

Oh no Lola, i'm really sorry It's horrible to build yourself up to something and then it is taken away, have the rearranged?

Hope everyone else is ok in adoption land

We have had our fifth session today - support network, local community and 'child friendly' and support facilities. All went well. SW said we are motoring through now Next HS session in 2 weeks and final training in 3 weeks, busy busy

Yes, rescheduled today. They will be here Wednesday afternoon

 

[Milty]

That's good news !!!

 

[Loski83]

Happy for you Lola, hope you have a great meeting.

 

[Lolly1985]

That great Loski, she will be all your soon! And glad to hear she is so settled, you must not be able to imagine how it was before your daughter came home now

I hope the same can be said for you Zero! How is Pickle?

Hope you had a good meeting Milty, we are all hopeful for you!

Glad you don't have long to wait Lola. Any news on DH and the job front?

Hi Dream, how are you? How is your Gran getting on? Thinking of you

Hi to everyone else

Not much new since posting on Thursday My boss asked how my visit had gone so I proceeded to tell her all about what we discussed, next steps etc etc. She then said 'oh, I meant the home visit with work' The little girl I had been to see at home as part of my job Oh dear, adoption brain!!!! (forgot about my job )

 

[zero7]

Good luck Lola, and Milty - hope your meeting was fruitful

Loski- great news that your final stage is in motion. Hope it happens soon for you.

We are all good. Pickle is ace and we love her to bits - cannot remember what life was like before she was in our lives! Our second LAC review is in March, so our paperwork for court etc will be sorted then.

Loski- when you say night time feeds - do you mean actually during the night or last bottle of the day feed?? I have just cut out pickles afternoon bottle. She is still having her bottle morning and eve. She has about 12.5 oz of whole milk per day now plus a little in her porridge! Lunch time is a small sandwich plus fruit and small yogurt, dinner is what we are having or something appropriate followed by fruit puree. She will also have a snack sometimes mid afternoon. How does this compare to your LO? I feel like I am making it up as I go along sometimes!!!!

Love to everyone. XXXXXXX

 

[Loski83]

I mean milk through the night she was having a bottle 6oz each time at 7pm, 12am, 4am then breakfast at half 7. Hardly any lunch but try her with sandwich and yoghurt/fruit etc. then dinner the same as us but she would hardly touch it. Now she has breakfast 7:30 with banana or yoghurt. Then a snack about half ten and lunch at 12:30. Snack about 2:30 and lunch about 5:30. I offer her milk on morning and evening but she won't have it now and she isn't constipated anymore think its maybe been the milk. She sleeps roughly 7 till 7 now though

 

[zero7]

Wow Loski- what a change in her eating now!!! I didn't realize you were night feeding- you must have been knackered!!!!

I definately have seen a change in my LO eating since dropping the pm bottle i.e. she is eating better! Tonight she even ate peas with her tea!( she hates veg!!) Maybe I will cut down on her other milk a bit, but she still loves it so much......

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