Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

So much emotion is invested in ivf and the heartbreak that follows can destroy a person. I never experienced the joy, but hope I will be soon! Good luck with your decision Lola.

Dream I bet it is so satisfying clearing out ready to make your babies nursery. Woo!! I want to come and play, we have no toys yet as I'm still too scared to buy!!!!

Well social worker called just now, she has just finished our report and is submitting it first thing tomorrow!!

 

[dreamofabean]

I agree lolly, it almost broke me. I spent a year and a half being a person I didn't recognise! It's a very tough journey and all the harder when you get nothing but heartbreak out if it x

 

[AndreaFlorida]

We never attempted I had enough heartbreak as it was...I couldn't bother with anymore....thats why we decided on adoption. Plus my body wasn't working too well....my endometriosis is getting worse when they did my ablation on my uterus 3 weeks ago the doc said he wanted me back in 3 months to check and make sure I'm not ready for a hysterectomy yet and I'm only 28 (29 on Wednesday).....the whole fertility thing just got the best of me after 4 years and I just couldn't do anymore I had an emotional breakdown. I feel so relieved no longer worrying bout peeing on pregnancy tests and no more shots of Follistim LOL....but part of me will always wonder what if we would have done the IVF....but I'm happy where we are today so thats good....others it isn't so easy for and it breaks my heart for those. Praying for ALL of us

 

[LolaM]

Ooh gosh Lola! I agree with lolly that I couldn't imagine the thought of treatment now!good luck whatever you decide though Hun!
Well today we have started sorting bedrooms! Well, dh dismantled the spare bed before wk and then left me to it! it's strange seeing the room without a big person bed in now!
I have realised I need to stop buying toys as I have far too many! although I have to say lots have been donated by our wonderful friends
We have decided to decorate our bedroom as finances will be tighter once LO is here and then make a start on the nursery! Exciting times

I havent gotten any donations but my friends are eagerly awaiting playdates and birthday parties!

 

[LolaM]

I agree lolly, it almost broke me. I spent a year and a half being a person I didn't recognise! It's a very tough journey and all the harder when you get nothing but heartbreak out if it x

thats why we moved to adoption, we were paying and paying and nothing was happening, it was very upsettingand that was only 2 years and TI and 3 IUIs. We didnt want to keep paying and have nothing happen, but we have come to an agreement. Since its a donation, basically, and it is given only once a year, we will apply and if we get it we get it but we are continueing with our adoption as planned. I looked at some items today at Burlington, I resisted buying

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Prayers for either way it goes Its still hard on everyone. We all had our expectations and then they were broken down .......but we are here and we have survived a war within ourselves That means we are the strongest bunch of ladies I know

 

[ayclobes]

We are currently in the process of adopting our great nephew--he's in the foster care system, so its adoption through our state. Right now we are in the paper work process, where the state has to approve the adoption which is the last step before our adoption court hearing. We're hoping it'll be final by christmas...since he turns 2 in january!

 

[LolaM]

Another visit from our SW today. Our paperwork was submitted as planned. She said we should be recieving emails from the state licencing agency soon. SW will get with us, answer the questions and then submit them to the state.

On other news, i have decided to leave my current school and go work at another school, I will miss my team and my other coworkers but i think a move will be good for me. The bestest part? All I have to do it pack and the district moves my stuff!

 

[dreamofabean]

Exciting times Lola
We had our Sw out yesterday too. All went fine, we did the health and safety checks and the formal form looking at what special needs etc we would consider. Dh thought she was less friendly but I think he just felt a bit guilty
She mentioned that she may now make June panel and asked if we'd be upset,my face said it all! She reassured us she'll do all she can so sort it!
Our par has to be submitted on 29th may so she's hoping to bring a copy on 20th when we see her next to give us. I asked if we can have a copy to keep and she said we could so I was happy with that
Our family book needs to be completed for the 20th may too so last night I made dh start on the nursery! Lol. The dado rail is now off so I'm off to look for paint today! Exciting!!!

 

[Loski83]

Hi hope everyone is having a great weekend so far. It's my babies christening today I can't wait to put her in her dress. Will let you all know how it goes later.

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah have a wonderful day loski xx

 

[zero7]

Hope you've had a lovely day Loski. x

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi all, hope you are having a nice bank holiday weekend and the sun is shining!!

Loski I really hope you have had the most fabulous day. Can't wait to hear all about it!

Dream, oh I so hope you get to panel next month. If your social worker is anything like ours she'll pull all the stops out so here's hoping. I know from experience its horrible not knowing. Great you get a copy of your PAR to keep though!

How is everyone else

I met my friend who I have made through another adoption forum today. We always have a major gossip when we catch up so were 4 1/2 hours in starbucks today!! She is waiting for prep, I can't wait for her to officially get going. The waiting is the worst.

Anyway, love to you all

Lolly xxx

 

[Loski83]

We had an amazing day our little one looked beautiful in her dress and was so well behaved. She enjoyed playing all day at her party, was scared of the bouncy castle but she got a little heart painted on her cheek and enjoyed dancing to the disco. Her foster family came up and couldn't believe the difference in her and we are going out with them tomorrow. Our sw came to the church which was lovely.she was absolutely wiped out at bedtime so hopefully we might get a little lie in.
Lola sounds like its all going well for you.
Dream I hope you get your panel date I'm sure you will.
Lolly sounds like you've ad a good catch up hope you bought more than 1 coffee lol

 

[AndreaFlorida]

I have a super crazy question....is anyone when adoption is finalized or even before its final going to do an "adoption party"....just curious we were planning on doing one...but I am so lost as where to even begin setting up a party for our girls!

 

[Loski83]

We're all going out for a big family meal after our celebration hearing but apart from that no. You do what feels right for your family though.

 

[Lolly1985]

Loski, what a picture perfect day. So lovely that all the special people were there and I really hope you had a wonderful day with fc.

We are still waiting for our time for next week. Rang sw who didn't know any more as the letter doesn't come from the agency. But said a letter will be with us in the next day or two. Wow, it's really happening!! What to wear?!! Haha xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh how exciting lolly!! Eek!!
I've had a horrid day and am looking forward to bed tonight!

 

[Lolly1985]

Big boo for a rubbish day, hope you are alright. Big hug off hubby, hot chocolate and an early night are called for. Take care lovely xxx

 

[Loski83]

Sorry to hear you've had a bad day dream,hope tomorrow is better. Lolly your getting so close now it's exciting