Another view on 'sleep training'

[marley2580]

https://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/03/14/night-lights-blankets-and-lullabies/

 

[ryder]

That is a great artical!

 

[Rachel_C]

Somewhere I have a book by Winnicott called Playing and Reality that I'm sure talks about things like that... when I read it in college, I dismissed it because I was somebody who thought babies should be taught to go to sleep alone etc. How that changed when I had Leyla! Think I might revisit the book and see if it makes more sense now - it talks about being a 'good enough mother' (somebody who attends to their child's needs, not necessarily the actual mother) which is more what I think now.

 

[JayleighAnn]

Ohh cheers, it's really interesting!

There was one posted on NM forum along the same lines but a bit more....shocking for loss of a better word. The author goes more in dept into how modern sleep training can damage children for life, but it's a good read.

Edit - It has a quote from Sigmund Freud, that man was loooopy! He suggested childrenn fancy their opposite sex parent and that the other parent is jealous of that child? :\

 

[lfernie]

Yeas that's the oedipus complex that man was truly loopy, I always found phycho analysis interesting but a lot of nonsense

But the link above is an interesting read x

 

[claire-lou]

Good read I wish my boy would let me cuddle him to sleep, from been little he goes in his cot awake and is asleep before I turn out the light

 

[JayleighAnn]

Yeas that's the oedipus complex that man was truly loopy, I always found phycho analysis interesting but a lot of nonsense

But the link above is an interesting read x

He was very crazy, we started studying him at college, got to that bit and I was like No sorry, this man is insane, surely his colleauges should of been examining him not listening to him spouting poo??

 

[Monkeh]

Good article. Yeah Freud was loopy, but psychologists love him! We studied the psychosexual stages of development in psycoholgy - it's mad!

 

[FemmeEnceinte]

I feel sleep training techniques really prey on new parents' insecurities. I actually purchased the sleepsense programme (for £25...) and what I found within was basically a glorified controlled crying method. Dana starts by saying she would not for one second advise leaving your child to cry if you didn't want to, even for a minute but a few pages later says that, actually, she's sorry to tell us... there is no other way, no magical solution, but to let baby cry.

I was quite angry even though I knew before I bought it that it wouldn't be for us. I just started to worry myself that Molly wasn't sleeping enough and at the right times (she took to going to bed at 6am and sleeping through until 4pm :/) and didn't know what to do so, after hearing good things about it, but nothing in detail, I thought it'd be worth a look.

Anyway, Molly is getting far better, all by herself, and I haven't done any sort of CC at all. So, apologies to those that follow the programme and are getting a lot out of it, but I really thought it was a huge waste of money and am currently hoping she honours her no questions asked moneyback guarantee as I feel guilty even giving her the money for it.

 

[eldar]

that makes me feel so much better - I keep think I should be finding some sort of sleeping or feeding or daytime routine and yet it won't happen - we are still both a happy mummy and baby though! I think the pressure around us when asked 'is your baby sleeping through yet?' or 'are you in a routine' is horrid. Our routine is we get up and see where the day takes us, when we are tried we sleep, when hungry we eat -and there are some smiles in the time in between.

I personally love my nightime cuddles with my LO and will never let her cry on her own!

 

[Mrs Muffin]

I could never let Darwin cry on his own!