Any chance my baby is ok?

[berniebiron87]

I know this post is very similar to other messages but I'm going out of my mind.

A few days ago I had an early scan because I had a bit of spotting for two days. Not much at all, but the Early Pregnancy Unit wanted to scan me just to check.

They couldn't see anything on the external scan so had to do an internal. It was an agonising silence, the consultant and ultrasound tech didn't say a word. He turned off the screen and told me -

I should have been about 9 weeks pregnant but the scan showed I was only about 6 week, baby measuring 4mm but with no heartbeat detected.

I'm scheduled to have another scan in two weeks. They have called it "uncertain viability pregnancy".

I had a positive pregnancy test on the 11th December but according the scan I would only have been about 1 week pregnant the dates just don't add up. I was also on the pill so the pregnancy was a complete surprise, a wonderful surprise. But the dates of the scan just don't add up.

The hospital have told me there is every chance baby is ok, but I'm scared to hold onto that hope only be to be told baby has died.

It's only been 2 days and I'm already struggling. I've not had anymore spotting but I am slightly crampy. I'm convinced I'm going to have a miscarriage.

I just don't know what I'm going to do with myself.

Thanks in advance xx

 

[LoveMyBaby786]

Didnt want to r&r I have no experience of this but am praying everything turns out good for you hun xx

 

[Jcliff]

Tbh, I would prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Sometimes baby just doesn't develop properly. I know it's hard but it will pass. It happened to me twice before conceiving my daughter. I can't imagine my life without her. And I may not have her if the other mc didn't happen!

 

[dan-o]

If you tested positive on the 11th then you are probably a day or two ahead of me, so should have measured 7-8 weeks, if the scan was a few days ago.
It can definitely be a few days out on the scan (both my boys measured 3 day behind my dates, which were 100% certain) and when it's very small in there, the hb can be missed.
That said, I would have thought that the hb would have been visible by now really though wish I could give you more hope.

Sometimes things are missed and scans can be wrong, its unusual though.

You poor thing being in limbo, been there myself before, wouldn't wish it on anyone

Sending

 

[Unexpected212]

I hope everything is ok but I too would prepare for the worst

With my son I thought I was 8 weeks but was measuring 5-6 weeks. However there was a heartbeat visible.

With this baby there was a heartbeat at 5 weeks 6 days.

I think by 6 weeks really there should be a heartbeat but I'm not an expert

I've got every crossed for you hun, hoping your little bean will be ok xx

 

[annaaabanana]

oh no ill be praying for you and you're little one

 

[berniebiron87]

Thank you for tour replys. I am definitely expecting the worst, just can't help it.

When I had the scan I was estimated to be 9+3 weeks. I was on the pill so the date I started my packet was used. Baby was measuring 5+5 weeks @ 4mm. Defo a baby but no heartbeat detected.

Me ans my husband are seperated (he'd been having an affair) but in the November I gave him a chance to change but (I've found out since he was still seeing the other woman grrr) so we only dtd a few time and I know the dates.
I did a test because I wasn't feeling too good, and it was a complete surprise. We have a 19 month old son together so even tho we are not together anymore he is stocking by me. (Much to the distaste of the other woman)

I want this baby so much; I'm just scared

 

[pandi77]

Although there have been exceptions for the most part this is not the norm and I am sorry you are going through this. By your dates you should be around 9 weeks if you count back 10 days from your + test (avg minimum for test to show) to your ovulation date then add 2 weeks to that. The math really doesn't allow for anything less than 8-9 weeks

 

[berniebiron87]

Although there have been exceptions for the most part this is not the norm and I am sorry you are going through this. By your dates you should be around 9 weeks if you count back 10 days from your + test (avg minimum for test to show) to your ovulation date then add 2 weeks to that. The math really doesn't allow for anything less than 8-9 weeks

I was thinking the dates didn't add up. Both the MW and the specialist nurse told me there is still hope. I wanted to punch them tbh. I just think it's false hope argh sorry to sound so cold and negative. I want this baby so much but I can't help but face the facts. I'd prefer to be told the truth rather than have it sugar coated.

Thank you all for the replys tho feels great to get it all off my chest

 

[_jellybean_]

I'm sorry hon. I agree with pp. I'd expect the worst, but still hope that all is well. I'm not really sure though. I do think in most cases that baby shouldn't measure that far off but maybe I'm wrong, since your doctors seem to think everything could be fine. I hope it is! xx

 

[pootle33]

Hi

I hope you get some good news. I got my BFP the day after you and conceived 29th/30th November and baby was measuring 1.7cm (17mm) on 11th January so I hate to agree with some of the others but if you got your BFP on the 11th we should be roughly the same. Sorry.