Am I being selfish?

[mylittlebubs]

I know how you feel, i used to feel the same (if i';m selfish)
I also breastfeed and never give the bottle, only the first week of his life when i didn't produce enough milk for him yet. OH used to feed him then
But now OH helps me bath him,take him for a walk and play with him a lot and they bond very well.actually LO seems very happy with OH,more than with me,lol
anyway, express some milk and let your OH feed the baby is a great way out
Do what you feel right and talk to OH, i;m sure you will find the best way out for both of you

 

[Holldoll]

I haven't read all the posts, but I have my $.02 to put in.

Bella didn't have a bottle until 9 weeks when my mom would no longer be staying with us and she had to go to a babysitter. DH never gave her a bottle until about she was 4 months old. I think he's probably given her 5 bottle total. He is completely bonded to her. He got plenty of snuggle time with her whenever I wasn't feeding her at the beginning. He changes the majority of the diapers (when he's home) and loves it. He uses that time to talk to her and play with her and bond with her.

That being said, Bella had a difficult time taking a bottle because we waited so long to give her one. I never had ANY issues breastfeeding so I should have introduced a bottle earlier, not to take place of a full feeding, but just to get her used to taking the bottle. She takes one great now!

 

[Wobbles]

So because theres more ways than 1 to bond with baby Daddy shouldn't want to bond by feeding his LO and feel a bit that maybe he can't for a bit? Thats a bit selfish in thought not actions.

Tbh I'd stick to your guns, the last thing you need when you're full of post-natal hormones (and they're truly a bitch) is watching someone doing something with your baby that you're not comfortable with.

Mummy power - Daddy sit down shut up? lol ...I know thats not how it was meant but the reply did look like that

IMO you feeding choice is one your comfortable with and there may be give and take with both methods for both parents but I don't think it's fair to shut Daddys feelings out in a 'deal with it' attitude. I said so thats how it is - you can talk about these things together pros cons and whys without being selfish and still feed with your original choice! If that makes sense! x