Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Let me see.... pushchair (you're winning on that front!!) although have found one we like, furniture (waiting to see what the cotbed that DFs step-mum is giving us to see what type will go). We have baby monitors, total bargain, half price and then had a free voucher through O2 so got £90 monitors for less than £35. We have 4 stairgates in boxes in the garage. have added toy chests and many many toys to my amazon wishlist, as well as splash mats, bath toys, Tomy talking album, and so much more I have forgotten!

Looking at car seats, so hard to know which will be best. Think we may head to Halfords, they will fit it then too.

We are waiting until my bro has been at end of June, then double bed is going and cotbed will be put up. We have a large storage cupboard in the room which will be emptied and extra shelves (for toys or clothes - not sure yet) will be put up.

We will need so much but hard to know when we don't know if they will be 12 months or nearly 3, a little boy who loves cars or a princess fairy little lady!! I thought generic teddy bears, but then that won't last too long until teddies are 'for babies'. Then thought jungle, but to me that is more 'boyish'. Oh what a to do

 

[Loski83]

Lolly it will all fall into place x
Congrats Lola I can't believe how quick it's all gone for you.
Dream it seems like you need a lot but you really don't, I bought a ton of stuff and the majority of it was on ebay within a week including pushchair lol.

 

[Loski83]

We are getting 2 baby rabbits once they are old enough to leave their mam present from godparents for lo. I'm not sure whether that's a good thing yet as I will be the one looking after them.

 

[bluebumble]

Hi Everyone

sorry for being MIA - lots going on

Lola - congratulations! That is WAY WAY quicker than the UK system. We have been doing this for over a year now. Are you fostering or adopting him?

Lolly - woo hoo!!! congratulations!!! welcome to the joy that is family finding

Loski - if your rabbits are anything like our guinea pigs they are gorgeous but smelly! are they going to be indoors or outdoors?

dream - countdown begins everything crossed for you

hello to everyone else

Not much happening here - we are still family finding and hopeful that it wont be too much longer

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi Blue!

Lovely to hear from you, was wondering how things were going! It is great to finally join the club, but equally strange! We always knew when SW would be emailing, coming for a visit, when panel would be.... now what I'm still in the excited mood, so not wishing time away or anything, but it just feels strange not knowing what, if anything, is going on behind the scenes!

But so much happening to keep us busy at the moment that time is flying! I don't know how we will ever find time to start 'project paint'!! But we better start soon-ish as (all crossed) we won't have time going forward

Hope you get some news soon hun xxx

Oh and Loski, congrats on expanding your family further! LO will love them!! Me and my brother had rabbits when we were little and they were just lovely. Parents didn't think so so much though as it was them clearing up the hutches each night.... Oops!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Just saw this on Adoption UK and had to share...

https://www.parentdish.co.uk/mum/10...nd-family-understood/?a_dgi=aolshare_facebook

 

[bluebumble]

Just saw this on Adoption UK and had to share...

https://www.parentdish.co.uk/mum/10...nd-family-understood/?a_dgi=aolshare_facebook

Lolly that is amazing!!!! i was crying laughing at the bluntness (yet truthfulness) of it!!

 

[Loski83]

Lolly that's an interesting article, however some of the comments under it are disgraceful.
I don't agree with some of the points but that's because my child is younger and doesn't need all those things applying to her. There's a lot on there that is so true though unfortunately.

 

[dreamofabean]

It was an interesting read lolly
Loski I bet half of my stuff will be going on eBay too! Ha ha! So hard not to buy though!!
Lolly the car seat one is tough! I really don't know how you decide! Our Sw suggested waiting until intros and then going with FC and the child to somewhere where they fit the child to a seat. Might do that as I've walked around n have no idea!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

I was thinking that Loski, it is definitely aimed at parents of older children. I hadn't even read some of the comments underneath, don't think I want to...

That's a good idea Dream, it is a minefield!!

Blue, have you started buying yet?

 

[Loski83]

When I got our car seat I waited till after matching panel, once we where approved I knew age of her and had a good idea of size. She was tiny for her age so I got the one that matched the pushchair back out of attic and I bought one that's from 6 months to 4 years. We took the one for 6 months to 4 years down with us and she fitted in it perfect. Our Fc still had her in the 0-6 months one and in my opinion she was too small for it. Good brands are cossato and maxi cosi.

 

[LolaM]

We are ok, hes sleeping right now, nice long nap, first long sleep hes had. Hes really a good baby! We are foster TO adopt, so it can be either but it sounds like this one will be an adopt because of the situation he was in.

UK girls--do you have the convertible carseat? it does front facing, back facing AND booster in one beautiful, glorious seat! no fuss, no muss! We have gotten so many wonderful items from the community--its been amazing!

 

[Monkey78]

Oh wow, so much has happened since I last linked into the thread.
Lola unbelievable news, huge congratulations on your little boy, that is amazing. Lolly - great news on your "yes" letter whooop whooop
Dreamofabean - great news on your par, wont be long now
Zero7 - congrats on finally officially having your little girl.
And well done everyone else, Im so excited reading all your news, especially about everyones wishlists, and pushchair talk etc. I am dying to start buying stuff, when did you all make the first move on your first purchase!?!?

xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Monkey or first real purchase was the cotbed and we got that a couple of months ago x

 

[Lolly1985]

Our first purchase was stairgates about 2 month before panel. We live in a townhouse so need 4 and they were half price so couldn't turn them down really. But I must admit that I freaked our after buying them thinking that if we got turned down I would have to look at 4 big boxes containing my much longed for stairgates for the rest of my days and cry!! They have been in the garage ever since! But I am totally irrational so don't listen to me

 

[Loski83]

I think our first purchase was probably clothes which are still in a black bag in attic cause they don't fit her yet. Big purchase would have been the pushchair which is long gone. Stair gates can be expensive so definetly worth buying if on offer especially if you need 4 like lolly.

 

[Lolly1985]

Well since approval I have told a few more people of our wishes to adopt. I have been extremely lucky that everyone has been overwhelmingly positive and so happy for us. Only the one 'brave' comment growlmad which got the standard answer!! But it was all meant in a nice way. But now I am getting the 'any news yet?' questions Its only been 2 1/2 weeks Although if people don't know how the system works then approval = find a 'baby' and go!! It's not bothering me yet, maybe if no news a few months in it might. This is why I was reluctant to say, but other inappropriate baby and marriage questions were worse, so chose to share. I'm still glad that I did, but if we do get any news I won't be telling them until it's all official. Family and extremely close friends only. Oh, and you girls, but that goes without saying. Limbo land is strange, but i'm happy. Happy we are approved, happy we can start buying some bits, happy it will happen. Just hope this mood stays the further down the line we get.

Love to you all

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah I know what you mean lolly, we have told people and although we're not yet even approved we keep being asked about when it will be! Lol
Found the nicest pic/ poem on Pinterest today about waiting, I'm on phone so ill try and post, if not ill type it out!


I think of you most every day
You're in my dreams as I sleep and pray.
My heart is filled with so much love,
Wishing brightly to the stars above.
I hope our wait won't be too long,
To sing for you a lullaby song.
I know that when the time is right,
You'll enter our lives with great delight.

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Beautiful poem

We just got our letter from our attorney today so I'm DRIVING it back there tomorrow its a 45 minutes drive but I want to make sure it gets there so we can get this thing finalized MUCH sooner Soooo as soon as I get a court date I'll let you ladies know

I've been so busy and haven't been on here much lately Hope everyone's having a lovely day!

 

[Lolly1985]

Dream that is beautiful, might have to steal and share. I love it! Proper tear jerker!

Super exciting Andrea!! Safe trip back tomorrow and fingers crossed for a quick court date!!

Ordered a tomy talking album and it's arrived!! Can't wait to make it, have been deciding what pics to put in etc as only 8 pages. But about right for a little one. Love it!!