Am i in the wrong?

[rebeccalouise]

You've been more than reasonable in asking for a little more! I asked Amelia's dad, and he had no problem with it.. Said he was going to offer anyway! We've gone halves. X

 

[MrsT&Ben]

I dont think £250 for 2 kids is a huge amount, however I also don't think that the absent parent should be fully responsible for all costs. Even things out, stick his £250 a month in a pot, chuck in £250 from you plus the child benefit then its a bit more equal.

I'm not saying by the way that you should actually do this but some replies seem to go down the road that his contribution should cover everything.

I don't think his contribution should cover everything.. they are my children as well and I see it as my role as their mother to provide for them. I just don't see why he thinks 250 quid is enough for 2 children and expects me to provide everything else just because I'm entitled to benefits.

Thank you all for your replies. I still don't think I was in the wrong for asking. But he always will. 1 of the many reasons I'm glad we split up!

 

[suzib76]

I dont think £250 for 2 kids is a huge amount, however I also don't think that the absent parent should be fully responsible for all costs. Even things out, stick his £250 a month in a pot, chuck in £250 from you plus the child benefit then its a bit more equal.

I'm not saying by the way that you should actually do this but some replies seem to go down the road that his contribution should cover everything.

I don't think his contribution should cover everything.. they are my children as well and I see it as my role as their mother to provide for them. I just don't see why he thinks 250 quid is enough for 2 children and expects me to provide everything else just because I'm entitled to benefits.

Thank you all for your replies. I still don't think I was in the wrong for asking. But he always will. 1 of the many reasons I'm glad we split up!

No I didn't really mean it to sound directed. It was more generally to the posters who were suggesting that the absent parent should cover all expenses.

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

my ex gives me 150 every month and has done for the past 7 years for our son (i should probably take a look at inflation lmao) however every August i just text him with his half of the uniform and he pays it, no questions asked, i do always give notice though. I will ask him if he wants to go halves as usual and if so i will let him know the amount and then he can pay it when ever.

I should add though; this is the only time we split costs as i feel its the only extra that both of us should pay equally. He never has to put money forward for shoes/ clothes for daily wear etc, I pay for that and i suppose in part he does with his 150 quid.
He buys him shoes and clothes that stay at his house.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I have to PAY 100 a month in fuel to take mine to their dads and get no maintenence at all. Feeling robbed lol x

 

[Tasha]

Does he bring them back MF?

 

[catty]

I have to PAY 100 a month in fuel to take mine to their dads and get no maintenence at all. Feeling robbed lol x

Thats bad midnight! Hed have to pay if use were together so not fair just because use have split.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

No, he doesnt drive lol x

 

[Tasha]

Then I'd be expecting a contribution towards fuel. Yes you're facilitating contact and that's important but it's also important that he's responsible for the children he helped create.

 

[smileyfaces]

Grrrr don't do it Em, hes taking the piss!

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

They want to see him he doesnt work atm so cant really get more than £7 a month according to csa lol x

 

[rebeccalouise]

I have to PAY 100 a month in fuel to take mine to their dads and get no maintenence at all. Feeling robbed lol x

That's awful! He should split the travelling, at the very least.

 

[mummylove]

tbh whether csa say that money they pay is for anything any loving parent would want to help as much as they can