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  1. hoping 4 bump

    hoping 4 bump Well-Known Member

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    hi girls, many congratulations!!!

    Sorry to bother you all over here on the first-trimester section but i really could do with your help/reassurance.

    i am currently TTC and am on my 3rd Month. i just wondered how long it took all you girls and if you have any tips for me?

    Congrats again girls, hope to join you soon! xx:happydance:
     
  2. Lena

    Lena Guest

    I think I'm freakishly fertile because DH and I conceived the 1st month trying. No real tips besides the usual....no booze, no caffeine, no smoking (which i dont anyways), stay in bed about 15 mins after BD, BD every other day for the entire month and take folic acid. Good luck hun.
     
  3. Misskitty

    Misskitty Well-Known Member

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    My tip is don't concentrate all of your focus on trying to get pregnant!

    We were trying for a year, for the first few months we started off just going with the flow and seeing what happened. After a few months with no luck i started using OPKs, then a couple of months later i started charting and using a CBFM. After 1 year with no luck we were referred to a fertility specialist who didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with either of us, but wanted to give me fertility drugs anyway! At this point we decided enough was enough and that everything was just getting too stressful, so we just decided to leave it and come back to TTC in a year or so.

    I stopped charting/testing etc and we just got one with life, going out partying and enjoying ourselves, planning our wedding and honeymoon etc. And then what do you know 3 months later - Knocked up!!!

    So in total it took us (perfectly healthy couple, late 20s, no problems) 15mths (1 yr TTC and 3 mths not trying!)
     
  4. cocokittyi

    cocokittyi Well-Known Member

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    Took me 3mths, also with no drink, smoke or caffeen. I also stayed in bd after :sex: and i put my legs up in the air. i didnt take folic acid.
    Hope you get ur :bfp: soon!:thumbup:
     
  5. Laura80

    Laura80 Well-Known Member

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    Hi.

    It took me 7 months, and I was really suprised because I was expecting it to take a lot longer. Everyone is different, but I know 3 months is no time at all, so don't be worrying. Just relax and let it happen. I was stressing every month about doing it and the right time, in the right way etc, and after 6 months I said to my DH, "We'll just relax and enjoy ourselves and after Christmas we can start really being serious with charting ovulation and temps etc" And the next month I was pregnant.

    Good luck. xx
     
  6. rihanna

    rihanna Well-Known Member

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    I didnt have periods for 5months so even tho in our heads we were TTC nothing was happening cos there was no cycle and no ovulation! Had 1 period then became preg. We just BD every other day for most of the month.x Good luck
     
  7. hoping 4 bump

    hoping 4 bump Well-Known Member

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    Thanks so much girls, i am just desparate as i'm sure you all were to fall pregnant and wanted to make sure i was doing everything i could. I am on Folic Acid and am using ovulation sticks. i think this month me and my hubby will have to try doing it every other day - im sure he won't complain!!!

    thanks again girls, hope to see you all in here soon xx
     
  8. tinadecember

    tinadecember Mummy to Evie and TTC

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    took me one month the first time and this time it took us 3 months, thought it was never going to happen!

    my tip is bd as much as humanely possible and when you have (as stupid as you may look) make sure you get your legs up against something for a good 10-15 minutes after bd'ing.

    i did this the month i concieved but didnt all the other months so seems like it worked for me. i also dont smoke and very rarely drink

    good luck! x
     
  9. tiggerlix

    tiggerlix proud single mummy

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    took about 2 months..and in that time had maybe a couple of accidents.Just enjoy sex..lol
     
  10. bunnyg82

    bunnyg82 Mum to 2 gorgeous boys

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    Well I am not sure I have tips exactly but I can tell you what happened with us.

    We magically conceived in our first month trying. Some of this maybe TMI haha!! Form what I can tell it was one of 3 times that we conceived. I knew roughly when I was ovulating due to CM and stuff but no OPKS or anything as I didn't wanna be :sex: just when I got a positive OPK. So we were in the mood and basically :sex: every other day around ov. The first time was at my inlaws :blush: on their sofa! Hubby on top, just used saliva on each other ;) ha, which I know is not recommended. The second time, we didn't even have foreplay actually, I was "ready" just sucked hubby :rofl: and jumped on - me on top! The third time was pretty much the same. So basically we did it when we wanted, how we wanted and enjoyed it - relaxed and fun - exactly how I wanted to conceive.

    I was worried because both me and hubby are overweight and so I thought we would take ages to conceive. So I really believe that we are so so blessed!! My whole family seem to be very fertile and all I can say is that I guess we must have been extremely good with contraception (mainly condoms) for the past 8 years!!! Oh and I have been off the pill for over 3 years so I don't know if that helped too?

    I am not sure if any of that will help! Good luck! xx
     
  11. HappyJacky

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    :bfp:Mine's long story. 2 rounds of IVF with ex (his fertility not mine) then eventual divorce years ago etc etc Then back on pill with new man for 2 years then off again.

    Currently with BF about 7 months 'trying'.

    I'm with all the previous posts saying stop trying. It was my birthday on 2nd November , then his 40th on 13th with trip to Iceland. what will all the Halloween and Bonfire parties, totally forgot about TTC and just enjoyed each other :sex:

    Whilst in Iceland I ate blue cheese, rare steaks, smoked 3-4 a day and drank a fair bit of wine, and I' overweight...... and that's the month I got pregnant!

    So just try and chill out, which I know is really hard :shrug:

    I wish you all the best :dust: and hope you see that :bfp: really soon.

    Jx
     
  12. crossroads

    crossroads Co-creator of a boy &girl

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    Keep the soup in the bowl! ;)
     
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    NG09 Well-Known Member

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    We got pregnant on 3rd month of trying, I only came off BCP in August. 1st 2 months I hardly drank, not much caffeine etc and nothing. 3rd month, had a few drinks, acted like normal and voila... I'm pregnant. I used opk's the 3rd month just to make sure I was actually ov'ing.

    Good luck x
     
  14. ProudMum

    ProudMum Well-Known Member

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    5 months with my first son and this one took me forever... about a year, but i was only bd-ing once a month and that wasnt always a finished task, if you get my drift.
     
  15. gina8177

    gina8177 Married with 1 baby boy

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    We took 6 months... the month we got pregnant was the month that we decided not to stress out and just go with the flow. I still took my prenatels and folic though.

    It was funny because we got preggers the month we were relaxed and the only month I wasn't regular. Ends up I ovulated two weeks late. :)

    Best of luck!
     
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    sunshine114 Well-Known Member

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    Definately with the legs in the air theory. It took us 2 months, and I am convinced this is what made the difference!
     
  17. rihanna

    rihanna Well-Known Member

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    lol at bunny g82!
     
  18. It took me about 7 months being devoted to trying to get pregnant! & stressing about it.
    & took me 1 month after that to concieve again. :)
    It did end in mc, but i very quickly got pregnant again after, and here i am, 11 weeks with a perfect little baby! xx
     
  19. wannabemamma

    wannabemamma Well-Known Member

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    Hmmm, about 6 months for us. We're both healthy, I'm late 20-ies and he's mid-30ies. I cut down on drinking and stopped smoking. Started taking folic acid, but started forgetting after a while. I also had a few heavy nights in the month we conceived as I didn't think we would.

    I used a CBFM for the last 2 months to understand what my cycle was doing, I had been on the Pill for about 10 yrs so I wanted to see what was going on. We still BDd every other day, just upped the anti around OV time!
     
  20. bunnyg82

    bunnyg82 Mum to 2 gorgeous boys

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    :blush: hahaha! I do tend to share a lot!!!!

    I would disagree with the whole soup in the bowl - legs in the air thing, but that's cos we didn't bother with any of that - basically all the things I have read in ttc before - legs in air, certain positions, etc etc, use pre-seed or natural lube, we did none of that, just enough :sex: and lots of fun :) xx
     

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