Hello! I am new here, and frankly, new to all forums on the "inter-webs". I joined because I really need to talk about this with people. I'd really appreciate any advice or words of wisdom from you ladies.
I classify my husband and I as NTNP, but the truth is that I am TTC. Husband, not so much. He wants a baby to "happen when it happens". He doesn't want to "be put on a schedule" or "told when to have sex". I get that this does seem unsexy, but it has been 6 months and I have been tracking my cycle. I know when the time is right, but so as not to pressure Husband, I have to slyly initiate sex without suggesting it has anything to do with baby-making. Husband always seems to not be in the mood at the most important times, and I am left, every month, feeling disappointed and frustrated, because, you know, it won't "happen at all" if we don't have sex when I'm ovulating. I've tried to gently explain this, but he kind of just shuts down.
The result is that I have some building resentment that I can't really talk to him about. I have tried to put it out of my head and just go with the flow, but I can't. It's my body after all, so I am very aware of when I'm ovulating, etc. I feel alone in this thing.
So, should I talk to him? Keep it to myself and try to change my perspective? What has worked for you? Help!
I classify my husband and I as NTNP, but the truth is that I am TTC. Husband, not so much. He wants a baby to "happen when it happens". He doesn't want to "be put on a schedule" or "told when to have sex". I get that this does seem unsexy, but it has been 6 months and I have been tracking my cycle. I know when the time is right, but so as not to pressure Husband, I have to slyly initiate sex without suggesting it has anything to do with baby-making. Husband always seems to not be in the mood at the most important times, and I am left, every month, feeling disappointed and frustrated, because, you know, it won't "happen at all" if we don't have sex when I'm ovulating. I've tried to gently explain this, but he kind of just shuts down.
The result is that I have some building resentment that I can't really talk to him about. I have tried to put it out of my head and just go with the flow, but I can't. It's my body after all, so I am very aware of when I'm ovulating, etc. I feel alone in this thing.
So, should I talk to him? Keep it to myself and try to change my perspective? What has worked for you? Help!