myangel167
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my husband and I were randomly having a talk about what it will be like when we have our 1st baby and all that good stuff when the subject of who will be in the delivery room came about. I said I only wanted him and I, and that I didn't want any visitors (no friends or family) until several hours afterwards so we can have our alone time with the baby, and I can freshen up, rest, etc. I was telling him that if its at a decent hour, that we can tell our family that I'm in labor but ask them not to come until we give the okay. (& if it was say...in the middle of the night, that we would just tell them in the morning, or after the baby arrived) He thinks I am being selfish by not allowing anyone to be there. I understand that our families will be excited and want to be there but at the same time, What about what I want? I am a really mellow person and Im sure I wont want all the craziness.
Also, I was telling my husband that after their initial hospital visits, that I wouldn't want any home visitors for about the first week while our little family is getting adjusted. But then after that, family and friends can come by whenever. Again, he thinks I'm being too territorial and selfish. (I see what he is saying but I am standing firm on this one. This is really what I want. Maybe I'll change my mind but this is how I feel!)
Maybe this stems from me coming from a not super close-knit family. (which he sort of doesn't either. and his family is very small) Or maybe this stems from the fact that his mom is a control freak and always thinks she is right, and I don't want her to try to take over. don't get me wrong, I love her, Im just stating a fact. lol. anyway, I'm not sure exactly why I feel this way, but I do!
Anyone else have similar feelings?
Also, I was telling my husband that after their initial hospital visits, that I wouldn't want any home visitors for about the first week while our little family is getting adjusted. But then after that, family and friends can come by whenever. Again, he thinks I'm being too territorial and selfish. (I see what he is saying but I am standing firm on this one. This is really what I want. Maybe I'll change my mind but this is how I feel!)
Maybe this stems from me coming from a not super close-knit family. (which he sort of doesn't either. and his family is very small) Or maybe this stems from the fact that his mom is a control freak and always thinks she is right, and I don't want her to try to take over. don't get me wrong, I love her, Im just stating a fact. lol. anyway, I'm not sure exactly why I feel this way, but I do!
Anyone else have similar feelings?