Almost 44 final ttc journey -- buddies needed : )

[Sophie2015]

Hopefully being on vacation will help you keep your mind off of things until your next scan. This scan could not have been more perfect, so at least you have that to hang your hat on if you get anxious in the next two weeks.

We are here for you whenever you need some support! I can't wait until you are through your 12 week scan and bloodwork and can finally feel like you can start looking forward to taking home a baby in your arms! (although I know some degree of worry will always be there!).

I can't even imagine what it might feel like to actually believe we might get a baby out of a pregnancy. We are excited but after 4 losses also very subdued. We learned with our 3rd that at 43 until the genetics comes back normal there is a lot of worrying left to do. But I feel good. At least today. By Thursday I'll be worked into a tizzy about some new fear I'm sure. Plus being a NICU nurse I know wayyyyy too many things that can go wrong in 10 months time.

 

[TTC74]

I feel you, Sophie. I don't get another scan until the 17th. I think I'm going to die, too! I got a fetal doppler monitor last night and tried to listen for baby's heartbeat but I couldn't find it. DH swears he heard it with headphones in, though. Unfortunately, he lost it again rather quickly. I feel pretty comfortable with the knowledge that it's just my funky tilted uterus in the early stages of pregnancy.

Oh! And, I am getting the qnatal genetic test Friday or Monday. The doctor's office says it takes about a week to get the results back.

 

[Sophie2015]

TTC I bought a Doppler for my pregnancy last summer. She had great HB's but I only ever found her on my home Doppler one time and that was immediately after a scan when I knew right where she was. So I don't put a lot of faith in home dopplers until 2nd and 3rd trimester. Although I struggled to find her at 14 weeks right after an ultrasound when we knew she still had a HB. So I'll prob wait til 16 weeks or so to try mine.
I will do the progenity test at 11 weeks like I did last summer. I had results in 5 days. But first I have to make it thru 2 more ultrasounds on the 15th and the 30th. FX'd for us all- whether pregnant or still ttc!

 

[CaliDreaming]

Oh wow Sophie being a NICU nurse must make it extra hard to relax. But I know you must have seen some miracles too.

I had the hardest time finding the heartbeat in the early weeks, but the doppler was really comforting as my pregnancy progressed. I also had an anterior placenta both times, so I couldn't really feel the babies move until they were really big and even then I never really felt them all that strongly. I was always surprised when the doctors told me that my babies were really active because I could never feel anything through that dang placenta! The sonographer would always be like "Now I KNOW you felt that one!" and I was always like "nope".

 

[AngelUK]

So OH wants to try till New Year and then give up. So I bought a lot of ov sticks from clearblue, both the pink and the purple ones. The purple ones are meant to pinpoint 2 peak days and 2 high fertility days and the pink ones just the 2 most fertile days. This morning I got a Peak fertility day smiley on the purple and a no surge circle on the pink. So confusing The pink sticks never picked up any surge last month at all and the purple stick holder was broken. (got a new one now). According to MFF this could be my fertile days IF my cycle is again 29 days but it varies these days. What do you think ladies? Waste of dtd and sticks or what? (We never dtd just for fun these days, waaaaay too tired )

 

[Sophie2015]

So OH wants to try till New Year and then give up. So I bought a lot of ov sticks from clearblue, both the pink and the purple ones. The purple ones are meant to pinpoint 2 peak days and 2 high fertility days and the pink ones just the 2 most fertile days. This morning I got a Peak fertility day smiley on the purple and a no surge circle on the pink. So confusing The pink sticks never picked up any surge last month at all and the purple stick holder was broken. (got a new one now). According to MFF this could be my fertile days IF my cycle is again 29 days but it varies these days. What do you think ladies? Waste of dtd and sticks or what? (We never dtd just for fun these days, waaaaay too tired )

I am not familiar with the pink opk sticks. However the clearblue ones that pinpoint 2 peak days and 2 high fertility days I am. Mine always showed days upon days of high fertility days before it finally showed peak days. Because it was picking up on my estrogen rising before my LH surge and as I aged I guess my estrogen rose for days and days before my LH surge. It was exhausting. Not sure if that helps or not.

 

[CaliDreaming]

That's a tough one AngelUK. The purple ones sound like the ones I use with my fertility monitor, and I found those to be incredibly accurate. If those are the same kind, then they test more than just LH so I would think they would be more reliable.

 

[CaliDreaming]

I am not familiar with the pink opk sticks. However the clearblue ones that pinpoint 2 peak days and 2 high fertility days I am. Mine always showed days upon days of high fertility days before it finally showed peak days. Because it was picking up on my estrogen rising before my LH surge and as I aged I guess my estrogen rose for days and days before my LH surge. It was exhausting. Not sure if that helps or not.

^^^ This is really good info. I lost my fertility monitor during a move but I plan to get another and start up again in a month or so. I haven't used it in over 3 years so it's good to have a heads up on how my cycle may change.

 

[AngelUK]

It is really helpful thank you. Cause a few cycles ago I got the high fertility smiley for days on end on the purple one too and I thought it must be broken. But that explains it. However, this morning the purple on did show the peak fertility smiley so I am hoping it is right and the pink one is just to weak to pick it up. So FX please ladies

 

[Sophie2015]

Yep. I'd get a flashing smiley sometimes for 7 full days before I finally got a solid smiley. Of course I wasn't sure what was going on exactly until I started with my RE and was having every other day ultrasounds to monitor follicle growth. That's how I figured out all those flashing smileys were my follicles growing and estrogen rising. FX!!

 

[AngelUK]

Well I just told OH he'd have to bite bullet and do it a few times this month lol

 

[Sophie2015]

Well I just told OH he'd have to bite bullet and do it a few times this month lol

Has it become a chore? We've tried for so many years that I started telling my DH if we ever got pregnant he'd never have to do it again. And he used to be hypersexual before all this ttc! It's ruined him sadly.

 

[AngelUK]

It has a bit yes. Ttc took out the fun really. And then after we had the boys we were both so incredibly tired all the time cause one of them woke every 45 minutes through the night till he was about a year old. So dtd just was not on the cards at all. And since then it's just never really come back. But you know, I don't regret it and neither does he cause we have never been happier in our lives.

 

[Sophie2015]

That's all that matters! Happiness 😊

 

[CaliDreaming]

Yes children do put a huge damper on sexy time, unfortunately. For us, a lot of times it is a choice between sleep or sex, and sleep usually wins, lol. Also, my 5 year old won't stay in her bed all night and likes to come sleep with us. It's really sweet and I'll miss it when she no longer does it, but in the meantime, she shuts the love factory completely down unless we can fit it in before she makes her nightly journey across the hall to our room. Then my husband has a crazy schedule and sometimes he has to work really late or wake up really early.

If we get it in two times a week we're doing good and sometimes I don't even see how we manage to fit it in that much. Too many times we'll go two weeks with no baby dancing at all.

 

[Sophie2015]

Just thought I'd pop in and say hello. Hope all you ladies are doing okay. No news here. Just waiting for Monday and ultrasound #2.

 

[AngelUK]

No news here either. FX for your ultrasound

 

[TTC74]

I've got my genetic test outstanding. Hopefully, the results will be in by the end of the week. I'm very nervous. Having said that, I finally found the baby's heartbeat on the fetal Doppler last night! It couldn't have been timed better.

GL with your scan, Sophie!

 

[CaliDreaming]

TTC74, finding the heartbeat so early is definitely a great sign. Just one week away and you'll be able to put this part of the journey behind you. The testing is so stressful!

I guess Sophie is enjoying her vacation and gearing up for her scan too!

 

[Sophie2015]

I've got my genetic test outstanding. Hopefully, the results will be in by the end of the week. I'm very nervous. Having said that, I finally found the baby's heartbeat on the fetal Doppler last night! It couldn't have been timed better.

GL with your scan, Sophie!

FX'd your genetics is good! It will give me such hope.