annoyed and upset - but should I be???

[izzlesnizzle]

I agree, i would not put scan pics on fb or apps showing how far along i am as im sure most of the people (apart from my family and close friends) on my fb dont want to see it. And i know how painful it is for people who are having their own personal issues with fertility to see how well other people are getting on. Whilst you're happy for that person and wish them well, you dont want it rammed down your throat every time you go on fb.

When i miscarried last year one of my old work friends had an app telling me every week where she was in her pregnancy and it was very painful for me to see that. I didnt delete her coz i want to know how shes getting on (but not step by step and in detail) and was excited to see her baby pics when he was born.

I can understand why this girl has deleted me as she probably doesnt want see my baby pics when L.O arrives as it will pour salt in her wounds. I wanted to tell all my friends and extended family i was pregnant so people i know, know and 99% of them were really pleased and said so. What i wont be doing is talking about it regularly on fb as i can do that with my family and close friends and on here if i want to with like minded people.

You could remove the app on fb to save peoples feelings. I know you dont have to do that but it might be kinder as you dont know what people are going through that they havent advertised to all their fb friends (or have in your brothers exes case!).

 

[Emma&Freya]

Ive got the baby gaga thing were it says how far gone I am etc it would really upset me if someone was putting a downer on my baby progress

 

[babypeanut25]

Facebook allows you to put people on a restricted access. So you won't be blocking her but she won't see certain things.

 

[maysiemoo]

I have deliberately not put loads of pregnancy related stuff on facebook. There are lots of people who have had a loss my ex and his wife for one a stillborn full-term last year. I really felt it was not appropriate to be sharing my joy at what must be a very difficult time. Plus which i have been bored by some peoples constant updates. Not everyone is excited by every single update at the end of the day. I think my friends are probably fed up of one of the game apps castleville i use!

I think blocking her viewing your baby posts sound best option. I do worry about people who share so much on facebook though then have something bad happen. Then their pain is shared as well and its really heartbreaking stuff. I just think some things should be more private for immediate family and good friends. Can you look at your privacy settings? If you set up a group you can then just put in things like only people in x group can read and post on your posts. I only have close people allowed to do much.

 

[letia659]

I have had a loss at 17 weeks and Im not that bitter I think it is way out of line to be posting things like that (what the brothers ex posted) and I have that app that updates my pregnancy weekly I dont see why its such a problem to have it if there is anyone on my friends list who doesnt want to see it by all means delete me because that means we arent that close anyway if they cant be happy for me I never deleted or blocked anyone that was pregnant and had those updates even while I was going through the hardest times of losing my daughter I guess I just see it all so much differently than most

 

[EmzLouise]

I'm sorry but I don't agree with the fact she should stop using apps and such. It's her Facebook page, she should be allowed to put whatever makes her happy.

I completely forgot about this, but you can actually subscribe and unsubscribe from someone's posts (I unsubbed from OH - was causing problems) so if anyone truly has a problem, they could easily hide that person from their timeline.

Maybe suggest this to her? I just dont see the point in having a Facebook if you can't even put your happy news on it.

 

[beth_terri]

Ok, basically every now and then I put something on facebook about my baby and how i'm feeling and how she's developing...

This one girl (my brother's ex) keeps commenting every time about the little girl that she lost at 25 weeks. At first I really felt for her and was comforting to her, replying with lots of hugs and saying I can't imagine how she feels etc.

The thing is, now I'm 25 weeks, it automatically updates this app I have with baby progress on facebook. The first comment I get is that she lost her girl at 25 weeks and that I should be careful, you might feel ok now but something bad could happen. etc.

So...is it wrong that I am annoyed and upset? I am now really scared that something is going to happen and all my sympathy towards her seems to have gone out of the window. I know that she lost her baby but should she really be passing her hurt onto others like that??

I would be annoyed tbh. Ill probably get slandered for saying it but she lost her baby, you havent lost yours. Rather than saying these things to you she shouldnt post anything at all. If she cant just be happy for you because of her experience then she should really keep quiet IMO
xx