Chilli
Very lucky Mum of 2 girls
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Ok, so 2 months on and I have a confession to make.
You see my baby died at 8 weeks, it was a MMC so we discovered at 11 1/2 weeks. I realised that at 8 weeks I had had a REALLY horrible virus, it was so bad that I barely ate that week as I couldn't swallow. My 2 year old was doubled up with tummy pains the same week and had a viral rash. When we took her to the doc she said that it was all part of a really nasty virus. I mentioned this to one of my friends who said "oh yes my daughter had that last week". She had been to visit us the Friday before fully aware that her DD and her would be carrying this awful virus and that I was in 1st tri!! When I asked the GP if this could have been the cause she said it was probably co-incidence, but I'm sure that was what caused Sol's heart to stop - it was a really nasty virus!
The same friend has since been completely unsupportive, never asks me about how I'm feeling, did nothing to acknowledge what had happened to us and is the same friend I mentioned in an ealier thread who asked me to look after her 2 yr old if she was taken in early (she was 8 months pg) without any consideration for the thought that at the time I could barely get myself out of bed.
So here's the thing: I still blame her. I know she didn't do anything delibrately, but she was so careless and had she told me before that her DD had been ill that week I wouldn't have met up. And that's been eating me up. I finally confessed to my DH last night and he agreed that it could've been what happened.
So, I know I can trust you girls to be honest and understanding - have I just lost the plot or would you feel the same?
You see my baby died at 8 weeks, it was a MMC so we discovered at 11 1/2 weeks. I realised that at 8 weeks I had had a REALLY horrible virus, it was so bad that I barely ate that week as I couldn't swallow. My 2 year old was doubled up with tummy pains the same week and had a viral rash. When we took her to the doc she said that it was all part of a really nasty virus. I mentioned this to one of my friends who said "oh yes my daughter had that last week". She had been to visit us the Friday before fully aware that her DD and her would be carrying this awful virus and that I was in 1st tri!! When I asked the GP if this could have been the cause she said it was probably co-incidence, but I'm sure that was what caused Sol's heart to stop - it was a really nasty virus!
The same friend has since been completely unsupportive, never asks me about how I'm feeling, did nothing to acknowledge what had happened to us and is the same friend I mentioned in an ealier thread who asked me to look after her 2 yr old if she was taken in early (she was 8 months pg) without any consideration for the thought that at the time I could barely get myself out of bed.
So here's the thing: I still blame her. I know she didn't do anything delibrately, but she was so careless and had she told me before that her DD had been ill that week I wouldn't have met up. And that's been eating me up. I finally confessed to my DH last night and he agreed that it could've been what happened.
So, I know I can trust you girls to be honest and understanding - have I just lost the plot or would you feel the same?