Am I allowed to be excited yet?

[mamarix16]

Hi there, I am currently pregnant with baby number 3 and am 24 weeks! This baby was unplanned and totally unexpected but very much wanted, I dont know why but it all still feels so unreal! The baby is now moving all over the place which is amazing but I am still so scared to be excited incase anything happens I keep expecting the worst and its awful, this is my last pregnancy and I just want to cherish every second but the fear of not bringing my baby home is ruining it does anyone else feel like this or am I nuts?

 

[BethK]

I feel very much like that.

I did with my DD too. I think it's mainly due to the fact that we had to go through years of treatment and to get to this stage we've spent well over £40k so the amount of 'tries' was seriously diminishing.

This is our very last, can't afford to try for any more so i'd really like to enjoy it but at every stage i'm petrified, even more so than i was first time around!

got my 20 week scan tomorrow and i'm just trying to forget about it

 

[mamarix16]

BethK its terrible to be so worrysome hey! huge congrats to you I am so excited for you for your 20 week scan, its such an amazing experience!!! I hope we feel better and more confident soon!

 

[Hit Girl]

I am still so scared to be excited incase anything happens

I could have written this. I have felt like this all along. You are definitely not nuts.... well, if you are then so am I!

This is my second and I know it will be our last too. I'm scared to get too excited because of what could possibly go wrong. I feel so incredibly lucky to have had my son, he's incredible and healthy and I don't know how I can be so lucky to have another precious little healthy bundle. I liken it to winning the lottery twice - people just don't do that. I can feel the little one moving around in there too and every dr and scan is telling us that he's doing beautifully in there but I still don't feel like it's real.

 

[DoubleTFun]

I am at 22+3 with my surprise twins. They definitely weren't planned since I was on birth control and getting ready to switch to something more permanent. I am just praying they make it to 24 weeks. I was never really scared during my first 2 pregnancies, but this one terrifies me. Maybe because it was so unplanned and the idea of having 2 at once, plus I have to see a high risk Dr along with my regular. I'm just glad I have ultrasounds every 4 weeks to reassure me that everything is okay, and now they are both wiggling around all the time so that is nice.

 

[spunky84]

Same here. This one was a complete surprised (though very much wanted). I'm finally at the point where I'm very excited, but I'm still very on edge about something going wrong. I spend a good portion of my day worrying as I know things can still go wrong, and I have no idea how I would be able to handle it if something did happen.

 

[mamarix16]

Its so nice to hear it is not just me, these lives are so precious and you just cant get your head around it - wishing us all healthy and happy babies - I think I will be totally grey at the end of this!

 

[Dark_Star]

I'm 24 weeks with twins. Mine were planned but I'm still too scared to buy anything or even name them. So much has gone wrong for me in the past.

 

[Hope87]

Unfortunately, I think there is no relief from the worry for an expecting mother. The other day I had a good heart-to-heart with my mother-in-law about the pregnancy. I expressed my constant worry, since I've already had 2 scares with this pregnancy. Honest to God, she was wonderful and said something along the lines of... "All mothers feel that way, even after birth. You will always be worried about the life, welfare and care of your child because you love them so much." She is so right! We all want happy, health babies. And I don't think the worry will ever go away, even when they're in their 20s and moving away from home. hahaha its part of being a mom I guess!

 

[2have4kids]

After 3 iui's, waiting for AF to start bcp for the 7th IVF (3 of the last IVF's with donor eggs), AF never came, miracle baby came instead. My DH and I never thought we'd be able to have biological children together. We were also on the adoption list. Congrats to you on your third, I can relate, our pregnancy was a total shock and very welcome surprise!