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My partner and I were having an awesome christmas day when he randomly started up the conversation of when to have another baby. It had always been down that we would have one when Jason was around 3. The main reason being that I don't really fancy a double pram.
The thing is he said that perhaps waiting until Jason was 3 would still be rather a large age gap for them to be like twins and play properly, which is what we would both love as there is a 5 year gap between him and his sister and both myself and my partner were brought up with sisters but we both had large age gaps with them. So that started the conversation off about whether we should have one sooner which would mean trying from NOW. This has completely thrown me. I didn't think it was an option until he said and now I am not sure.
I would love to have another(even with a double pram), but I also love having Jason as the only baby right now and I am worried about having another so soon. What will change and whether Jason will suffer with my split attention, or how it would even work!
So..HELP! I am so confused. We want a summer baby as our children are winter babies so if I am going to do that before Jason is 2 we have to start next month. Which is no problem as I get preggers really easily but I don't want to rush it when I am not 100% sure..but I don't want to leave it so Jason can't have a great relationship with his sibling.
What do you think and how do you feel about age gaps? Do you think Jason could still have a playmate relationship with a 3 year gap?
My partner and I were having an awesome christmas day when he randomly started up the conversation of when to have another baby. It had always been down that we would have one when Jason was around 3. The main reason being that I don't really fancy a double pram.
The thing is he said that perhaps waiting until Jason was 3 would still be rather a large age gap for them to be like twins and play properly, which is what we would both love as there is a 5 year gap between him and his sister and both myself and my partner were brought up with sisters but we both had large age gaps with them. So that started the conversation off about whether we should have one sooner which would mean trying from NOW. This has completely thrown me. I didn't think it was an option until he said and now I am not sure.
I would love to have another(even with a double pram), but I also love having Jason as the only baby right now and I am worried about having another so soon. What will change and whether Jason will suffer with my split attention, or how it would even work!
So..HELP! I am so confused. We want a summer baby as our children are winter babies so if I am going to do that before Jason is 2 we have to start next month. Which is no problem as I get preggers really easily but I don't want to rush it when I am not 100% sure..but I don't want to leave it so Jason can't have a great relationship with his sibling.
What do you think and how do you feel about age gaps? Do you think Jason could still have a playmate relationship with a 3 year gap?