Adoption journey

[AndreaFlorida]

I'm adopted....my mom had a little party for me that was thrown for her as a surprise. I just think it would be neat to let them meet some of our family and then allow the adoption case workers and lawyers to be present as well Some of the girls biological family will be allowed as well....I was thinking a little cake...maybe some games for the kids...and just a meal of some sort nothing huge or anything

I know everyone is different just was curious about everyone else The cake I already know what it will be....a puzzle with each of our names on it and two puzzle pieces that fit perfectly in a blank spot but off a little with their names on it I think it'd be cute got the idea off Google

By the way Lolly hope you have a better day tomorrow! I've had a rough one myself My husbands grandfather passed away and we are driving 9 hours tomorrow to be with his family....and my children had the crazies today and none of them listened and my 4 year old had a huge tantrum at my sons field day today just a lotta craziness I told my mom that Popie would pass today because of how bad my day was going not even an hour later he passed away He has been sick for quite a while....so I feel ya on the bad day today. Lets pray that tomorrow is a brighter day for us all!

 

[LolaM]

I had a pretty rotten day myself made better by the fact that I got the email notification that the state is fiiiinaly reviewing our application

 

[Loski83]

Andrea your cake sounds perfect, you should go for the party sounds like it would be a lovely day xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Andrea i'm really sorry That really is a rough day I hope that you are with family and your littlies have calmed. Such a stressful time so lots of love to you

Dream, how are things? Did your rubbish day improve any? Hope the past couple have been brighter. Big

for your email Lola, you are nearly there. Hopefully they will review it super quick!

Love to everyone else

So no bills or junk mail today, just a lovely wedding invitation and our invited to panel A week today at 11.45 We have to meet our SW at 11.30 to sign some bits and then we are up.... I figure it is a good time. Not a mad dash to get there through rush hour traffic. Nice amount of time to get ready and have breakfast before setting off (it is an hour away), but not too long to wait and get worked up somethibg rotton. Butterflies are just starting to kick in now as it has hit me that this is real!!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Aww lolly how exciting
Andrea sounds like a hard day
My week has been hard. My best friend has fertility issues too and had a bit of a fling a few weeks ago and miraculously got pg. she lost the baby on Tuesday it's so hard to see her struggling and tbh has bought back all the pain of the Ivf etc. just when you think you're over it you get a reminder eh?
My nan is very poorly too. She has terminal cancer but has declined very weekly in the past week. It's very hard to see as I'm so close to her. So generally a hard week with lots of tears
I just hope things start to turn a corner soon. In better news, the nursery is all sanded and ready to paint

 

[zero7]

Wow!! Lots of progress in here!! Also sorry to hear that some of you are experiencing bad days.

Sorry not been around much....

Lolly - how exciting - NEXT WEEK!!!!!!!! With regards to the dress code dilemma. Hubby and I went smart casual and didn't feel out of place at all.

Loski - sounds like the christening was fab!

Our second hearing is coming up soon and we have also got a date for the celebration day. Think when its all done and dusted, we will go out for a nice meal somewhere. I would love to have some sort of party, but it would be a mare to organize as our families are so scattered about. Thinking that I might do something like a picture card of the three of us with the date etc to send out to family and friends.

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[Loski83]

Zero that sounds lovely and moonpig is good for personalised cards but expensive. We still haven't got our celebration hearing date hope it comes soon. We've invited anyone that wants to come to hearing out for a meal afterwards.

 

[Monkey78]

Hello everyone, I too have been following your thread, wow you all are such wonderful ladies and it was a real privilege to read through all your journeys. I am now addicted to this thread.

Loski - huge congratulations to finally get to the end of your journey, your little girl is absolutely adorable.

Lolly - Cant believe you are finally at Panel next week, wishing you the best of luck for your big day.

Lyns - congratulations to you too, on finally finding your darling little boy, Zero7, with your little pickle, Ipen with your darling little "weeks" old bubs. And to all you lovely ladies who are still on your journey. Good luck to you all.

Well in a nutshell, I did join the adoption thread a while back and spoke to Loski & Lolly as I wasnt sure if I was ready to adopt, but am now glad to report that we are on our journey.... albeit its a slow one at the moment! We are a bit like you Lolly, undecided who to go with. We submitted our full application forms to a LA and have had a 4 and half hour home visit, which was exhausting, but good and we were recommended to go forward for adoption BUT the previous night we had attended an open evening with a VA and were really impressed with them, and actually felt a stronger pull towards going with them, so we decided to ask them for a Home Visit to and then compare. Well after phone calls and emails we are still waiting for the VA to come back to us, which I am really surprised at, as they were the agency we thought were more passionate and we thought we would receive better treatment. Anyway last Friday we received an invitation to attend a workshop next week at our LA. So after having quite a stressful week I was all up for it, as I just want to get this journey on the road.... But my partner cannot start as early as next week due to work commitments. So after a few tears and tantrums Im now going to have to ring them tomorrow to see when the next workshop is and hopefully it will be in June. Then we are going to take it from there, but if VA dont bother to make an effort I think we will stick with LA. So im not that far into my journey as you can see, but I am already frustrated !!! ha

Anyway enough about me, I hope you dont mind me joining your thread, and leaving war & peace for you all to read !!

 

[zero7]

Hi monkey!

Good luck with your journey. I am a strong believer in fate and think that whoever you go with and however long it takes - its meant to be that way! Our adoption journey was way too long, but then, if it was any different, we wouldn't have the gorgeous girl that we have now!!

She is the love of our lives and I wouldn't change a thing now that we have her.

Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Dream i'm really sorry That is a horrible week and so sad for everyone involved That applies for both your nan and your friend. I am sujre you are being as supportive as can be and it will mean a lot to them both, although there will still be a lot of hurt. It is so sad and we are here if you need to rant at how unfair things can be But on a positive note the nursery will be done in no time and panel is getting closer

Zero, yay, congratulations You sound just so so happy, it's lovely to read. You are nearly there and the card sounds lovely!

Hi again Monkey! I am glad to see you back!! Communication has been a big thing to me too. I always think that if you don't get back to me now then what hope is there down the line when we need to talk to someone during HS, about PAR, panel etc. But see what this coming week brings I suppose. It will all fall into place. It always does, albeit after a big stress on our parts!! Keep us posted. It is exciting to have someone else starting this crazy journey!

Hope everyone has had a good weekend. We have been at a wedding and then have been chilling today, talking about Thursday and all the possible questions and how we may answer them DF is calm and collected, postive and excited. I am stressed and anxious, scared and impatient!!!! I have recently heard on a girl who got turned down at panel when everyone thought it was a given so this has terrified me somewhat. Nothing is a given. I have been like that all the way through, but this has just made me realise a rejection is always possible. I just hope with all my heart we get good news on Thursday. We are boring, no skeletons, issues really so it should be straightforward. BUT what if it's not.... I just want it to be here already, i'm not good with the build up!!

 

[zero7]

Oh Lolly! I read that too about that poor couple and quite frankly, its dreadful. They should never have been rejected -its madness! I hope they appeal and get the decision turned around.

Its such a shame for you that you've seen this so close to panel as its bound to startle you but its so, so rare to get that far and get total rejection. Stay positive hon (I know its hard!) I know that you will be reporting in after panel with good news.

Xxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
Lolly you're almost there now! Eek, so flipping excited for you! Can't wait to log in and see you've been approved xx

 

[Loski83]

Hi monkey and welcome to the thread, hopefully everything falls into place for you. As zero said it will turn out as its supposed to be. I didn't think it was possible to love anyone the way I love my little girl and she is definetly meant to be ours.
Zero you sound so happy, how's little pickle going and have you got long to wait for celebration hearing?
Lyns hope everything is going great with your little boy and also ipen I hope your baby is coming along nicely.
Lolly I'm so blooming excited for you on Thursday you will be celebrating and wondering why you where so anxious. Try and find something to occupy your mind this week other than approval panel. Easier said than done I know lol.
To everyone else I hope you are all doing great.

For me and my family we are just waiting for our celebration hearing date, we where told we would have it last week so hopefully it comes this week. We need a passport for little one for August so hope it's soon

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Hey ladies I missed a whole lot while I was out of town. I didn't get a chance to get on with all the stuff going on, visitation, visiting with family, then funeral just a rough weekend. I hope everyone is doing really well today.

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to mothers and those of you still waiting on children (U.S.) and of course those of you far away from here even though I know most of you, Mother's Day has already came and gone. But still wishing you the best day ever!!!

Anyways my week has gotten better...my husband's Popie is in a better place now and is no longer in pain and he's with his wife in Heaven looking down on his new grandbabies that he never got the chance to meet.... so sad....but J stood over his grandfather and had a talk with him and said I know I didn't get up here in time for you to meet our new girls....but they are really sweet and will always know who you are. He said "I know you're shining down on them and with us and them each and every day...." ....and I lost it! Broke my heart...but was such a "relief" in a way to hear him say that...especially since we felt awful he didn't meet them yet .....but anyways it was a lovely service and everyone was really sweet to everyone (sometimes there is drama on that side of J's family so that was nice everyone got along)

Again hope everyone is doing well...my days have gotten so much better since I last posted I hope yours all have as well. God bless and have a lovely evening/morning wherever you all are

 

[zero7]

Such a sad time for you and your family andrea - look after eachother and time will heal.
Hope all is going well with your little ones.

Xxx

 

[zero7]

Such a sad time for you and your family andrea - look after eachother and time will heal.
Hope all is going well with your little ones.

Xxx

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Loski we are in the same boat we are just waiting for our court hearing to finish up the last part of the adoption and make it FINAL! I can't wait for that day. Tired of case workers coming by tired of everything LOL...Tired of trying to be perfect when in reality we aren't near perfect just to prove a point....its so tiresome....the caseworker, the guardian ad litem, the laywer, everyone I'm ready for them to DISAPPEAR lol and let us go on with our lives!

 

[Loski83]

We finished with our Andrea no more sw and it's all final. The celebration is where we get new birth certificate and is being held up cause we asked for a different court.

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Thats cool Here we get our Birth Cert. at the same time of the final hearing I am learning its different each state, each country is totally different its interesting to learn all the differences in each of the systems thats cool. I'm so happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Thank for all the lovely support, although I still feel scared stiff!! Current concern is I will sneeze over all the panel members or scare them off with my bright red nose, damn cold!! I feel ok in myself, just look a bit rough Oh well, two days to get it shifted, really hoping DF doesn't catch it though.

It is awful about that girl and her hubby, feel terrible for them. But equally tring to rationalise that it is rare that this happens, hence why everyone is so shocked. Although this process has a funny way of making you loose all logical thinking, so yup, i'm still scared!!!!

Still don't know what i'm wearing. Going to have a walk in to town after work today and have a mooch.

Welcome back Andrea, sorry you have had such a hard time It does sounds a very emotional time but that you got to give him a good send of and lay him to rest having said all you wanted. So important for closure. You seem brighter so that is very positive.

Hope you get a date through soon Loski! All crossed for you

Love to everyone, and big squishy cuddles to the LOs!