Adoption journey

[karenh]

Lolly everything is coming together! Just a short while now!

Lola, this is such a hard decision. I am so sorry you are going through this. Is there anyway you can take them? It would be a fun little family.

 

[aimze]

Karen how exciting for carseat! We have a perminant car seat for my nephew ready !!

Ahhh lolly love youve done the nursery!

Well we had our phone interveiw wiv SW..she asked everything lol happy childhood? Good parennts? Happy married etc etc...

V.honest about previous loss an she said @ the end she'll b refering us & adoption manager shouldnt have an issue with us attending first course Sept!

So hopeful an exciting!

 

[Loski83]

Aimze sounds like you going to be going quicker than expected good luck with everything.

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh Aimze that is fantastic news!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Brilliant Aimze, your journey is starting and it sounds like it could be a quick one! So happy for you!!

Hi everyone and happy Monday! Normally Mondays are rubbish but not today!! Because it is now only one sleep until tomorrow and tomorrow is going to be a good day! We have spoken to our social worker and she is happy with our questions for both the medical advisor and foster carers. She is bringing the agencies new starter to shadow, the more the merrier I reckon! So tomorrow we are arriving ten minutes earlier so we can meet our social worker in the carpark and all go in together!!

 

[karenh]

Aimze: I am so glad the interview went well! I really hope everyone esle agrees to September as well. That is so soon! Yay! I am jumping for joy!

Lolly: Tomorrow is going to be amazing! I can't believe it is here! Enjoy it fully. Not too long now and your little girl will be in your arms!

AFM: DH and I got a lot done on our paperwork this weekend. We are practicly done with Phase 2 paperwork. All we have left is our physicals on Friday and our fingerprints this afternoon. Also DH has 15 questions of the 40 on his questionare he needs to do. Also, we have done about half of phase 3 paperwork. I am feeling so up beat because of all the good things happening with you girls and the progress we made this weekend. Also, DH comitted to having the rest of his questions done by Sunday. Then we will be done with Phase 2! Time to get our home ready for inspection.

 

[Lolly1985]

Great Karen, you are motoring through, you just needed that green light, no stopping you now!! That is great news, and also that hubby is keeping up too!

 

[aimze]

Really does look like this new process could speed things up!

Karen it's so crazy how different your process is compared to uk process...

X

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah lolly, I'm so excited for you!!! Really can't wait to hear all about it tomorrow!
Karen it seems like you are steaming through it all! Well done you!
I have come to the conclusion today that nesting is not due to pregnancy hormones! Lol! I've been like a woman possessed today, done house from top to bottom and cleaned out all the kitchen cupboards I've also swapped cupboards around so that chemicals are up high etc! Busy girl but its been good to keep focused!
Tomorrow is a day for shopping in the morning and then seeing my stepsister

 

[karenh]

Really does look like this new process could speed things up!

Karen it's so crazy how different your process is compared to uk process...

X

It is interesting how it is so different. Sometimes I really wish that I was there as it seems your process goes so much quicker than ours does. If you have any questions feel free to ask.

 

[Lolly1985]

I think that the mixture of UK and US girls that have been on this thread have made it so special. It's been really interesting learning about how things differ and learning from each other. Yet despite the journey being so different we have been able to support each other. I love that!

Wow Dream, you go girl!! Sounds a productive day, feels good when it's done. I'm jealous as after sorting the nursery this weekend the house is a mess all over again!! Oh well, best get used to mess, little pink will surely create chaos!!! Happy shopping hunny!

 

[puppymom32]

Yay so exciting Lolly!!! I am sure tomorrow will be a wonderful day!!!

Lola I am so sorry they have really put you in a horrible situation. I say just go with your heart it will all work out. I know how hard finacially ect it is to add one addtl family member much less a group. We were worried that my sons BM was pregnant right after he was born that that we were going to be asked to take the child she had a loss early on so we didnt have to make that decision thank goodness.

Karen so exciting I forget are you going pvt or through the state?

 

[dreamofabean]

Yep lolly, I'm sure out houses will be turned upside down! Ha ha! That's why I feel like I need to streamline our belongings and get things tidy now. Plus I have got a lot of my nan's treasures to find a home for so needed to sort out big time! Lol.

 

[Loski83]

Lolly good luck for tomorrow I hope you have a brilliant day and get to see more pictures/ videos of little one.
Karen you sound like your getting through your paperwork with a breeze.
Dream you've had a busy day I can't remember the last time I managed to clean my cupboards out and you will have the same little problem soon lol.
Lola I agree with the others go with your heart and what you and hubby can cope with hope it gets sorted out soon.
My little one is teething again so has wanted cuddles and kisses all day and been very clingy. Still eating ok though so not that bad.

 

[LolaM]

Lolly everything is coming together! Just a short while now!

Lola, this is such a hard decision. I am so sorry you are going through this. Is there anyway you can take them? It would be a fun little family.

my precious, precious LEVEL HEADED husband has come up with a plan, we have figured out how to make room, it will be tight and 1 bathroom will certainly SUCK but we have that part figured out, we have the names of a few lawyers and we have decided that the first thing we need to do is actually MEET these kids. We dont want to flat out say no, but we dont want to flat out say yes either. If we take them, I am getting some help cleaning the house, im finding it difficult with just 1 child! and if sweeping, mopping, vaccuuming and toilets are off my list, im ok with that!

 

[Rainy123]

Lola - sounds like you have a plan which is great. It must be so hard not to just say yes but you need to think of yourselves and current family first.

Lolly - so excited about your day today. Enjoy it and enjoy being one step closer.

Missed 2 calls from my social worker last night and she never leaves messages so I'm left guessing what she might need. Fingers crossed it was good news and my PAR is coming along nicely!

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh fingers crossed rainy!!
Lola that's great that you have a plan!
Very excited for you lolly
Loski that's the exact reason why I did them yesterday! Lol

 

[aimze]

Yep the differences are great to know...All one goal though!

Lola I hope the meeting goes well!!

I too havent touched inside my cupboards since I moved in two years ago so you're doing an ace job of a late spring clean!!!!

x

 

[karenh]

Puppymom: We are going through a private agency. We feel like we were led there and it has been wonderful so far. It seems like things are moving quickly, but that is how I wanted it. I personally feel like we need to get the paperwork done as soon as possible because we need to be in the matching phase as soon as we can and not holding ourselves back from being available to birth moms.

Loski: It really isn’t fun to see your little one in the pain from teething. I hope she feels better soon. On the plus side, lots of cuddles is nice.

Lola: That is such a great plan! You guys are so amazing to be so strong going through this. I know whatever decision you make you will have explored all options and made the best one for you and your family. We are here to support you no matter what decision you make.

Rainy: It is so not good when I am left to guess. I always go straight to worst case scenario. Good job staying positive!

AFM: We got another training class done last night. This one was called open adoption 101. It made me so excited to find my baby and start our lives together. I need to try and be patient though. I know matching can take years.

 

[Lolly1985]

Or it can be really quick Karen.... positive vibes lovely!

Lovely for cuddles and kisses Loski, although not so good when bubba is in pain. Hope she is better soon. You must be so close to your holiday now?

Ooooh rainy, I hope so much it is your PAR. Let us know!!

Lola, wow, I can't believe the situation you are in. I hope all works out for the best. Thinking of you!

How is everyone else? Dream, hope you've enjoyed your shopping?! Aimze, hope you get official confirmation of next steps really soon! Puppymom, hope your little (probably not so little!) man is doing really well

Today has been brilliant! The medical advisor was lovely and called little pink perfect!! She gave us a fab summary of her development to date and had only seen her yesterday, so I told her I was jealous Little 9 month old pink is sitting, crawling, has excellent pincer grip, is transferring toys from one hand to the other and is pulling up to stand, with brief moments where she let's go and is free standing!! Clever girl!! She is using babble strings and is saying mama and dada! The MA sits on the matching panel and gave us an idea of the questions we will be asked. She also said she would be writing her final report and would send it to us along with two additional copies, one for GP and one for health visitor

Then we met with her foster carers, they were lovely, although obviously very attached to her as they spoke a lot about maintaining contact. They very kindly brought us lots of pictures and answered all our questions. They have made her a memory box which sounds lovely

We had the pre panel meeting where we went through all the paperwork, signed the parental responsibility documents, got matching certificates (with no dates on!) and went through a very rough plan for introductions. We learnt we are getting a £250 settling in grant and mileage pay, lovely little bonus!

We learnt she loves musical toys and will dance about, also that she likes labels and tags. So we have bought her a duck teddy which plays songs and has tags around each wing! It will be the toy we use in her talking album!

So final home visit 5th September before panel on the 12th. So happy