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Don't think I've ever posted in WTT but it seems now is the time because this has been weighing on my heart. Sorry so long....
DH and I have a smart, funny, very spirited and adorable 11 month old daughter. I would be content just with her (I'm an only child so I think that's playing into my satisfaction with just one baby) but DH is HELL BENT on having another! I mean at least once a day he says "aw she needs a sibling!" or jokes that we need to get more chairs around the table for when "we have her little brother/sister!"
DD is a delight - a lot of work, yes - but a great kid! I had 3 miscarriages previously, so I was absolutely thrilled to have her!! DH is super helpful and a great dad, and we could easily support another baby. I keep telling DH we should adopt and he isn't opposed to it, but he keeps asking why? I told him that lots of wonderful babies need homes (which I believe and I seriously hope we do look into adoption someday) but the real reason is...
I'm too scared to be pregnant again. NOT because of the miscarriages but because I worry there will be something wrong with the baby/happen at birth.
I loved being pregnant with DD! I felt great and enjoyed it - but I worried THE WHOLE TIME there would be something wrong with her. There wasn't, but I just don't think I could mentally go through pregnancy again and wonder if everything will be okay for 9 whole months?
Don't judge me for this - but I sort of feel like, we are so blessed with one healthy daughter, when does the luck run out? isn't that an awful reason for not wanting another? I'm embarrassed of myself to be honest.
Has anyone ever felt this way and overcome it? Or am I just being a selfish weirdo? I think i might be!
DH and I have a smart, funny, very spirited and adorable 11 month old daughter. I would be content just with her (I'm an only child so I think that's playing into my satisfaction with just one baby) but DH is HELL BENT on having another! I mean at least once a day he says "aw she needs a sibling!" or jokes that we need to get more chairs around the table for when "we have her little brother/sister!"
DD is a delight - a lot of work, yes - but a great kid! I had 3 miscarriages previously, so I was absolutely thrilled to have her!! DH is super helpful and a great dad, and we could easily support another baby. I keep telling DH we should adopt and he isn't opposed to it, but he keeps asking why? I told him that lots of wonderful babies need homes (which I believe and I seriously hope we do look into adoption someday) but the real reason is...
I'm too scared to be pregnant again. NOT because of the miscarriages but because I worry there will be something wrong with the baby/happen at birth.
I loved being pregnant with DD! I felt great and enjoyed it - but I worried THE WHOLE TIME there would be something wrong with her. There wasn't, but I just don't think I could mentally go through pregnancy again and wonder if everything will be okay for 9 whole months?
Don't judge me for this - but I sort of feel like, we are so blessed with one healthy daughter, when does the luck run out? isn't that an awful reason for not wanting another? I'm embarrassed of myself to be honest.
Has anyone ever felt this way and overcome it? Or am I just being a selfish weirdo? I think i might be!