am i being unreasonable?! (Long rant sorry)

[sophiecouldwe]

this has really been an on going problem throughout my pregnancy. me and OH are both quite young and we are the first out of both sets of friends to settle down and start a family which means that our friends are still going out, socialising, drinking and stuff. obviously for me going out and drinking stopped months ago which has meant i dont see my friends half as much but my OH goes out every week to the pub!!! i know im jealous cos would love to let my hair down a bit and shouldnt take it out on him but he gets drunk nearly everytime he goes, expects me to take him and pick him up and then sometimes even when im there to pick him up ses "ive not quite finished my pint come inside for a bit!" which really winds me up cos i have to sit there like a fatty and get it rubbed in my face that i am a fatty at the mo. we argue everytime he goes out but it doesnt change anything he still goes! its the only time he sees his friends but what about me!!

 

[lu-lu2009]

poor you ! i know exactly how you feel (my mates are out tonight for a birthday, also missed out on dry slope skiing earlier ) every week for your partner to go out is way to much, esp at your late stage of pregnancy, does he expect this to carry on once bubs is here ???

 

[babystar]

i wouldnt ferry him around like a taxi service. If he wants to go out for a drink fair enuff let him... he shouldnt be expecting you to pick him up etc tho. When me and OH had our 1st this was the same kinda scenario too so I sympathise with you

 

[NoSpringChick]

When youve had the baby just leave him with his dad and then YOU start going out. Pay back time

 

[lucilou]

at the moment I am happy to be taxi when we go out together, but DH wouldn't expect me to pick him up if he was going out without me, which he does about once or twice a week... he doesn't come home reeking though. Normally I'm in bed before he comes home and he'd never expct me to wait up.

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all - sounds like he's been getting away with too much for too long!

 

[PrincessSoph]

I dont think you are being unreasonable hun. my hubby goes out quite a lot (bit different as hes been away for nearly 7 months and unable to go out at all) but i refuse to pick him up and take him. Once you've had the baby def leave him with OH and go out!!

 

[Brilith]

I so know how you feel! It's not that i don't want him to go out but I want to go out too! It's completely unfair that I have to sit at home on my own when he is out having fun.. I didn't get pregnant on my own.. Beh..

I love him very much but this is really getting me down.

 

[lindypops]

That sucks!

My DH is pretty good, actually, and he understands that I don't want him to be out and drinking in the last few weeks just in case something happens (and so that I can make sure I have enough influence over him to get him to do it, which is reassurring as I'll be the one at home all the time when LO is born). Whether he does it or not is another thing.

I do want to encourage him to go out now, as he won't be able to so much when she's here - can you say something like that to your OH? Like, it's good you're goign out lots now as you know that's going to change soon? It might prepare him a bit more for how you're both going to have to adapt.