Adoption journey

[aimze]

I usually do all mine online but this year did 90% at a shop we have here called home sense!

Dream so excited for another day closer to bringing him home, hope today goes well x

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi ladies
Sorry I didn't update yesterday! Was a long day! We left foster carers at 8.30 and then went straight to asda to get bits as little man is coming home for the day I then prepped all the veg for dinner tonight and it's now cooking away in the slow cooker
We got there at 9.30 yesterday and little man was just starting to stir must have worn him out Tuesday!! We got big smiles and cuddles the fcs really stepped back yesterday so we prepared all his bottles and food and fed him we went out to a garden centre with him too which was nice.... However!! Lol
He refused to sleep and was so tired! He cried for the first time this week and his little lip wobbles so much it's super cute! He's got a really quiet cry too bless him! So we headed back and he went straight off to sleep
The fcs are just wonderful! They have cooked us dinner the past two nights and we've sat and eaten after little man is in bed. It truly feels like we've known them forever!
Today little man is arriving in 30 mins and we take him back at 6. His fcs will leave as soon as he is settled can't wait to see him!! X

 

[aimze]

Amazing dream!!! Eeck you don't know how much I love reading!! X

 

[Loski83]

Dream he sounds so amazing and what a great christmas you will have with little man to spoil rotten. Just remember to rest I'm sure others will agree it completely zaps your energy at first lol.

 

[Lolly1985]

It really really does!! I'm still knackered most days but it does get easier. Dream he is such a beautiful bubba and doing amazingly well. I hope he loves coming to his new home today. It'll all feel like it was meant to be when the foster carers leave and it's just the three of you. Lots of love xxx

 

[karenh]

Dream it is lovely to hear how your days are going! I hope today goes just as splendedly with the three of you home!

 

[dreamofabean]

Thought I'd pop on quickly whilst little man is snoozing!
Today has not been as easy as others! Initially he settled amazingly and had a nap. He was as happy as Larry...., until our sw turned up! Then he was inconsolable!! He cried and clung to me poor yhing!! He was ok after she left but had an extra nap and bottle.
His teeth are hurting so he had some teething powder and perked up a bit.
Just changed his nappy and it's a teething one alright! Poo eeh! Lol. I also noticed he has a blister there too I've used simple wipes and worrying it's because of those?! Feel a mean mommy!!!
He is just napping before dinner and then back to fcs.
We've enjoyed today so much but feel bad little man has been restless x

 

[karenh]

You are a great mommy! I'm sorry that today has been harder than you would have liked. SW will know that it is a transisional time and that teething and crying is normal. At least he clung to you instead of wanting to get away from you.

When do you get to bring him home for good?

 

[puppymom32]

Teething was the worst for us poor little man. I am sure it is all so new to him too. There will be good and bad days but all so worth it.

 

[aimze]

Awww Hun I'm sure he's had an amazing day with you both!

Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

As hard as it is with teeth and with people coming and going and little man being upset try and think of the positives. He clung to you, his mummy, he allowed you to comfort him, and he has been settled enough to sleep in his new home. Little pink came home teething. It was hard but it was also great for bonding as she wanted to be close, cuddled and comforted. Although it's of course horrible to see them distressed You're doing so well hun xxx

 

[Loski83]

Dream your doing great his bum will be from teething my lo always get blisters when she teething as well. It's great that he clung to you he obviously already has a good connection to his mammy.

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks ladies
Little man ate all his dinner and gave us big smiles! He was fab until it was time to get him changed and take him back. I think he is do used to his bedtime routine that he expected to be bundled into his cot rather than a car seat! Bless him!
He cried the whole way home and only stopped when I picked him up when we arrived back! Bless him!! Inside he ignored his fcs and just snuggled into mummy they noticed and commented how lovely it was to see him so comforted by us!
It's been a lovely, lovely day and even though he's been unsettled it's made me realise how well he is doing! It has also made me realise how important it is to have time alone and not let people visit immediately once he's home! X

 

[karenh]

Dream it is so great to see him already so attached to you. He can feel your love and he knows he is safe. You are doing great!

 

[LolaM]

Haha Lola! Online shopping is the way forward!! Although when the postman rings the doorbell and wakes the baby up I could easily change my mind!

Dream, hope yesterday was another amazing day and little man enjoyed his trip out with mummy and daddy. You must be getting tired now hun. Hope you slept well and have lots of smiles and cuddles waiting for you this morning!

I cannot get my hubs gifts online, they arent somethig you cn ship. Ill get his stuff this weekend when hes at work, then i need to find a place to HIDE the gifts. Ca you put a not on the door saying NOT to ring? Yes baby is very attatched to my husband more than me! He is now saying something that sounds like "moo-ma" an he is such a chatterbox! Whatever happens, we are lucky to have been given the chance to parent such an easy baby <for the most part lol> My husband and i fussed alot over whether baby should sleep in his bouncy seat or go to his crib and always won and im glad because baby is now sleep trained!!!

 

[aimze]

Ooooooo Lola I'm intrigued what you get him if it can't be shipped!!!

Dream it sounds like he's building a great attachment to you! I can definately see why you shouldn't allow guests over so quickly, I guess the worry too is they build their attachment to their grandma not you?

When do you start having your parents/sibling over? X

 

[Lolly1985]

Ahh Lola, I so hope you get to keep little man and parent him forever xxx

I knew all about slow introductions, you learn about it at prep and through home study, but it wasn't until half way through introductions I really got it. To see little pink getting confused in her attachments between the foster carers and mummy and daddy was upsetting. It just hammered home that this little baby's life was about to turn upside down and it wouldn't be fair for a sudden influx of new faces when really she needed to get used to being with mummy and daddy and know we were her main caregivers. Hard when everyone was desperate to meet her and it's the time you need the most support. We introduced quite early really as daddy was going back to work, but at first it was in a neural place a couple of times before coming to the house. She has been to grandma's and nana's houses a few times now, and Auntie's once, although she got very upset there. Slowly does it because it's best in the long run. I know you know it already Dream, you'll be great. Hope you have a wonderful day lovely xxx

 

[karenh]

Lola I too am curious as to what your are getting your hubby!

 

[LolaM]

nothign that exciting...just bullets for his favorite gun

 

[aimze]

Dream when's baby coming home? Xx