Am I To Blame For My Baby's Prematurity?

[hello_kitty]

I know this is probably superstition and crazy but sometimes the thought crosses my mind. When Zachary was around 27 weeks I started watching preemie videos on youtube weekly. I wasnt able to see my baby so the only way I could tell what he looked like, or what his development was like is by watching youtube videos on mothers who gave birth to preemie. Zachary is doing suburb now, but sometimes I just wondering if I triggered him into being born early by watching youtube videos?

 

[sunnylove]

Yes. Watching videos about premature births have been linked to actually giving birth prematurely yourself.

 

[AP]

Yes. Watching videos about premature births have been linked to actually giving birth prematurely yourself.

Do you have information to back this up?




hello_kitty I sincerely doubt it I'm afraid at present there is still so much unknown about spontanious premature labours, and infections that the medical world can't trace yet that may be a cause.
Visuals are highly unlikely to make your body go into labour. Otherwise the girls in pregnancy tri's would be warned not to watch One Born Every Minute Athough I think from your post, common sense already tells you that. It's easy for us to blame ourselves somehow, I think thats all part of the process and journey

 

[25weeker]

I agree with atomicpink. I would doubt watching videos would make you go into premature labour. If its going to happen it will unfortunately regardless what you watch. Guilt is something we all experience and wanting answers as to why it happened but unfortunately sometimes there isn't an answer. There will come a time when knowing this is easier to deal with xx

 

[DonnaBallona]

I think this is a very natural part of becoming a preemie mum.
I think we all blame ourselves for a part of it.... before I had my third; I had two seizures suddenly and without any warning. My blood pressure was dangerously high, the crash team were called and Jude was delivered a couple of hours later by crash section.

After his arrival; even though i was fighting to stabilise myself in the icu, I spent three terrifying days blaming myself for his troubles, clutching at straws trying to remember what is done 'wrong'- was it something I ate? had I thought some bad thoughts? had someone cursed me?

But actually, I just needed to reassure myself that Jude's arrival was the best and safest thing for him at that moment; and he was safer out than he was in.
Anger, Denial, sadness, jealousy, rage and happiness are all the emotions I went through the first few weeks after birth- even now I get the occasional wobble.
rest assured, watching videos would NOT have triggered anything like this.
having a prem or sick baby is hard enough- go easy on yourself xx