Am I being hormonal, or would you be upset too?

[Blzgak]

Ok, so we are a military family and we are currently living on the other side of the country from all of our loved ones and have been since I marrived my husband. We try to keep everyone updated with pictures and news via Facebook, but I feel like everyone has been taking advantage of that.

Anyways here is where I'm not sure if I'm being upset and irrational for no reason. The 13th was my son's second birthday and no one from either family called him to say happy birthday. Nothing. My mom had mentioned last week about sending him money, but that's it. This also happened last year for his first birthday and it has honestly broken my heart. It's hard enough being so far from home and I couldn't care less about birthday money or toys, all I want is for them the participate in our children's lives as much as they are able. I feel like posting pictures and stories gives them enough to where they are not as active as I would like them to be in our lives. I've debated on either deactivating my facebook, or I will stop posting about the kids. I just don't know if I'm being irrational. What would you do?

I also have a nephew who is about to turn one and I know they are going to throw him a party and make a huge deal about it. I try not to get caught up with that situation, but it's hard when they can't even manage a phone call for my son.

 

[MnGmakes3]

Id be pretty upset if no one called also. Actually I'd be devastated if my mom forgot my child's bday! Did you happen to ask your mom if she forgot?

Is the nephew close that they're throwing him a party?

 

[AJae]

Personally i would go 'Game Of Thrones' on them. Yes it's a big deal not marking or acknowledging the occasion. You can do without the fancy gifts etc but be human and make contact!!!

Especially if others in the family get the party.

Justified. Yes, get upset.

 

[Blzgak]

Yeah, my nephew is close by and my parents are always watching him. Every time I call they go on and on about how amazing he is, so I know that they are going to be doing something big for his 1st. I try not to let it get to me, but it always stings a little bit.

We had conversations about my son's birthday, but I'm not the type of person that has to update the days and hours until a birthday on Facebook, so I'm assuming that's why they forgot. I honestly don't want to talk to my mom right now because I'm too emotionally charged to tell her how I feel without blowing up and I'm not in the mood for excuses.

I was also a military child and one of my parents biggest complaints was how my grandparents weren't involved in our lives, especially around our birthdays. That's why this situation pisses me off as much as it does. They know how it feels!

Seriously, look at his cute little face and tell me you wouldn't be upset too. Lol

 

[tcinks]

Awww what a cutie!


I'd be pretty upset. It doesn't matter how far away you are, it's not that hard for them to pick up the phone and call! Or send a card in the mail! Yikes. I probably would also stop posting pictures and things. Is it like they are upset with you for moving away and that's why they're acting like this? That's so not okay! I'm sorry you're dealing with this and hope your son isn't feeling forgotten.

 

[LilianA]

I was upset when my first son's couple birthdays went by and no one really remembered but then I got used to it!and he's the first grandchild on my side of the family!! if I put up a picture of one of my kids with a birthday hat or something then they will wish him a happy birthday but that's it!!!!!!!!! It does upset me that none of them (on both sides) does much at all for the kids but i'm used to it now, I don't expect anything from anyone and try to give my kids as much as we could possibly can.
We are also far away from both sides and I really think that has a big part to do with it.

 

[2have4kids]

My co-worker had his baby and announced on fb to get absolutely NO replies. He deactivated his account for that. You have every reason to be upset! This is not supportive to you or your LO, that's supposed to be what family is all about right? I'm sorry you're going through this. I'd be expressing my disappointment with my close family. Once you express this if you still don't get response maybe then consider deactivating your account. After all, I think facebook can act like a double edged sword. It can be supportive, connecting and engaging or it can make you feel very alienated.

Just make sure you are as active on friends and family's lives as you wish them to be of yours. I have a couple who receives very little engagement on facebook from friends or family simply because they only post about themselves. I find myself almost intentionally not posting replies on their boards when they post about their family holidays because I don't like how they are so very inward focused (even in person - he won't shut up about himself!) I'm sure this isn't the same reason for you as you sound like you quite enjoy engaging with family, you sound very personable and caring. xx