How old were you or how old will you be (ish) when you have your first child? I'm 28 this year and starting to get really hung up about the effects of age on fertility - if I think about it too much I actually start to feel panicky.
When we first discussed having children, my OH wanted to have had at least one by the time we were 30, if not 2. His argument was that he wanted to have as many years as posible with his children, which I agree with totally. Being very traditional, the plan was to:
1. Buy a house
2. Get engaged
3. Get married
4. Start a family
And then life got in the way. He was made redundant last year and is retraining in a different career at the moment while working part-time, so we don't really have the money to do any of the above right now or anytime soon. In fact, I hate to think how old I'll be when I finally get round to #4 if we do stick to the plan. It feels like that episode of Friends when Rachel turns 30 and realises her life plan is going pretty much the same way. It's so frustrating knowing what you want but having to put it on hold.
So, anyway I just wanted to know how old everyone else was / will be when TTC baby #1, whether there were/are any fertility issues, and if you had similar worries, how you overcame these.
Thanks, Lulls
When we first discussed having children, my OH wanted to have had at least one by the time we were 30, if not 2. His argument was that he wanted to have as many years as posible with his children, which I agree with totally. Being very traditional, the plan was to:
1. Buy a house
2. Get engaged
3. Get married
4. Start a family
And then life got in the way. He was made redundant last year and is retraining in a different career at the moment while working part-time, so we don't really have the money to do any of the above right now or anytime soon. In fact, I hate to think how old I'll be when I finally get round to #4 if we do stick to the plan. It feels like that episode of Friends when Rachel turns 30 and realises her life plan is going pretty much the same way. It's so frustrating knowing what you want but having to put it on hold.
So, anyway I just wanted to know how old everyone else was / will be when TTC baby #1, whether there were/are any fertility issues, and if you had similar worries, how you overcame these.
Thanks, Lulls