Adoption journey

[LolaM]

Hi girls,
Hope everyone is ok!
Today I completed our family book our Sw collects it tomorrow!! It's our last scheduled appointment with her and I'm just praying that June panel will be confirmed
!! I'm really happy with the book I made a cover for it out of fabric and added embellishment etc, its very cute! Love it!!

They told us not to worry about a family book but when a child is placed with us, we are required to make a lifebook for the child. I am a scrapbooker so I just went and got a scrapbook from the craft store and will use the items I have and buy other items as needed.

 

[AndreaFlorida]

We have to do the life book as well....thats one thing we all seem to have in common LOL....to be honest I haven't started the girls LOL but we have TONS of pictures we can add to what the foster mom started

 

[Loski83]

Here the childs sw does the childs life book. We just do something about ourselves, family and home for the child to have before introductions start.

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
Hope everyone's ok
Lolly are you down from cloud 9 yet?
Well our Sw appt went fine, we're still looking at June panel she took our family book with her and we won't see Sw until panel now! Eek! She is going to email me the par next week at the latest. Exciting stuff!!!
Tonight I've under coated the vintage nursery wardrobe and chest if drawers ready to paint in a few days so lovely to see the room coming together!! X

 

[KozmikKitten]

Hello ladies! Its nice to see at least this one active post in the adoption section. DH and I will be looking at adoption in a year or two. Our son is almost 1 and we are thinking when he is around 2.5-3 that we would like to adopt a toddler. I live in Minnesota (USA) and we havent gone to any info meetings or anything yet, but have known since we started talking about starting a family that we would want to adopt. That decision was made concrete when our son was born with medical problems that were considered genetic. (He has since recovered from them completely, but could have been much worse than our ending).
Looking forward to reading your updates and celebrate with you all when your LOs come home!

 

[Lolly1985]

Woohoo Dream!!! It all sounds to be coming together really well. Great news about panel and your family book sounds lovely. We didn't have to do one, SW will when when have a child placed. Obviously we will provide the pics from our end. Bet yours is nicer though!!

Welcome koz, nice to have you with us! Thanks for sharing your story. Wish you all the best for your future journey.

How is everyone else today?

Well down from my cloud but hopefully only for a short while! We looked at pushchairs at the weekend and it's hard to find an inward facing one you know!! Really want one for eye contact and language development, plus great for bonding. Exciting!

Told a few work people today and got told I'm brave by a girl. Replied I'm not brave, adoption is to fulfill my own selfish need to be a mother. I get she was trying to be nice but I don't want to be seen as a hero rescuing all the traumatised children. I just want to be seen as a mummy to be!

 

[AndreaFlorida]

I know what you mean by that.....I was blessed to have 2 children I was told I'd never have....then after years of trying for the last little blessing, I almost gave up. I finally gave my hopes/wishes and prayers to God above and he had other plans....HE wanted us to have 2 more instead of just one more little blessing...and its WONDERFUL for them to call us mom and dad...but sometimes I don't think they understand what that is b/c they call their bio aunt mom as well...but well....I'll take Mom lol

 

[KozmikKitten]

Yes when we tell people we plan on adopting child/ren we usually get some responses that are pretty shocking. We often get "why? you can have biological children." Yes we can, but I dont think that should be the deciding factor of whether or not a family is right for adoption!

 

[dreamofabean]

Totally agree girls I don't like the whole 'what an amazing thing you're doing' comments. No, we are doing what is right for us but not for totally unselfish reasons!
Lolly I hear you on pushchairs!! I love the silvercross linear freeway but it doesn't fit in the boot if my car!
The silvercross 3d does but is only parent facing as a pram and we won't get a child who needs a pram! Tricky to choose the right one!

 

[LolaM]

what is a pushchair?

 

[AndreaFlorida]

A stroller

 

[Loski83]

Hi koz and welcome to our thread hope we can all be helpful to you. Pleased your little one is ok as well.
Lolly I had the mamas and papas skate pram which was brilliant for mammy facing. Only problem with it was size and weight. Now we have a forward facing pushchair but she either walks or gets carried everywhere. Pushchair has hardly been used lol.

 

[Monkey78]

Hello everyone,
Its lovely catching up with all your news. Lolly "congratulations" with your panel, how exciting, well done. And Loski "congratulations too on your big day, only a few weeks away". Dreamofabean, not long for you to wait now, everything crossed for you.

Just to update you all on my news, whilst waiting for the VA to finally ring us back our LA invited us to a workshop, we only got 2 days notice, but we decided to take the plunge, and we started on Monday, its a 4 day course (day off today) and so far we are really enjoying it. Its only a group of 6 so its really nice as we're all getting along and having a laugh. Day 1 was a bit hard going as they kicked us off talking about abuse and neglect, but it is reality and so far after 2 days its really opened our eyes to it all. We have submitted our DBS/police checks so we are on the road at last

We just want to get to the end ALREADY !!! so impatient !!

will keep in touch
Good Luck everyone
xx

 

[Monkey78]

I think i have just added a ticker... but not sure if it worked? can anyone see it?

 

[AndreaFlorida]

I see it

 

[Loski83]

I can see it monkey
Congratulations on starting your journey I hope you have a smooth one.
I was talking to my mam today about how nice it is to just get on with life and not have sw's calling etc. walk out of the shop and who comes out of the next coffee shop OUR SW pleased I had finished talking about them even though it was all nice about him lol. Anyway lo had just spilt a drink all over herself so was soaked felt like a bad parent funny how you judge yourself in the company of sw's though. Anyway we had a quick catch up and talked about our celebration day. He was with a woman and little girl who has just been adopted having a catch up with them. Made me realise how much he goes out of his way for us all.

 

[zero7]

Lolly, we had a bebe confort loola up pushchair. Its great because it used to fit in a vw golf boot (before we upgraded to the big car!). It can be parent facing or not. It had suspension and a decent sized shopping compartment underneath. Easy to fold and put up too! I got it off ebay for such a bargain price and it was in excellent condition. Glad I didnt spend too much as she wasnt in it for long (being that our adopted children are usually that bit older). Can really recommend it though.

X

 

[zero7]

Hi koz and welcome

Monkey - lovely to see your ticker with progress on it already!

Hi everyone else - hope all is well

Well, I'm back to work tomorrow cant believe its come around so soon! Feeling a little anxious to be honest. Bubba goes to her childminder at 7am and off I go back to work!

On another note, I've ordered the cake for our celebration day. Its a white icing covered sponge cake with little daisies all over and in the centre I am having We Love You *her name*. We have booked a table at a local restaurant and my brother , sis in law and their two little girls are joining us. (And at court). Its lovely that they are able to come as they were also one of our referees.

Oh well, wish me luck for tomorrow!!!!!

Xxxxxxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh good luck tomorrow zero! Just think how happy your LO will be when you collect her

 

[Lolly1985]

Good luck zero! Hope it's quick and painless and pickle gives you massive cuddles at home time. Thinking of you!

Monkey that is great news!! You are on your way now, glad you are enjoying it. You will be shattered come the weekend though. Really glad things have fallen into place nicely

Thanks for all the pushchair (stroller!!! Haha!) info girls. Plan on looking into them all asap! Exciting!!

Hope everyone is well xxx