emyandpotato
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I don't think it's rude. She's a friend. Asked advice from a friend about something she needs help with. She didn't ask you to make her a cake for free. If you don't want to help that's okay, but it wasn't rude of her to ask.
I write for a magazine (for free, actually) and some small blogs. People ask me all the time for help with essays, job applications, proof-reading... It's fine! Not rude at all. People ask for favours and will more often than not be delighted to return the favour in whatever way they can. You often see people wondering where our sense of community has gone, but with everyone helping everyone out in little ways where they can, it'd be a little more apparent. I'm not saying put yourself out and put favours above your job/kids/wellbeing, and I'm certainly not saying anyone should end up out of pocket for the sake of being kind, but a little kindness doesn't hurt, and nor does asking for help from someone in the know.
Totally disagree on how not offering free services kills sense of community. You provide those kindnesses through things like being willing to help them out and babysit or taking their kids to school in carpool or bringing them a casserole when they're sick and you know their family needs to eat. There are plenty of other ways to show kindness than take your time offering your business services for free.
Something I am realizing here as I read all the comments is the people saying "well if she is a "close/good" friend" But where do you draw the line? If word gets out you will surely have people wanting you to do them favors and make free items or give discounts as well.
And just to clarify she does want me to make it. She just wants me to do it at her house and basically she will help. I wouldn't mind giving her a list of materials she needs or something like that but my issue is she wants me to take hours to go to her house to make this thing.
I didn't once say it kills it, I said helping others helps a sense of community... Like you said "being willing to help them out". Yep, that's what she's asking. Why not say you don't have time to make it with her but offer her tips and advice on ingredients?