Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

Monday Aimze!
Sorry I didn't update last night, we were at a boyzone concert
Yesterday was wonderful!! Little man did so well at home and was really relaxed! He ate brilliantly and explored his surroundings we kept popping in and out of rooms so that he got used to being alone for a few seconds and he did fab. He had a bath at ours and cried when he had to come out! we changed his routine slightly so that he was calmer in the car. He always has a bottle to sleep with, and it's a habit I plan to break ASAP! We gabe him a couple of ounces in the car and he slept half the journey. Then straight up to bed once back and he slept til we got there at 8.30 this morning!! Such a beautiful good boy!!
Today we got there an hour early so we would be the first people he sees he was full of smiles and so chirpy
We dressed him, gave him breakfast and then looked through his wardrobes and packed his suitcase. I didn't cry, but I was on the edge! Lol
We came home and he went straight up for his nap. He alwAys naps in a pram but we put him into his cot and he went out like a light this is again a habit I want to break! Its handy he will sleep in a pram but I'd prefer him in his roomy cot he had a 45 min sleep and then we played for a bit
He ate a big lunch and then played some more.
We went out for lunch to a local Chinese buffet which we walked to. He was initially a bit snuggly on mommy but soon relaxed and was singing and babbling
We've just got home and he's asleep in his cot again. We seriously have a stepford child! I wonder how long it will last?! Lol
We saw our neighbour when we got back, she had a peak and thought he was lovely! She knows about everything but was with another neighbour who doesn't and looked rather shocked when it wasn't a tiny baby in the pram
So far today has been wonderful! Our boy is relaxed and so are we bliss!!! X

 

[karenh]

nothign that exciting...just bullets for his favorite gun

Awesome! I would love that. Hubby will never think of it though.

 

[karenh]

Dream it sounds perfect! It must feel so good to talk you little boy out and be a family. I love seeing the transition and how well he is adapting. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! Monday is almost here!

 

[aimze]

Dream! Just amazing to read! Read it to hubby with tears in my eyes! Thank you for including us in your introductions! My favourite part x

 

[LolaM]

Monday Aimze!
Sorry I didn't update last night, we were at a boyzone concert
Yesterday was wonderful!! Little man did so well at home and was really relaxed! He ate brilliantly and explored his surroundings we kept popping in and out of rooms so that he got used to being alone for a few seconds and he did fab. He had a bath at ours and cried when he had to come out! we changed his routine slightly so that he was calmer in the car. He always has a bottle to sleep with, and it's a habit I plan to break ASAP! We gabe him a couple of ounces in the car and he slept half the journey. Then straight up to bed once back and he slept til we got there at 8.30 this morning!! Such a beautiful good boy!!
Today we got there an hour early so we would be the first people he sees he was full of smiles and so chirpy
We dressed him, gave him breakfast and then looked through his wardrobes and packed his suitcase. I didn't cry, but I was on the edge! Lol
We came home and he went straight up for his nap. He alwAys naps in a pram but we put him into his cot and he went out like a light this is again a habit I want to break! Its handy he will sleep in a pram but I'd prefer him in his roomy cot he had a 45 min sleep and then we played for a bit
He ate a big lunch and then played some more.
We went out for lunch to a local Chinese buffet which we walked to. He was initially a bit snuggly on mommy but soon relaxed and was singing and babbling
We've just got home and he's asleep in his cot again. We seriously have a stepford child! I wonder how long it will last?! Lol
We saw our neighbour when we got back, she had a peak and thought he was lovely! She knows about everything but was with another neighbour who doesn't and looked rather shocked when it wasn't a tiny baby in the pram
So far today has been wonderful! Our boy is relaxed and so are we bliss!!! X

ohhhh yes, break those habits now! Hubs and i used to bicker about letting the baby sleep in his bouncy seat and i would never let him do it, i INSISTED that baby be put in his crib. We started that as soon as we got him and he is sleep trained now. He sleeps all night, rarely ever waking up, and he doesnt have night feedings, stopped that the first week we had him! He also doesnt eat when he first wakes up, it was tough at first, but its all worth it when coworkers kid wakes up 3 times a night and my precious sleeps right through!
I think he will be standing by christmas, he stood on his own for just a few seconds tonight, he is experamenting with lettting go of what ever he is holding on to

 

[Lolly1985]

Dream you are all doing just amazingly!! So very happy that tomorrow he is home forever Although I know it'll be a very emotionally charged day. Love reading your updates, I always knew this was meant to be and the stories, love and happiness in your posts just prove it

I have one poorly pink this end so best run but loads of love to all xxx

 

[LolaM]

baby-love has been dreadfully cranky lately. im not sure if hes teething, growing or just showing the stress of having to continue weekly visits with "the mother" as we call her...I am praying that this will be over soon because I just feel awful that we are having to put him through this

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh poor little man Lola, it must be so confusing for him and very hard for you guys :'(

 

[aimze]

Aww Lola yes must be really confusing!!

We looked at pushchairs an brought scrapbooks for photos today eeeeeeeeeeeeeee x

 

[Monkey78]

Hi Ladies,
Wow i have missed so much. There has been so much news.

Dream - Congratulations, that is such amazing news that you have your little man home tomorrow. Oh that is so lovely. Good Luck.

Hi to everyone else, lovely reading all your news.

Aimzee, I am now on the new process (we changed mid way through our home visits) but I have to say, Im not hearing the same as you! I think our LA is stalling and seem to be overworked.

We finished our home visit assessments on Friday which obviously we are really pleased about. We are aiming (as they keep saying the word aiming ! to go to panel at end Jan) so when I asked when we could expect to see some profiles, I was told that after we go to approval panel they will start finding 3/4 weeks later or not until March. Im a bit upset, as reading what you you are saying Aimzee, and also from others on here, you are all/have been given profiles before Panel. I think Im going to have to have this out with our SW.

Also a bit of advice please ladies.... reason I have been out of the link lately, I have started a new job (which I absolutely hate and am thinking of leaving after xmas) anyway the SW needs the letter of recommendation from my employers. I havnt told them yet, and now dont know what to do, do i tell them while on my probationary, will they give the letter? Do I leave and then have to tell new employers before I start a new job!?!? Oh god its all so difficult. I feel like just resigning, and going unemployed it would save so much hassle. But financially I dont really want to do that.

Would welcome anyone's views if you are able to help.

Thank you xxx

 

[Loski83]

Monkey I would try to stick it out just so you can prove your financially secure till you have your baby. I also didn't see any profiles before approval panel.
Dream good luck for tomorrow it will be such a nice day for you.
Lolly I have a poorly baby as well full of cold feel sorry for her.
Lola poor little man it will be good once there's some clarity on what's happening with little mans future I hope he stays with you.
I also changed our los feeding and bedtime routine she got put to bed with a bottle as well I waited a few weeks then changed from milk to water and didn't cuddle in she slept all night once the changes where made.

 

[karenh]

Lola that is so exciting that he is starting to stand! It must be so hard to see him have to go through all that stress.

Lolly I am sorry your little one isn’t feeling well. I hope she feels better soon.

Monkey, that is so exciting that you are done with your home visits and will hopefully have panel the end of January. I agree that waiting until March to see profiles is ridiculous and hopefully you can sooner. You job situation sounds stressful. I hope you figure out what is best soon.

Loski sorry your little one isn’t feeling well. I hope she feels better soon.

Dream how exciting that your little man comes home tomorrow! I hope it goes well and look forward to hearing about it.

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi everyone!!

Hope everyone is doing ok, or is that a silly thing to seen as it's Monday morning?!!

Loski, sorry your little one is also poorly. We've had a few sleepless nights this end but think we're finally on the mend. Fingers crossed for you guys too.

Monkey, I think I would personally also wait. If you start at a new job it may be a tricky conversation to have so early, plus they wouldn't be able to give you an accurate reference as they wouldn't know you yet. Also you may lose any entitlement you may have to adoption leave. If you really don't like your job why not take the leave after placement with a view of not going back to work there. I would also say that if you were to quit now your social worker may have to delve into your finances again which would be a pain. Really feel for you though as a job you hate is a horrible situation to be in. Hoping for January panel and a quick match lovely. Big hugs xxx

Aimze that's so exciting, it's so lovely when you start shopping as it really make it feel like it's finally happening!

And finally to Dream, our brand new forever mummy! Have a wonderful day taking your baby boy home forever. The fun starts here!!

Love to all xxx

 

[puppymom32]

Wohooo Dream the rest of your life is about to change forever!!!

Today is my little man's 3rd Birthday cant believe he is 3 already not a baby anymore and he tells me all the time. "mom i'm a wittle boy" we had his party on Saturday 3 is such a trying but also fun age. I am so thankful that 3 years ago his BM gave birth to him and then chose us to be his parents and I made a promise to her that I would give him the best life that I can and try my best to do so every day.

 

[Lolly1985]

And you really do puppymom, he's grown into a gorgeous little lad. Congratulations on his special day

 

[aimze]

Monkey that's crazy how the same process can be so different...we're through a VA who have been amazing! Have you looked on children who wait or be my parent an enquired through them for children?

We have been given an exact panel date too not a "hopeful" one...

Being in a job you hate is so so tough I agree with the ladies, can you ride the storm hoping the sun is on it's way with your LO?

Xx

 

[Rainy123]

Looking forward to an update from dream! Amazing day for you.

I am still reading eagerly but need to try and find time to post more often

 

[karenh]

Puppymom happy birthday to your little one!

So I found out today that come In two weeks I will be out of a job. That means both hubby and I will be unemployed. Not sure how we will be able to adop now. Pretty sure I won't be able to get a job that will support us, and DH still has 8 terms of school left.

 

[dreamofabean]

Hey ladies,
Today has been wonderful
The goodbye was tough and I cried like a baby whilst little man was a big, brave boy! Lol
We have stayed home all day and played lots we have just put little man down to sleep, we shall see whether he goes off!
His lovely foster carers have us a bottle of champagne, flowers and personalised balloon they're so lovely!! We arrived home to welcome home banners on our porch and a little prince balloon my mum had been busy!
So now we are a forever family it feels like a dream, I honestly don't remember feeling so happy!! Xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Big hugs Karen