Any 21/22 year olds in the uk?

[youngwife20]

, I'm Charlie and pregnant with my first but me and OH are young in comparison to many:

How old are you? 21 but with be 22 when LO arrives
How old is your Oh? 21
How many kids do you want in total? I wanted 2 but OH has always wanted 3 so think we're just going to wait and see
Are you working? On Mat leave? A SAHM? - If you are on Matleave how long are you off for? I'm currently working full time - work doesn't know that I'm pregnant yet either. Not sure how much maternity leave I will take tbh
If your a SAHM mum how long have you been? and do you think you will be a SAHM permanently or till at school etc? , haven't got my LO yet!!
If you are working how are you finding being at work with a baby? , no baby yet
Are your baby/babies at nursery? How many days? , no baby to send to nursery yet but I think I would like my LO to go for at least an afternoon or two for the socialising

We're both very excited about the pregnancy, it was planned as we own our house, both work and felt that we wanted to be young parents so decided there's no time like the present!!!

your so right there really is no time like the present! i am really suprised about the people who have bought there own house by our age.we bought our house when i was 20 when we bought this house. and noeone i know is even renting . so its nice to see x and when do u think ul tell work xx

I know what you mean, most of my friends still live with their parents- which means that it seems we're all at different stages of our lives!! I'm not telling work for a while yet, luckily I'm still quite small so can keep bump hidden. The reason is that I'm currently on a temporary contract and will find out in January /February whether they're going to make me permanent. I don't want the pregnancy to influence their decision of whether to keep me on or not. I need to get some advice on the situation in terms of maternity leave and pay tbh. Don't really know what I'll be entitled to.

How's things been for you today? xx

Hi Hun the Jobcenter and ACAS will be really good at working out what you should be intittled too in ways of whether you get mat pay etc. your hr department will also know but i gues you dont want them getting wind of it. my hr is in poland so i could ask everything i wanted about my rights before they knew i was pregnant.

Also you have to tell them 15 weeks before your due date Ligaly that your pregnant. I hope they make you perminent !! and things have been really good it was my Birthday On tuesday so i had a lovely chilled day went to my mum with hubby and my lo for breakfast before he went to work and i spent all day at my mums which was perfect because i couldnt be bothered to go out as the whether was crap lol - how has your week been are you all ready for xmas? we didnt end up putting decorations up at our house as were spending xmas at mums so we just put them up there!

 

[youngwife20]

I'm
21 from
Birmingham and pregnant with my 3rd xx

Hello!! how do you pronounce your babies name? it looks really unique but i cant pronounce it?

 

[Emma11511]

Thought I'd crash I have a 4month old son

How old are you? 19
How old is your Oh? 29
How many kids do you want in total? 4/5
Are you working? On Mat leave? A SAHM? - If you are on Matleave how long are you off for? I'm a SAHM
If your a SAHM mum how long have you been? and do you think you will be a SAHM permintently or till at school etc? I was looking for work when I fell pregnant, never managed to get a job! Can't decide whether to go back to work soon, or wait. Going to either go to uni and qualify as a midwife, or train as a carer for now. (Will take me at least 5 years before I can work as a midwife!)
if you are working how are you finding being at work with a baby? ---
Are your baby/babies at nursery? How many days? Nope.

I've been with my OH for 2 years. Moved in together after a couple of weeks, got engaged after 2 months! We're getting married next year. Eventually OH is going to be a 'house-husband'/SAHD. I probably won't be working until Julian is at nursery, can't bear to leave him! Planning to continue babymaking in around 5 years. OH wants one now, but he's been told to wait! He's happy to go along with what I want, and I want 4/5 LOs

aww lovely i love your babys name that would be my number 1 choice for our sons name but my hubby doesnt want it boohoo! and what made you and your oh decide he would be a stay at home dad? be so cool to be a midwife. i was a carer and to be honest it isnt a job id do if im making babys as its alot of manuel handeling and being around sick people when your pregnant is not the best, but whataver suits you and your family its good to have a goal!! . and its nice that its the oh wanting more babies as its usualy the ladies forcing there oh! my hubbys the same he would literaly just get me pregnant 24/7 if he could! but i couldnt handle too many babys lol

Oh thankyou You don't hear that name very often! One of the things I like about it. It's unusual, but not 'different', if that makes sense?
To be honest, my OH is more like the housewife in our relationship anyway! I do all the cooking and baby stuff, but he's the cleaner, does the washing, cleans the dishes, walks behind me picking up my sh*t I want to breastfeed for at least another year, if not 2, and I couldn't face leaving Julian anyway. But I want to go to uni and qualify and get a good career, whereas OH doesn't particularly enjoy working, so as long as we can afford only one of us working, then it makes more sense for him to be at home anyway.
I'd only be a carer as a 'stop gap' before I qualified as a midwife, just so we could have a decent income in the near future, instead of 5 years time- which is the least amount of time I need to qualify and go back to work!
OH is so good with Julian, gets up with him even though I breastfeed, aside from feeding, we do pretty much the same with Julian. He always changes him, gets him dressed, plays with him, I've never had to ask him to do a thing. So he'd obviously love more, and we both want a big family. I want to wait a bit before the next one because I know what we're like, we'll just keep getting broody and wanting another one, and we'll end up with 15 kids

 

[mudgekin1989]

I'm studying for an English Degree

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Seems Ive been MIA for a little while sorry!

Your kitchen sounds like its going to look gorgeous! I bet you are excited, I love having newly decorated room - just not the work that needs to be put in! Takes forever with kiddies!

How old are you?
Im 21
How old is your Oh?
He is 23 as of about 5 days ago.
How many kids do you want in total?
Always said at least 3. Would love 5 etc but its not really feasable.
Are you working? On Mat leave? A SAHM? - If you are on Matleave how long are you off for?If your a SAHM mum how long have you been? and do you think you will be a SAHM permintently or till at school etc?if you are working how are you finding being at work with a baby?*
I do occasional cover work, covering holidays, days off and illness. Jugglig the kids is fine as long as someone is free to watch them. Mostly a SAHM, i enjoy it and hope to stay doing what I am till my children are in school - i didnt have kids for someone else to raise them.
Are your baby/babies at nursery? How many days?
My daughter goes two days a week, she is 3. My son starts a two hour morning session a week in jan - he will be a couple weeks from 2.

 

[youngwife20]

Emma11511-p Your oh sounds like my Hubby! except he does the cooking too well he splits it between him and my mum lol as we dont have a cooker at the momment and our halogen oven broke! ( were redoing our kitchen u see) i go round to my mums and collect our food that shes made for the week lol shes amazing. you know id love to get a good career, but i really dont know were to start .. i know id love to be a psycologist or a coginitive behavoural theripist but i cant go to uni because i dont want the debt. and i dont think id be good at uni . and tbh i hate working too lol but i imagine id love it if i was in a job i really enjoyed, my hubby would hate to be a stay at home dad . his ideal job would be working outside building stuff as before he moved from the country to live with me he used to build walls and now he works in an office and i dont think hes really that into it but hes doing what he can to provide xx and thats cool id love to breastfeed aslong as you want to BUT lol my goal is to breastfeed till i get home from hospital first.. lol so i dont let my self feel preasured to suceed at it. aww your sounds so sweet. my hubby is the same! even when he has work in the morning if he has a a later start he will get up with her do her breakfast etc while i have a little lie in! aha ha 15! you know now im thinking about it.. i think il have a break after this baby and try to get my career on track BUT i have to stay with my current employer for a year first. as i wil be getting inhanced matpay!. and another thing though i want a career i feel like to start with i wont be getting the amount of money im getting now.. so would it be benifitial to be in ajob that i like.. but might not be as much as what im making for years ? xx

 

[youngwife20]

oh yeh im 22 NOW LOL AS OF DECEMBER tHE 18TH haha x

 

[youngwife20]

Seems Ive been MIA for a little while sorry!

Your kitchen sounds like its going to look gorgeous! I bet you are excited, I love having newly decorated room - just not the work that needs to be put in! Takes forever with kiddies!

How old are you?
Im 21
How old is your Oh?
He is 23 as of about 5 days ago.
How many kids do you want in total?
Always said at least 3. Would love 5 etc but its not really feasable.
Are you working? On Mat leave? A SAHM? - If you are on Matleave how long are you off for?If your a SAHM mum how long have you been? and do you think you will be a SAHM permintently or till at school etc?if you are working how are you finding being at work with a baby?*
I do occasional cover work, covering holidays, days off and illness. Jugglig the kids is fine as long as someone is free to watch them. Mostly a SAHM, i enjoy it and hope to stay doing what I am till my children are in school - i didnt have kids for someone else to raise them.
Are your baby/babies at nursery? How many days?
My daughter goes two days a week, she is 3. My son starts a two hour morning session a week in jan - he will be a couple weeks from 2.

" I didnt have kids for someone else to raise them"
Im going back to work in January because I have no choice. I didnt have kids for " others to raise them" either. I had kids because we wanted them and we are stable in our lives to have them but at the same time. I have to work, and i dont feel sending my baby to nursery so we can all have a better life and afford to eat is having others raise them. that was abit of an insensitive comment really. id rather not send her. i already feel guilty about it because i have no one else to watch her and she will be in nursery 4 days a week its not my ideal situation. I understand were your coming from but you saying that makes me feel like you feel mothers who work shouldnt be havin kids unless they can "raise them" but i do feel i am raising her. and my son that wil be here..

 

[pinkribbon]

Happy belated birthday!

I don't think the above poster meant any offence it was probably an offhand comment but I agree with what you've said there. We've got to let them go eventually anyway when they're 3 and go to nursery I'd like to think I'd still be raising Jake when he goes there on a daily basis!

 

[youngwife20]

Hi OPink thank you and your right she probs didnt mean anything by it but ive heard it so many times lol and im feeling abit axious about her going ahwell! and

im finding choosing a boys name inposssible!! is there any you like???

 

[pinkribbon]

Well I like Jake and Lucas obviously but I also liked Nathan, Joel and James

Tbh I find boys names easier than girls names! The night before my ELCS we were still in two minds over our girls name!!

 

[JLMC]

Hi Girls can i join in... Just found out i'm pregnant today... been trying for 11 months so we are very excited!!

i'm 22 nearly 23 been with OH for 7 and a half years.. met in school and are engaged. We are expecting our first.

Love reading your stories! Jen xxx

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Wow, ok. No i absolutely didnt mean offence. I said i HOPED to be a SAHM. BUT its all financially depending.. Yeah im gonna leave this thread. Bit offended you jumped at me like that. I have my own reasons for that being something important. Ps I DO WORK, I dont sit on my arse and worked through my daughters pregnancy.
Oh and 'someone else raising them' is my MIL as it would cost more than its worth to work full time and have my children in nursery. Dont automatically assume things and jump at people. I dont judge others who have their kids in nursery, most of the people I know DO.

 

[youngwife20]

Well I like Jake and Lucas obviously but I also liked Nathan, Joel and James

Tbh I find boys names easier than girls names! The night before my ELCS we were still in two minds over our girls name!!

I love Lucas and Joel thats very cute. may i ask why you had an elc ? how was it? ive had an emc and hated it and opted to try a vbac this time x x

 

[youngwife20]

Wow, ok. No i absolutely didnt mean offence. I said i HOPED to be a SAHM. BUT its all financially depending.. Yeah im gonna leave this thread. Bit offended you jumped at me like that. I have my own reasons for that being something important. Ps I DO WORK, I dont sit on my arse and worked through my daughters pregnancy.
Oh and 'someone else raising them' is my MIL as it would cost more than its worth to work full time and have my children in nursery. Dont automatically assume things and jump at people. I dont judge others who have their kids in nursery, most of the people I know DO.

My point was the someone else raising them comment. which seemed like you ment that those who put there kids in nursery have someone else raising there children when i feel then i will still be raising her. thats all i was saying. I was not assuming anything, i was responding to exactly what you said. Im not gonna apologise for taking what you said for what it said. I dont know you well enough to know the background of why you said it etc. If you wanna leave the thread thats fine. im over what you said. but im sure you understand when your pregnant and runn down from looking after an active lo you can be abit over sensitive..

 

[youngwife20]

Hi Girls can i join in... Just found out i'm pregnant today... been trying for 11 months so we are very excited!!

i'm 22 nearly 23 been with OH for 7 and a half years.. met in school and are engaged. We are expecting our first.

Love reading your stories! Jen xxx

wow 7 yrssssssssssssssss that is long congrats hun how far are you? n you guys must be sooo happy! congrats hun xx

 

[Linzi_x]

hi there! I am 21 and have a 5 and a half month old I'm not pregnant but I still come on here, not as often though. hope your pregnancy is going well!

 

[youngwife20]

hi linzie its going really well but i am getting exausted and as seen above lol very hormonal! more hormonal than i was with my first but i think thats down to being so over tired around xmas time - how are you getting on with ur lo xx

 

[pinkribbon]

Well I like Jake and Lucas obviously but I also liked Nathan, Joel and James

Tbh I find boys names easier than girls names! The night before my ELCS we were still in two minds over our girls name!!

I love Lucas and Joel thats very cute. may i ask why you had an elc ? how was it? ive had an emc and hated it and opted to try a vbac this time x x

I had placenta previa so had no other choice, I don't know why they call it elective as I hardly chose it but it wasn't emergency I knew 4 weeks in advance when it would happen. I hated mine too

 

[youngwife20]

how is your recovery? and c section while looking after 2 los? i know that it is a possibility il need another section so i am keeping openminded x