Hello,
I'm just looking for some advice please on taking time off work following a loss. I've just had my second loss confirmed a couple of days ago, my first was three years ago before I had my DD. Things have been very different this time round, the first loss was very sudden and definite with heavy bleeding and pain, but this time was just spotting for 10 days and no pain. I self certified sick at work for two days when the spotting first started as we weren't sure what was happening, and I got an appointment at EPU when I should've been at work so had to call in sick. They did a scan which was inconclusive so I had to go back in two weeks. Those two weeks really dragged and were so stressful not knowing for sure either way what was happening. I was off work during this time anyway as I had holiday booked. Now I've been back for the follow up scan and a loss has been confirmed, and I'm due back to work next week. I'm finding it very difficult this time, probably because it has dragged on so long with us having slight hope things might turn out ok, and because of all the worry this is my second loss so we don't know how many times we have to go through it, plus I have two close friends due the same time I was.
I do not feel able to go back to work next week, although in physically ok just about, I feel completely run down and drained mentally and emotionally. I work in a very demanding job dealing with the public, and just don't feel able to face it yet with my brave face. I keep thinking I'm ok then suddenly find myself sobbing again.
I would need to get a sick note from my GP to be able to take anymore time off, and it would need to be backdated to cover the time since I self certified, even though this was holiday, and I just wonder if it ends up being 3 weeks off altogether if this sounds too much for such an early loss (I should be 8 weeks). Not sure what my GP would think or even if I would be able to get an appointment before I'm due back on Tuesday morning. Also worried my DH won't think I need more time off, and will be worried about what people at work think as he works in the same company. I didn't really want to discuss what has happened with anyone at work, especially my boss, so not sure what they could give as a reason on a sicknote. Sometimes I think it would be easier all round to just go in, but I know I won't be able to do my job properly, and if I'm at work DD is due to go and stay with MIL for a couple of nights which I will find hard as she has helped me through the last few days.
I'm just looking for some advice please on taking time off work following a loss. I've just had my second loss confirmed a couple of days ago, my first was three years ago before I had my DD. Things have been very different this time round, the first loss was very sudden and definite with heavy bleeding and pain, but this time was just spotting for 10 days and no pain. I self certified sick at work for two days when the spotting first started as we weren't sure what was happening, and I got an appointment at EPU when I should've been at work so had to call in sick. They did a scan which was inconclusive so I had to go back in two weeks. Those two weeks really dragged and were so stressful not knowing for sure either way what was happening. I was off work during this time anyway as I had holiday booked. Now I've been back for the follow up scan and a loss has been confirmed, and I'm due back to work next week. I'm finding it very difficult this time, probably because it has dragged on so long with us having slight hope things might turn out ok, and because of all the worry this is my second loss so we don't know how many times we have to go through it, plus I have two close friends due the same time I was.
I do not feel able to go back to work next week, although in physically ok just about, I feel completely run down and drained mentally and emotionally. I work in a very demanding job dealing with the public, and just don't feel able to face it yet with my brave face. I keep thinking I'm ok then suddenly find myself sobbing again.
I would need to get a sick note from my GP to be able to take anymore time off, and it would need to be backdated to cover the time since I self certified, even though this was holiday, and I just wonder if it ends up being 3 weeks off altogether if this sounds too much for such an early loss (I should be 8 weeks). Not sure what my GP would think or even if I would be able to get an appointment before I'm due back on Tuesday morning. Also worried my DH won't think I need more time off, and will be worried about what people at work think as he works in the same company. I didn't really want to discuss what has happened with anyone at work, especially my boss, so not sure what they could give as a reason on a sicknote. Sometimes I think it would be easier all round to just go in, but I know I won't be able to do my job properly, and if I'm at work DD is due to go and stay with MIL for a couple of nights which I will find hard as she has helped me through the last few days.
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