Am I wrong??? (OT)

[GDrag]

I spoke to OH and he also feels that it's very rude of them, but he feels that it's still his friend and he don't want bad feelings between them. I had to compromise on this and decided that DS will be coming to the church with us (it's not a space problem, they can't afford more guests, which I understand but they needed to take that in account before inviting him) and afterwards we will go to a nice restaurant, just the three of us.

I decided to play nice and phoned the bride-to-be to let her know (I won't display bad manners ) that I can't break a promise to my son and I'm taking him to the church ceremony but none of us will attend the celebrations after. I think I might have played it up a little too much because she was very apologetic and sounded close to tears.

So in conclusion; DS will still attend a wedding and we will have a long overdue family-night after.

 

[GDrag]

PS. I have no problem when people say 'no kids' beforehand because I know weddings are expensive affairs. My problem with the situation is that he was invited and then uninvited!

PPS. I heard from another friend that it's not just us - she also had to scramble around to find a babysitter for her two boys.

 

[CeeCee2010]

Sounds like the perfect solution Sorry in my last post I didn't mean to sound so harsh about you OH, just read it back and I sound horrid! But I'm glad that you've sorted everything out and that your DS will still have a lovely day, whatever he is doing X

 

[GDrag]

Sounds like the perfect solution Sorry in my last post I didn't mean to sound so harsh about you OH, just read it back and I sound horrid! But I'm glad that you've sorted everything out and that your DS will still have a lovely day, whatever he is doing X

No worries, I was ready to him How's that for shooting the messenger?

 

[CeeCee2010]

Sounds like the perfect solution Sorry in my last post I didn't mean to sound so harsh about you OH, just read it back and I sound horrid! But I'm glad that you've sorted everything out and that your DS will still have a lovely day, whatever he is doing X

No worries, I was ready to him How's that for shooting the messenger?

Lol the little dude with the viking hat swinging the bat made me chuckle so much I nearly feel off my wheelie chair at work lol X Seriously though glad everything is sorted for you hun X

 

[katemarie]

At our wedding we had kids on laps during the ceremony, the meal was nearly as expensive as the adults one but maybe you could call up the venue and ask if they can do something special just for him (or even offer to pay for his meal!) It is very unfair they've done this to you but I totally know what you mean that he will be so disappointed if he doesn't get to go... I'd ask them if they mind you contributing to his meal first perhaps but that may convince them and I'm sure they can pull up a small chair next to yours at a table. There is always always one person who pulls out on the day of a wedding and he isn't going to take up that much space!

 

[BexyD]

I'd be so so cross!!! How rude! You cant 'unvite' someone!! I dont knwo how old your son is, but I'm guessing he's still young therefore not going to take up lots of room and unlikely to eat a big meal. Why cant they find any extra chair and you maybe pack a lunch for him - as im assuming numbers are the problem.

I wouldnt want to go either! Very Rude!

 

[jobee2222]

take you and your son somewhere really lovely and tell him that weddings are boring blah blah. What they did is horrible and probably best not take your son now incase he gets the feeling he wasnt really invited. Make a day of it with your son, let him get dressed in his outfit you get dressed in yours and do whatever he wants, take his mind of it.

 

[LHill2010]

Wow.. TERRIBLE etiquette. You can't "un-invite" someone to a wedding!!! I would call the groom, and ask him to quit joking and start laughing at him.. It's not like your DS is going to drink the booze?!

 

[baby05]

Yeah, that is really poor manners.

 

[AmethystDream]

Glad you guys have sorted some sort of resolution. Little guy gets to go to the wedding, you get a family dinner out, LO goes to bed at a reasonable hour and you and OH have a nice time together after that.

Sounds good to me

 

[jessshakespea]

Well I'd be bloody furious as well! If it were me I'd say that it's too late to arrange childcare now so you'll not be able to go if he can't come too. I mean yes its up to individuals as to who they invite, but uninviting your son 3 days before the wedding is just shit and bad planning on their part.

agreed. sounds like they are getting grief but that's their problem not yours. Totally unfair for them to uninvite anyone, child or not (in fact especially a child!).